/lounge/ - sushi social

>>18380
>but boys always say my nervousness is a turn off for them.
really?? That's odd. Usually it's the reverse!

Jokes aside, You sound like you have enough confidence to recognize alot of good in you. Just gotta keep looking. :)

>all the boys i think are cute arent even close to that.
I think that barrier is limiting yourself on who you are allowing to try with. It can be a good thing, but don't be shy to try people that presents hobbies and interests that may be very different to yours.

Keep in mind you have alot of lifetime to spare for bf searching. Speaking from experience, I found my BF in a time I wasn't really looking for one. It kinda just… happened. Only shared a single interest and built on top of it together.

>>18380
Keep at it! You never know where you might meet someone. I met my bf on sushistream of all places! You'd expect a place like this to be girls only, but it turns out there are many boys, and they have [i]very[/i] lickable tummies!

I wish I knew but I have a crush on my coworker and I don't know if he's gay or not so it's hard. I could ask him, but I feel that would be a rude question.

>>18387
Is that you on the left?
I think your coworker is into you.

>>18380
You're tempting me to advice you to come meet me in X at YY:YY so that we can talk it all out while sipping coffee, wheat beer or portwein - whichever drink is of your preference. Unfortunately, it seems that neither of us has spare $2000 for the sudden trip. It probably was more simple back then, when people stayed within the same cultural field, consumed the same media, had similar worries, hopes and beliefs. Now it's much easier to become an alien among what's supposed to be your kin.

But back to the topic. It may be a good idea to ask for that on an imageboard or in a related chat, actually. After all, that's where you find NEETs and otakus, if building a relationship with one is of interest to you. I know of a couple of cases where people found their spouse on the internets, so it's not something entirely unrealistic. The problem is, a boy otaku probably won't consume the same media as you do. Will you freak out if you see something like this https://gelbooru.com/index.php?page=post&s=list&tags=ke-ta+yuri or this https://www.pinterest.com/cryoutz/my-wife-in-heaven/ or even this https://hitomi.la/search.html?hitomaru#1 among pictures bookmarked and saved? Either of these or all of it can turn out to be the guy's passion, passion that won't (entirely) die upon him meeting you. At what lengths are you willing to go to share it? Personally, I don't want to cuddle with a total alien, let alone have a half-enemy to disguise myself from in bed.

Will he enjoy what you like? If it's just cute boys, I could be willing to explore the field, for example. At least so that I could become cute enough for you. I could also get familiar with josei isekai and other shoujo-ish stuff. But if it's this https://gelbooru.com/index.php?page=post&s=list&tags=yaoi+muscular_male or this https://gelbooru.com/index.php?page=post&s=list&tags=yaoi+guro, you are, for the most part, alone with it. Alone, unless a gay guy falls in love with you. Not totally unrealistic, I know of a lesbian who turned straight for a guy with slim yet well-built body and long hair that fell down to his waist, and if this can happen, so can that. But the chances are, you know. There are more than 100 000 000 works on Pixiv, the number of humans in each sex category is more than 20 times that, and yet finding the right person is a problem.

Whoever the otaku guy is, he's still going to be better than a normal dude, probably. Or not. If the supposedly well-socialized normal people can not handle what they call creeps and crazies, chances are you won't be able to, either. Although, a guy from your local anime fest likely isn't either of the two. Maybe that's where you should start socializing IRL.

If your nervousness means becoming outright hysterical over the smallest of things, it is very damn annoying indeed. I guess, the trick could be to find a man who's as neurotic as you. And isn't violent.

Then the stuff about being NEET. Pampering a cute little girl so that she can sleep and eat cake all day is fine for a well-off man, but if he wants kids, he has to be really rich for you being NEET to not be a turn off in some form, I think. But that matters for a long-term relationship. And if the guy in question is not a NEET himself.

As for shyness, those who win are those who dare. At least, that's what crosses my mind sometimes. So, as long as the people whom you have a conversation with can not directly or indirectly destroy your life, be bold enough to ask and be frank about your wants and wishes. Although I'm not really in a position to advice that, I might know of a girl who would definitely benefit from the advice. I'm not quite sure if she was interested in me or not, I didn't (really) like her, and it all ended up with us exchanging contacts. But if she had asked me out, I would have complied, and, perhaps, my opinions and feelings would've changed if I'd gotten to know her better.

>>18393
I love you.

>>18393
>a boy otaku probably won't consume the same media as you do
I'd like to point out that a boy otaku probably wouldn't like stuff like that pinterest link either.
At the very least, I'll say that as a guy whose interests absolutely include that gelbooru link, that pinterest link made me feel nauseous.

