/lounge/ - sushi social

>>6336
sushi roll doesn't have to go post-op and isn't a young child. Dysphoria frequently comes with a host of other mental illnesses, which explains the big suicide/depression rates, but trying to improve their situation won't mean an increase in those rates.

>>6183
Well… None of my wishes have come true yet. I did however make a friend that I care a lot about. We understand each really well and have similar personalities. If he wasn't a boy too, I think I'd say I love him >.<

>>6339
It sucks that a girl like this would be that much harder to find.
Not only do opposite sexes have the tendency to see and think differently,
but also sexual attraction clouds reality, making both parties not act themselves.
I think any sort of true love would only be possible if both parties had first overcome their own sex clouded perceptions of reality.

I wish people cared about other people as much as they care about climate change and the environment.

>>6341
Why should I care about most other people? Genuine question, I struggle to care about most of the people in my life beyond friends and family and stuff.

Penis ;)

In descending order of magnitude:
>face
>arms
>ass
>chest

I also love it when a man has big, tough, calloused hands but it's hard to discover that without actually getting to feel them.

Of course, none of these things matter if the guy literally smells like shit, which is far too common in my area.

Ass without a doubt.

Face and body type.

>>6322
Adults have responsibility and commitments. Free time is valuable and you need to keep control of it or you waste it doing nothing. Just because an activity has been done before doesn't make it boring. As we get older we find our interests and dedicate ourselves to mastering them.

Also people fuck around all the time, often by fucking with each other or doing dumb shit. It's just a different type of dumb shit. You should see some of the drawings on peoples toolboxes where I work. It's like a /b/ drawthread.
Soubds like you're just stuck in thepast to me.

>>6324
Got any pics of those drawings? I'm kinda curious

>>6322
I sympathise, sushi roll. I think this quotation gets at something similar to your problem:
>We're in such a hurry most of the time we never get much chance to talk. The result is a kind of endless day-to-day shallowness, a monotony that leaves a person wondering years later where all the time went and sorry that it's all gone.
- Robert M. Pirsig

Everyone loads themselves with responsibilities - in the form of a career, a family or even a political affiliation they feel the need to defend - and when they're not taking care of these things, they relax by talking and complaining about them with other people.

One cannot avoid responsibilities. But that doesn't mean we have to be trapped in the cycle of ever dwindling free time and ever more boring conversations with which we fill our free time. I think intellectual conversation is a good antidote to the humdrum discussions we usually have. I care much less about how someone's day went than what they think the purpose of their life is and why - the latter is actually interesting and a way to discover things about a person which would remain hidden otherwise.

>>6322
Honestly I'm more afraid that I've become the boring one in these relationships. Most of my friends are doing stuff, developing their adult lifes (house, partner, that stuff), going on holidays or event and what not. On the other hand, I go to work, and go back home again. I don't do anything worth talking about and as a result I have nothing to talk about.

Everytime I hang out with friends, even the ones I've known for years (hell, even with family) I get nervous about whether it will become awkward because I can't hold a conversation. I'm becoming worse and worse at this, like I'm losing the ability to express or even hold an opinion on anything.

Sorry for not being comfy guys

>>6330
I've felt like this for the past 2 years until i locked my course to put my head in place. I can tell you there can be a way out, i guess. When i got somewhat over the social fobia barrier, the talks with anyone started to flow again.

I was always a hopeless romantic.
I had three crushes, none worked, all taught me something I wish I hadn't known.
I grew up with only two friends, we were the ones misunderstood by all the other but understood by ourselves. One of them confessed to me. I liked her, but I realized, that I was too young to really love someone. So I said give me two years and I will be mature enough. I would actually love her two years later, but in that time depression and suicidal thought plagued the three of us. my other friend became a drug addict, distance followed. I only had her left. I woke up every morning hating my self wanting to kill myself only to go to school and try to stop her from hurting herself. I remember how strangely proud she was when she found a place to cut herself where her mother wouldn't see it. I loved her, but she was over me. I became nearly schizophrenic, i couldnt help her any longer, even though I loved her I went away. a year later, my health had gotten at least a little bit better, I wanted to meet her. but she died. everybody thought it was an accident, but I didn't, it was exactly the manner of death she wrote to me in a letter, two years ago. it has been 4 years since then. Sometimes I still remember how we baked cookies together, with her then still innocent smile. how we talked as little children what kind of dogs we would have together when growing up. how she stuttered trying to confess me, only to turn around with a red face stressfully searching for a letter. looking at me with those deer eyes when I opened them. I am kinda over now. but since then I believe that it is better not to depend upon people, I don't want to hurt anybody nor do I want to be hurt. I also learned that I will never again betray a friend, I see me leaving only because of my mental health as a betrayal.
even though my life has become more normal, from time to time it still returns, it has damaged my capability to interact with women pretty strongly, combined with the fact that I see sex in no good light, and I am lost in this modern dating world.

