/lounge/ - sushi social

>>21362
>tanachan.org
cool site, i just wish i didn't have to post 50 times to make a thread

Over the last year, some of my relatives started using twitter. Now it’s impossible to talk to them at family meals. All they talk about is race hate, satanic conspiracies, and Jews. They are stupidly easy to dupe with AI content and you can’t convince them it’s fake. They used to be nice to talk to until they stated using twitter.

>>21531
same but dad with facebook. i consider him alzheimer'd

I slept 9 hours today but I still feel sleepy and tired throughout the day. I've had enough water. I feel so lazy.

>>21533
Get a regular sleep schedule. It helps.

>>17067
wtf, why is this so good?

Cutie Honey opening (1973)

Everything about this video is beautiful.

My opinions on this are very political. Wanting to keep it cozy, I'll tread lightly. I think it's precisely that we are so deeply moralistic, but that our morals are often so flawed on fundamental levels, that has caused the problem first and foremost. That is the root of the problem. Communications technology is a catalyst, something that hastens this development, as it dehumanizes others by creating less-real feeling modes of communication. That is, communications technologies do play a role, but they are not the only or principal cause of the issue. The worst catalyst at play is a rather contentious issue, so it's perhaps not discussed here.

>there is no real external or internal demand to intervene
what lack of demand do you see? I argue that the cruelty with tech comes not from what happens beyond the screen, where your real identity and family lies. but rather behind the screen where people hide and have no incentive to be kind. But even then, I argue that tech didn't make us cruel as it gave us an avenue to show the cruelty we already had.

The concepts we live by don’t enrich our lives or give us sustenance. In a liberal market economy, we are expected to be responsible individuals and take care of ourselves. Therefore, any act of generosity towards another is purely voluntary and there is no compulsion to do it. Since there is no compulsion, few people bother doing it.

>>21455
When you do a kind deed you can see it register with the other person. You can see them smile, the warmth on their face, their thanks. The screen eliminates this exchange. It places us in a huge sushi rollymous crowd where we have even less incentive to be kind to others. This allows our crueler side to grow unchecked and because hey it’s just pixels on a screen and you can just turn it off. It’s the same reason dating apps have increased hook ups and porn consumption by making sex inconsequential.

The problem of online life is that its not like real life but is slowly colonizing the meatspace. Since most of our value systems involve social interaction how can we have any morality in a world that's less and less social?

>>21455
i think it's a combination of detachment where the other person in the screen becomes content to us like a character and so we can forget they're people like us with complex lives and feelings, and learned behaviour where algorithms and the detachment encourage cruelty as a form of entertainment. It's not that anyone is cruel by nature, but rather that memetics of cruelty infect us.

The NPC meme, tearing others down to hide our own insecurities, the dehumanization of the other. I think perfect blue and serial experiments lain are both connected to this? There may also be a bigger issue of fragmenting reality, simulacra, and a reducing intersubjectivity. Though I don't know these concepts well enough to talk on them, and i believe a lot of this is a consequence of memetics of cruelty that are activating in the current political climate.

>>21450
>>21466
unfortunately in the current system many people are conditioned to adopt a transactional worldview, a worldview of "worthy" and "unworthy" people that justifies cruelty.
Kindness must be motivated by internal loci. kindness is intrinsically worthwhile because of things like sonder. it can be motivated by a sense of obligation from empathy. when you see yourself in another person you hate to see them suffer, and people often come to eachother's aide in times of trouble. you see this extend beyond people, like how often people adopt pets. I'm remainded of "echoes" by pink floyd, one of my favourite songs. "I am you, and what I see is me".

>>21540
i get bothered by angst like this sometimes, so i hope you'll have a great day because i'd want others to wish me one too :)

Keep reminding yourself that your value is intrinsic, don't believe the lie that you're "inferior" to anyone. It's okay to feel bad, just don't let it control you. You're the master of your own destiny.

you'll need to experiment and find things that help you relax. simple joys and self-growth both seem effective. simple joys like laying in the sunlight, going for regular walks, walking in nature and listening to bird songs, drinking tea, cloud-watching, playing in the dirt/sand like a kid, stuff like that. self-growth like physical exercise (relieves physical and emotional stress), gardening, and other hobbies that help you get into a flow, relax, and feel good about yourself.

i find that ultimately a lot of relaxing is about doing something simple and/or fun that takes your mind off of thoughts that trouble you. acts to enjoy being alive like just laying on the ground and feeling your lungs grow and shrink as they breathe filling with air.

