/lounge/ - sushi social

>>4214
I still don't understand this. Am I just ignorant of some genius prose?

Am I getting dumber, stupified, idioted, having my IQ lowered, losing sentience by the posting, the lost neurons, the dumbing me down, destroyed intellect, and Internet?

>>4253
Ye

>>4253
You have been fooled,pranked,bested,clowned,defeated,humilliated,shame,jokes,comedy,lost,dumbed,exposed and upset by geniuses,clowns,intelligence,rock stars,artisans,savants,comedians,kings,holy men,minstrels and celing fans.

me too, sushi
the last time i watched it i was too young and dumb to understand any of it. gonna rewatch it soon though

>>4168
That fan looks cool.

Further details:

They asked me some random questions and kind of put me on the spot, which made me feel awkward. They like to shout indoors, not in an aggressive way, but they were very energetic and loud among one another. But I don't like shouting because of my abusive family that never got along with one another.

They asked if I don't swear for religious reasons even though I've literally never heard of that idea before, I just don't swear or talk much around people I don't know. Then they asked if I'm Catholic, and I said no. Didn't feel like explaining that my entire family is atheist and I'm thinking of joining a church but I don't know which one to join. Then they said maybe I'm buddhist, which was weird. I said nothing to indicate that I'm buddhist. Religion doesn't seem like a good topic to bring up as soon as you meet someone.

I could tell they were trying to get to know me because they asked me questions about myself, but I didn't really feel like opening up that quickly. I tried to engage people in conversation about themselves and their interests and stuff too, though I wasn't really good at it. They asked about movies and sports and other boring stuff which I can't relate to. I didn't feel like explaining how I spend my time programming and learning about reverse engineering, malware analysis, and information security.

They also just talked about a bunch of other random things.

They had two friendly dogs that I had fun petting. At least the dogs didn't ask me weird questions.

I wasn't used to this kind of family dynamic, where people were getting along and being talkative and stuff.

I also got the impression that they were used to everyone being really outgoing, and maybe I made people feel awkward by being quiet and not really knowing what to say. They said I'm introverted and quiet and my friend joked about me being a "silent killer" or something.
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>>4611

I've been in that situation before. It sounds like you are younger than me and haven't gotten out of that aloof, quiet-because-too-smart attitude. The "silent killer" and "reverse engineering, malware analysis, and information security" gives it away. Or maybe I'm projecting.

Since then, I've changed to be less awkward, but I occasionally drop immoral or taboo subjects on accident. If you take the time to pay attention, you can see everybody tense up when you say something bad. I'm still trying to figure out how to come back from those.

For example, I went to Thanksgiving dinner and talked about how a waiter charged me less money for something on the menu a few days ago. I thought I was lucky. Everybody around me thought it was immoral to accept a lower fee when obviously the waiter made a mistake.

As for the religion thing, I never answer those. I plainly refuse to answer them with "I don't really want to talk about my religious beliefs." and switch the topic immediately.

Another killer trick that I've had used on me is "Why do you think that?" Whenever somebody hits you with a "Are you X?" or "You're such a Y," just ask "Why do you think that?" Act like you care what they're saying and repeat their answers back to them.

>>4612
>Another killer trick that I've had used on me is "Why do you think that?" Whenever somebody hits you with a "Are you X?" or "You're such a Y," just ask "Why do you think that?" Act like you care what they're saying and repeat their answers back to them.
Sounds good. Something simple I do is say "what about you?" after answering a question about myself because I don't want the conversation to be all about me, but when you meet a new person they might ask a lot of questions about you.

>>4611
actually, it was alright, better than a normal day. feels good man

>>4611
>They asked if I don't swear for religious reasons even though I've literally never heard of that idea before
I've met people that do that, it's funny when they really want to curse but feel they can't.

>I said nothing to indicate that I'm buddhist.
They probably didn't think you were buddhist either, just said something awkward trying to keep the conversation going.

>how I spend my time programming and learning about reverse engineering, malware analysis, and information security.
Would reverse engeneering be a good topic for conversations?
A lot of different professions, hobbies, activities deal with it so i expect it to be more paupable than the other 3 options as they need a lot more specific explanation and myth deconstruction.

>But anyway, how was YOUR thanksgiving?
We don't have thanks giving here so i spent it studying.

im suprised this thread hasnt gotten more replies
anyway im more of a jpop guy but someone i used to talk to and look up to got me into clazziquai project (although they may not be considered pop)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yxq_QCqPXX8

>>4531
oh god i didnt embed it properly
do i put the whole embed thing in or just the share url. sorry

>>4532
You click on Embed and put the link there.

I only like IU.

I don't listen to very much but I like this one album by Apink specifically.

>>3831
>>3855
These two songs are some of my favourites too.

I'm in a similar situation. Anxiety is affecting my success in college and work. I know it doesn't make your situation any better, but just know that you're not alone with this kind of stuff.

All I know is the less I go out, the more anxious I get. When I used to have more of a social life, socialization was easier for me. The less you do it, the less familiar it is, and the harder it gets. It's like working out: you get bigger muscles when you lift more often. But if you take a long break where you don't go to the gym at all, you get in worse shape again. It's like that, but for mental health too.

I am currently looking into some sliding scale and medicaid places. There are free or sliding scale clinics that can help people who don't have a lot of money. Of course, your mileage may vary.

But don't give up. Try different methods of help, try to find supportive groups, try to reach out to resources that might be able to help you. Google local places related to counseling, mental health, sliding scale, medicaid, job help, etc. There are resources out there.

>>4503
>All I know is the less I go out, the more anxious I get. When I used to have more of a social life, socialization was easier for me. The less you do it, the less familiar it is, and the harder it gets. It's like working out: you get bigger muscles when you lift more often. But if you take a long break where you don't go to the gym at all, you get in worse shape again. It's like that, but for mental health too.
This resonates with me. If I feel someone's presence is augmenting my social anxiety I just start a conversation with any excuse. If I'm in a class I take my time and talk with everyone. I don't even care, I do it so my anxiety level is lower.
>I am currently looking into some sliding scale and medicaid places.
I'll see If I have something like that in my country.
Don't support groups just turn into an echo chamber of misery ?

Pomodoro Technique
Time Blocking
Day Journaling
Habit Tracking
Feynman Technique
Subject Interleaving
Regular Exercise
Mind-enhancing Drugs
Rubber Ducking
Pre-mortems
Taking a break

>>4571
>Pomodoro Technique
>Regular Exercise
>Rubber Ducking
These have all made me a lot more productive with relatively little effort. Getting a proper 8 hours of sleep every night also helps a lot.

For creative work, I've found that going to art exhibitions, reading magical realist fiction, and keeping a dream journal all help me think more laterally and less linearly.

Caffeine is a big trade-off in my experience: it makes me more productive when doing menial work, but makes me a lot less creative.

>>4594

I've found that you typically have creative work that creates menial work. First, you create the plan. Then, you do the work to finish the plan. Figuring out when you are good at each helps you remove stress by avoiding feeling guilty that you aren't doing creativity well when you should be focusing on menial work and vice versa.

I have also seen that creative work motivates menial work. Too much menial work makes you feel sad and like you have lost track of why you are doing it in the first place. Doing too much creative work upfront might cause you to get stuck at 90% until you can find a way to be creative again.

Of course, when you get stuck in a negative thought spiral, all work suffers. Creative work helps you feel your way out of it in my experience.