Hey OP. My friend is in the same boat as you (or at least a very similar boat). Born has a male and wants to be a female. He was going to transition, but he decided not too because of the side effects and most important to him, he wants functioning genitals and libido. He's in a shitty situation because of that where he will never achieve what he truly desires. That, coupled with chronic depression from genetics, fucks him up bad. The best I can do is being there for him.
>I'm also into men, but i don't "feel" like a gay person
His dysphoria makes it difficult for him to get into a relationship. He declares himself asexual because of that. Although he still sometimes fall for someone with a really nice personality, but ultimately can't commit to it.
She (I will start to refer to him has a she. She doesn't mind "he" but likes being called a she.) has a few ways to cope with this however. She's a person of science. While I don't think we'll ever get to this point in our lives, she likes to think that, in the future, science will be to a point where she'll be able to transfer her conscious, in one way or another, with another consenting party, or that we'll be so advanced in the medical field that we will be able to transfer her conscious into the one of an animal like a cat or bird. It's a very "dualistic" approach to the problem.
She also has other small ways to cope with this. She uses a persona online and likes going in VRchat with that persona she made. She's rational enough to not let the game take a toll on her life, but I've noticed that at often times, when she leaves that virtual world, she becomes depressed for no reason. She says it's for no reason, but idk if she's lying or haven't figured out that it might be because that she's leaving her ideal body.
Right now she has other problems then her dysphoria and I can't believe how willpowered she is. All the cards are stacked against her and she's still going thru all of it. I believe you'll find a way thru this.