That pic is cool btw. Where's it from?

I cooked soup after a long time.
It was naiiiiiiiiisu~~~

Been too lazy to cook recently, but today I made a grilled cheese sandwich. It was so good that I made a second one immediately after. Good lazy day food.

Tacos?

Eat your greens

Got a steak sandwich today; it was really nice.

White to play
L D'Costa vs M Cervinka
https://www.chessgames.com/perl/chessgame?gid=1173309&m=32

White to play
L D'Costa vs M Cervinka
https://www.chessgames.com/perl/chessgame?gid=1173309&m=32

Black to play
T Wippermann vs L D'Costa
https://www.chessgames.com/perl/chessgame?gid=1335225&m=33.5

White to play
P Chilingirova vs H Bade
https://www.chessgames.com/perl/chessgame?gid=2795952&m=30

White to play
Suba vs P Stefanov
https://www.chessgames.com/perl/chessgame?gid=1133543&m=19

>>21507
I am a yankee, so it may or may not help.

I was working as an unqualified person wiwith no degree. My official title was direct support professional. If you search that title on job boards you'll see how bad the pay is. Social work and DSP work pay pretty poorly, but other roles lay okay. But those roles are licked behind degrees. Direct support professional work is for those that truely care, the desperate, and the student. You can work overnights and get paid to stay awake with certain clients. There's even asleep DSP roles! The pay is bad, but the work is meaningful. For the 2nd year in industry I did awake overnights where I did tech skills grind to get out. It's an excellent role on your resume if you want to pursue this industry, just make sure to ask lots of questions about the clients you'll be looking after! It'll make or break the job.

>>21500
I started work young, at 14. I never did straight up retail but my experience in fast food and carnival food taught me how to deal with the public. It was very good for me at that time in my life. I was (am) deeply introverted and socially anxious. It game me the skills to survive the public and coworkers. If you can handle your manager smoking H at work you can handle an annoying boss later in your career :)

Work is just fear. Pure fear.

>>21507
Haven't worked in mental healthcare and don't know what kind of role or place you're thinking about, but wanted to add some perspective and tidbits as someone who spent a month in a psych ward.

You could really tell that some folk actually wanted to help, and some just saw you as a problem. People in there can be very fragile and you need a fair bit of patience. I was having trouble taking the meds early on. One of the staff tried to solve it by being menacing, another told me I could have another chance to take them only if I went to a different room for no other reason I can think of than to learn to obey, training me like a dog.

Also quite important to speak very plainly when interacting with people in an episode. Lots of small things said by staff that wouldn't have been bad for my condition if only they spoke plainly rather than by implications.

>>21434
I've only ever had one job and was fired after a couple months. I've been too afraid to find work ever again or even go outside. Fear of failure hangs over me like the sword of damocles.

All the time. Mostly because of myself.

At any time, I'm scared I will lose my job, and be without the income I'm used to having.

>>21479
Absolutely this. Some of the best readers I've known were mostly self-taught, and I'm self-taught as well. There are some people who get some kind of mentoring along the process, but by and large this isn't the kind of thing where apprenticeship is common. And I'd be skeptical of anybody who takes drugs like DMT and do divination because they tend to have very off-the-wall interpretations in my experience.

Anyhow, I'm good to do readings for anybody who wants them as well. Ask whatever questions you like.

I'd like a reading. I'm a few years into a career, and it isn't leading to a life I want, but means I will never be poor and will remain comfortable. As I've grown older I've tried to become a more well rounded person, as a result I've been pursuing art, which I never did as a teenager. This has resulted in longing to leave my current life behind and pursue something more satisfying. This will lead to an impoverished life and discomfort.

My question for you, taromancer-sama, is what will result if I leave my current life behind to pursue a more unconventional life?