>>6300
>If I were merely a friend, we could have all the same valuable moments without the anxiety of losing our love for each other. (Sexual stuff aside, of course, but that has little value now that it's no longer new and exciting.)

I know what you mean, but I've also heard people say that hetero men and women can't have normal friendships. Not sure if it is the same with other relationships. In my own experience, there were too many difficult feelings of jealousy and betrayal when trying to remain friendly with my ex, and I was also a bit paranoid that they were getting too intimate with other people. Not that I would have had any right to complain, but it was a difficult situation to find oneself in.

>>6326 If they say that, what they mean is "I can only imagine interacting with a man/woman in terms of sex". Because what else is the fundamental difference between a friendship and romance? Sure, often friendships are more casual/distant, but not always. Maybe that's true for them, but that's no ground to assume for everybody. It being that way for an ex seems different to me though, since you have history and associations with them.

I keep dreaming about cheating on my partner and it's freaking me out, because I was just starting to feel confident that I wouldn't do something like that. For some reason I felt like it was ok, because it was purely physical, but that wouldn't make it OK in real life.

I hope this isn't something pathological. Imagine realising years too late that it wasn't going to work.

In my opinion, relationships are a skill to learn just like learning a new instrument. Guess this one may take a lifetime to learn, without the right studying. Its not as simple as getting yourself out there or even marrying the love of your life, i mean even there there's so much to do so you two work out and not always the person is willing, so its such a careful work of choosing and knowing yourself and the person. I had quite a problematic teenhood on this with some complicated girls, but i guess i did create at least half of the problems with them. I can only recommend to learn about and train relationships always.

>>6306

Here is an example of something that is dead simple and people would probably pay for, but it was released for free.

http://notational.net/

I'm sure that you could come up with something like this. I'm sure that large companies would not attempt to create something like this because its scale is too small and it's not even in their world view of opportunities.

Here is another example of something that is dead simple, people HAVE payed a lot for, and it was created by a single developer (a Tokyo developer who quit because he hated the サラリーマン life).

https://inkdrop.app/

If you read any literature about startups or entrepreneurship, you will find that being independent simply means solving a problem that is too small, too obscure, or too new (or old) for existing companies to solve. You can even release an application with EXACTLY THE SAME FEATURES as an existing application and sell it by putting your own looks or philosophy into it.

However, being an independent software developer usually means doing things other than coding. Maybe you make some designs for the application or the website. Maybe you learn a little bit about content marketing and how to write a good blog post. Maybe you send some messages to writers who are looking to feature software like yours.
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>>6307
I don't argue that there aren't such cases, my point is that it's very luck based and it's basically a lottery. You might as well start streaming on Twitch because it's the same kind of lottery where if you make it, you make it.
You listed a few projects and I can add a dozen more on top of them, but statistically those are probably <0.1% of all _finished_ startups led by 1-3 people.
I have worked in startup business as a senior full stack web developer, and I've met many people there who just hop from one startup job to another, because startups even if properly funded just never make it. You make a big buck as a developer there because of all the risks, plus they often offer you a share after the product has gotten popular, but it never gets popular. That's just how IT business is.
The advice to "just make something that will give you money" faces the exact same problem. It's literally the same market and in it you're also at a disadvantage, let alone the amount of competition.
Sure you can make yet another basic app or something like that, but at the end of the day it's not even the size of the project, it's just how lucky you are in getting it running. It can be your 10 year long monstrous project or it can be a 6 hour hackaton challenge project. They both have equal odds of becoming big enough to bring revenue.

This is just an unreasonable investment of time and money, is my point. If you like gambling then it's probably ok, you can keep trying to push your ideas and develop more stuff. But if you're into having a stable financial situation then it's probably not for you. I consider myself to be having the preference of the latter.

>>6308

You don't have to receive a giant windfall to be successful, and it isn't all about the money (i.e., autonomy is important to some people).

