Going to echo what >>10590
is saying a bit.
This is apart of what makes a close friend, close. There aren't many people you will cross paths with throughout your life that will inevitably fall in this category because it takes a lot of time and falling flat on your face to find the right people you click with that you can build a relationship with to that point. The ancient philosophers ruminated about friendship extensively and had it figured out to a degree. That the quality of a friendship is more important 100 times out of 100 than the quantity of friends that you might have; as such it is virtually impossible to get to know more than a handful of people at any given time in this close intimate level. This notion seems lost on modern sensibilities.
When I am experiencing hardship, depression, anxiety, insecurities, etc. I talk to my friends about it just as willingly and openly as I talk to them about anything positive. I would gladly listen to and help them in any way if they came to me with the same predicaments. I don't think that, 'I am contractually obligated to help them because I expect them to help me' or anything like that. I would because I want to… because here is another human being who I deeply care about and I want to see them thrive. To me this kind of connection is more beneficial than say, paying to see a psychologist to seek out help. You do not have that deep emotional link with them and seeing them 1-2 hours every week to talk specifically about your head space alone isn't going to develop a connection with that person in any meaningful and intimate way. It is not only the other person you are helping when you help them, you are also helping yourself. It's that amazingly good and warm feeling we get when extend a hand of compassion and kindness, for ourselves, and for others, especially those we care deeply about. I think this feeling is intrinsic to what it means to experience life as a human and has no definitions of virtue or moral righteousness. I can't think of describing it as anything other than the raw emotion of love, not directed any one direction, but radiating without from within.
You are not a burden, selfish, or shallow. I'm not saying this because I'm trying to make you feel better. I'm saying Post too long. Click here to view the full text.