>>18399
Now, if you were to take a closer look at the contents of the third link, you would actually puke - if you really were that sensitive, that is. I'd assume that you must have been browsing the boorus with a lot of filters to not have gotten desensitized. Or not. On Gelbooru, it has already been some years since the default filter was introduced. And Danbooru refuses to show you anything unless you have a gold account.

On Gelbooru, neither yuri (210190) nor yaoi (116121) surpass the number of pictures with the loli tag (370500). Based on that, one could try to guess how popular these are. The problem is, the statistics is not accurate, as only explicit works get labeled as loli. So pictures like this https://gelbooru.com/index.php?page=post&s=list&tags=md5%3abc85e283be94c66289bc90641abb254c are not in the equation, although they matter.

The situation is curiously different on Pixiv: #ロリ [loli] (657,706) #腐向け [yaoi] (998,506) #百合 [yuri] (398,793)

Still, the proportions have the same order of magnitude. Which, I think, means that you're about as likely to meet a lolicon otaku as you are to meet a devote yurist. Although, the tagging is not accurate on Pixiv, either. Some of the early works of Sekiya-sensei don't have the loli tag, for example. And this one https://www.pixiv.net/en/artworks/40877271 doesn't have any tags at all. Besides, the tags mentioned above have synonyms and related tags which are sometimes used instead.

>>18402
There's a pretty major difference in that everything on the boorus and pixiv are drawings. Admittedly I closed that pinterest link very quickly, but drawings aren't what I saw there.

>>18403
Well, the boorus have been silly with properly tagging stuff. Danbooru has nuked female_child tag. But left loli. How does it make sense to nuke the wholesome general purpose tag and leave the porn tag be? Weird people, they are. So, anyhow, I took a link from a photo thread on an anime imageboard instead, wondering if it would be a good idea to use it as an illustration or not.

Wouldn't seek is one thing, here I could agree, but wouldn't like is another matter. There are 2D purists, of course, who chant 3DPD at every relevant occasion, but for those who don't believe that PD is always the case, there is little difference between a well-made photo of a really pretty girl in dress and a good drawing of a pretty girl in dress. It's not like any of the girls are being whored out in the photos, after all.

I mean, there is some difference, but it's not the one that causes nausea.

>>18393
sushi roll what if we became bf and gf and we went to bookstores and coffee shops and shared cute dates a few times a week and spent the rest of our lives together being happy little weebs… :3 (pls give me ur twiitter or discord if u have it)

>is there any way i can get closer to boys without being too shy?

You could always try over and over again until you get desensitized.

>>18383

>You'd expect a place like this to be girls only, but it turns out there are many boys…

I didn't think that at all coming here, honestly. Still, I think it's better than assuming everyone here's a guy.

>>18405
My point isn't that 3D is PD, but rather the fact that there are actual children whose photos are being used in a pedophilic context. There's a big difference between loli and actual pedo shit, and the link you posted is the latter.
I dunno, maybe I'm wrong and I just have too much faith in humanity, but I'd like to think that most people who are into loli art are still against the actual exploitation of children.

>>18425
I can see your point and I think I had addressed it.

> maybe I'm wrong and I just have too much faith in humanity
Oh, don't worry. Your faith in humanity is alright. Laws and law enforcement policies are being changed, users are being banned, chat controls are being implemented, payment systems put forth their new requirements, content is being censored and cut. Perhaps, one day you'll wake up to find the news that all the disasters have finally been T4'd along with every form of their Entartete Kunst.

>>18429
It's a slippery slope. We already get hardcore CP spam on the board, so please keep that in mind, when posting photos of kids here.

>>18429
>>18430
Yeah! To outsiders, we might look like a bunch of lolicons!

>>18380
I want to know this as well.
I met my ex off of an imageboard. That's pretty much all I know how to do. Maybe you could add me on disc, and we could chat some? it's onetruejim

>>18430
Whether the slope is slippery or not, the things are definitely moving in the wrong direction. Or so it seems to me from what I've seen and heard. For example, recently, Pixiv has stopped showing certain content for users from certain countries. I've also seen the news that some other Japanese outlet now has Visa and Mastercard temporarily disabled, so less money for the artists. During the past 10 years, even more countries have issued laws against those possessing the drawings, sometimes overturning previous decisions. The means and tools to actually enforce the laws have become more sophisticated and viable as well.

Maybe in another afterlife. Maybe in another afterlife