The better way to frame it is that you are expanding your scope to include opportunities beyond the traditional job market. For somebody, like me, who cannot handle the modern, agile, stack-ranked, open office, I don't think that looking into alternative opportunities is a risk. To me, ending my life in a conference room after the tenth meeting about code style is the bigger risk.

My job is alright. It's an office job doing administrative stuff for a local government.
The work itself is pretty easy, so I read or work on other stuff during work hours. The pay could be higher, but I'm not doing anything skills intensive, so I guess I would rather be paid less with less stress.

>>6312
I often fantasise about having a low-stress job, with lots of free time to indulge my hobbies. But maybe I'd actually find a more challenging career more rewarding than something that's just to pay the bills?
If they're so important to me, maybe I should make my hobbies a full-time thing. Of course, this might not be practical, but it seems rather timid of me to give up without having tried that level of commitment.

>>6288
[citation needed]

it just keep accelerating. there are ways to make it feel like it slows down, and in a way that works. the internet is very effective at doing opposite.

Once you have a full time job, weeks are flying by like nothing. Also the older you get, the more events you have in your memory to compare your immediate past.

I remember that a single year took forever, when I was a child. Now I barely notice the change of seasons as I ramble from month to month.

>>6288
video related

>the older you get, the more events you have in your memory to compare your immediate past.
Counterpoint: the older you get, the more routine your life becomes, so your sense of time has less different things to hold on to

When I was very young, a year was a lifetime. A while after that (it felt like forever) a decade was a lifetime.

I'm going to have a good cry, and then start another fresh day tomorrow

>>6263
That sounds nice

>>6262
>ogdoad
>najanaja
Naja is a cobra and the word comes from the sanskrit Naga
My almonds are reaching critical mass.
What does he know? Does Japan have secret esoteric societies? I have long suspected the Naga have some relation to the Egyptian Ogdoad and he started this website in 1999. Desire to know more intensifies. Here's a drawing I made a while ago of Kauket of the Ogdoad, the bird is supposed to be the owl Moloch, I know I suck at drawing

I got a lot of small things done, many of them are small steps toward a larger goal. Even though the incremental results are incomplete, obviously flawed, and need to be refined, I'm glad that I was able to take the first steps.

Perfectionism is a hell of a non-starter.

Today I went out to town and now I'm back home. I'm going to cook today and I'm making dumplings! I just made the dough and gotta let it sit for a couple hours before I'm bound to do the rest, so I want to take the next couple hours to do what I've been meaning to do for the last few days, which is to read some ruby books to start doing a project that want to do.
There's so much filling my days that I barely get to do anything I want to. For one thing I gotta work during the first few hours of the day, so I have about 4 hours tops in the afternoons for myself, which I use mostly for learning chinese because it's my #1 priority right now, but every day I also wish I could catch up on these ruby books so I can get started with my project but I barely get the time to do this. Then I'm taking upon reading fiction which is somewhat related to my project, so in the evening I'm starting to read a lil bit but I'm so tired by then that I fall asleep after a few pages.
So I guess I gotta take it little by little with the little time I have left to do my own stuff, which as I said, even if I can dedicate to my project, I gotta read a few books before I can actually start doing anything with any confidence. I can get started after a few pages with this first book which is supposed to teach me the language (I'm super rusty with any programming whatsoever, plus, I want to do this right rather than doing a bunch of guesswork and having to google how to fetch methods from classes almost every time).
Anyway, at least I have a project in mind, even if it's going to take me a while, at least I have some leisure to proceed…

Tonight I am partaking in some Naturdays. Im in college and they're cheap, plus I like the taste so I cant really complain.

>>6267
I'm in awe of the skill to portray water with cell shading.

>>6266
Try some tapioca balls instead.

A few nights ago I had V8 Juice with vodka with a friend of mine. It was delicious and I highly recommend it.

>>6283
that's basically just a bloody mary but yeah it does taste good

>>5638
That looks incredibly comfy NGL. I'm in Atlanta, Georgia and i'm begging for rain to come and take the heat away.

>>5669
Fuck it's hot.

>>5672 I'm there i feel like the heat is much better than usual this year. Those pictures are comfy as hell though

Anyway my day's been pretty good, I've decided to try online dating so while I haven't had any success yet I'm feeling good about trying. Also a Sunday without too much to do is always nice

>>5673
Yep. And I got no air conditioner at home

Im doing really well actually. I've started seeing a girl recently and she makes me very happy. My studies are going well, I thought this year at university would be rough but I couldn't be more wrong.