Try not to exclude you and your own behaviors from the issue.
But to touch more on the point - "likes" on a page are just a garbage metric anyway. It's a reward you get from someone taking half a second to impulse click a button. You should be more concerned about discussion/commentation on your work rather than "oh someone decided to stop and press a button".
I used to be the same way in the sense that I judged my self-worth by online metrics. What finally made it click for me to finally realize it was an effort in futility is that realization that Facebook/Twitter/Insta are just really shitty imageboards/forums with more identifiable user accounts.
If I wouldn't value a poster's opinion from 4chan, then why would I value Gregg's (divorced, 3 kids, uneducated, angry, and talks on speakerphone in public) opinion?
You need to find your own value in your work. If that hinges on OTHER people being proud of your work then find the right people to put it in front of.