>>20177I used to have the same issue sushi roll, and I didn't even realize how much I was neglecting my own feelings. Watching Dr K's videos helped me immensely with my problem. The video I linked is about Alexithymia, which is a condition with symptoms akin to what you're describing.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8pQBdZ3RdfADr K is a licenced psychiatrist in the US, who used to be addicted to video games, so now he helps gamers and adjacent people in his work life. He talks about feelings on his youtube channel and he interviews various guests (sushi rollymous followers of the channel, e-celebs, mental health experts, etc.).
He also used to study to be a hindu monk, so sometimes he veers into teritory more related to hindu religion and philosophy rather than science. Feel free to discard any advice you don't like, and only apply the advice that's helpful for you.
The video I linked you is just the tip of the iceberg, the real meat (? not sure if thats the correct expression but ykwim) is in the older guest interviews, where he talks to people about their feelings on stream, and goes into the nitty gritty on why and how the guests feel the way they feel. He's great at validating his guests' feelings, and watching Dr K validate other people's feelings made it easier for me to accept and validate my own feelings, especially if the guest had expierences similiar to mine.
He's great at validating his guests' feelings, so just try to copy his approach.
Watching multiple interviews over multiple months made me so much more in touch with my feelings, and made me understand other people's emotions so much better. Processing some of the feelings was painful at times, and involved crying, but that release helped me get the negative, pent up emotions out of my system. I feel so much lighter now, and so much more in touch with myself.
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