Numbers: 7, 26, 41

>>21490
Situation - Eight of cups (Reverse)
Action - Seven of Pentacles
Outcome - Queen of Wands (Reverse)

The eight of cups reverse is exactly your predicament. You're in a difficult spot; you don't like what you're doing, but the devil you know is more comfortable than the devil you don't. Too anxious to move on but too worn out to stay, you're left stagnant without a purpose or reason for being in your position. What you should do in this senseless predicament is move forward cautiously and clearly, but you should begin making some kind of moves instead of being stuck in this situation where you can't decide if you will or won't. Your current life is breeding a lot of strong emotions and you should be very aware of how those are affecting your judgement. Look for outside support when possible and try to examine things without your emotions involved. Looking at your options, it's clear that you're not living any kind of life worth living right now, so the question of whether or not to move on from your current career should really only be one of if you can enjoy or survive in your next. You should let go of your current job gradually and as it becomes materially sound to do so, and you shouldn't hesitate to change course if you find that striving to have a career in art is too unrealistic or not for you after all. Additionally, be prepared to take on extra work pursuing a new career instead of just jumping into it headfirst. This will be difficult. It will probably be tiresome at times, and specifically you should be weary of trying to be obsessively in control of things whether you ultimately decide to change careers or not. You shouldn't be afraid to let others take up some of your responsibilities or to stop taking care of others' for them.

>>12031

I'll bite. I'm curious if person M will approach me in the near future or alternatively if I should initiate contact and how it will go. # 7 12 33

>>21525
Past - Judgement
Present - Ten of Pentacles (Reverse)
Future - Six of Swords (Reverse)

In the past, there has been a good deal of conflict in your relationship with this person. The source of this conflict may have been, as the card's name implies, excessive judgement. Judgement as a card is also one that symbolizes karmic recompense. Expect to your intentions and actions to come back accordingly. This situation has led to a present feeling of instability and alienation in regards to this person. The future seems to only hold troubles down this road as well. You can expect to find more instability, stagnation, and relationship troubles.

Here's a bit of non-magical advice for you, sushi. I'm not sure what your relationship is/was with this person, but there are 2 suggestions here:
A. You shouldn't rely on other people acting for you. If you want something, such as to rekindle a relationship, you should be the one to take the first step towards that.
B. Don't be afraid to let go of things, especially if you're not good for each other. The cards seem to be suggesting this is the superior option if I am being honest.

Fitness advice? Don't skip leg day.

>>20694
>>20695
>>20696
Let me clarify. First I'm not OP just in case any of you mistakenly thought that. Next I was saying my legs look oddly fat almost but I am not sure it really is fat or flabby large muscle or fluid retention or if it's just I have long calve muscles too which would be unfortunate for me since I just like leaner looking legs. It firms up when I flex so it definitely isnt all fat. I do seemingly have underdeveloped glutes though so it makes me think maybe my legs have the muscles developed out of balance as part of it. I have a BMI in the mid range and my ribs partially show so I am not sure if i somehow have too much fat in some areas and not others or what. I tried to use compression socks and elevation to make sure it's not just fluid retention which didnt do a whole lot. So I was wondering to myself if muscles can become more lean but more toned instead of just getting stronger, firmer, or larger. Not that is only part I can work on just it is one thing that bothers me more.

>>20697
I haven't heard of the term ORP, I do not know what that stands for. I see it called 1RM I think. Reps of what though? Just in general you mean?

>>20715
Oh, sorry, i typed ORP instead of ORM and yeah, 1RM = ORM. It is a repetition of whichever exercise you're doing for that exercise, so if you can squat 100kg only once then that's your current 1RM for squatting but it doesn't mean your 1RM is 100kg for curls (unless you have insane bicep and forearm strength).

As for your legs, seems complicated but you won't know until you experiment, you can work out without trying hard to tone the muscle, you can do a lot of cardio and diet to lose fat and see what happens, you can do calisthenics since it sucks for legs.

Do resistance training ie. lift weights

I've cut out a meal and do some daily exercise but haven't found a gym yet. Still I seem more bloated and fatter than ever. I'm clearly doing something wrong. Thinking of joining a sports club so I have someone to show me what to do.