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>>6336
sushi roll doesn't have to go post-op and isn't a young child. Dysphoria frequently comes with a host of other mental illnesses, which explains the big suicide/depression rates, but trying to improve their situation won't mean an increase in those rates.

>>6183
Well… None of my wishes have come true yet. I did however make a friend that I care a lot about. We understand each really well and have similar personalities. If he wasn't a boy too, I think I'd say I love him >.<

>>6339
It sucks that a girl like this would be that much harder to find.
Not only do opposite sexes have the tendency to see and think differently,
but also sexual attraction clouds reality, making both parties not act themselves.
I think any sort of true love would only be possible if both parties had first overcome their own sex clouded perceptions of reality.

I wish people cared about other people as much as they care about climate change and the environment.

>>6341
Why should I care about most other people? Genuine question, I struggle to care about most of the people in my life beyond friends and family and stuff.

Penis ;)

In descending order of magnitude:
>face
>arms
>ass
>chest

I also love it when a man has big, tough, calloused hands but it's hard to discover that without actually getting to feel them.

Of course, none of these things matter if the guy literally smells like shit, which is far too common in my area.

Ass without a doubt.

Face and body type.

>>1473
yay another Lisp OS writer! I mentioned my Lisp OS in >>257, except mine's written in C and is also a Lisp interpereter in and of itself, and on x86. I've been looking at uLisp a lot for implementation details for when there's no access to hashmaps or regular expressions (still can't be bothered to write a hashmap…). I'm eager to see how yours develops, more low level Lisp is good Lisp.

>>1348
man dc
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Noobs into imageboard

thought it over for a while as to whether or not I'd share it here but i want to know what people think.

A while back i decided I wanted to make my own collection of anime ops and eds so with a lot of help i started collecting them, and I also started building a website so i could share my collection with everyone since it would be selfish to keep it all to myself. At the time I had zero knowledge or experience but i eventually learned php to a decent extent as well as mysqli. The site has been up for about a month and a half and its still kind of shaky and theres a lot of stuff I want to change or add, but at the same time im really proud of myself for coming this far. It would be a lot of help if you guys checked it out and let me know what you think!

http://oyasumi-chyuu.fun/

>>1485
the /qa/ trove…

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>>2236
Not the poster you replied to, but you should be careful about what you take with DXM. If you're taking it as a syrup, try and get a mixture with DXM as the only active ingredient. Some come with other additives which will make you sick, or stuff like paracetamol which will mess up your liver at high doses. I'm not sure if there are other bad interactions if you're already taking medication. And you might not find DXM enjoyable if you have a weak stomach, a lot of people find the nausea too much.

I've also heard that DXM tolerance never really goes away (but maybe this is just a psychological thing), so be wary of your dosage. A rule you might like to follow is the 1-week per plateau rule. That is, take a week's break for each plateau you hit. So if you hit second plateau, wait at least two weeks before your next dose, three weeks if you hit third and so on. This is not just for the sake of tolerance, but also just for protecting your mental stability more generally, since DXM is very intense. It's also good to have someone you can trust with you when you dose for the same reason.

I personally enjoy DXM with weed, but I've heard some people say mixing is a bad idea. In general, just be cautious and check erowid.

I just quit 4chan for good, hopefully I never go back, even using browser extensions to keep blocked off. Really just an overall bad influence in my life, so I figured rather than buttheads constantly with all the depressing dodgy beliefs on there, I'd try to find alternative avenues.

Being more on topic, I've really taken to self-help books, they're not all helpful, many are hooey in fact, but some are good. I've started one called 'The Confidence Gap' which uses ACT therapy, it's really just about plodding out onto paper what you think or believe, what you stand for etc, and I've been enjoying it, I've always felt like a grifter, going to and fro aimlessly, so having to set down some standards feels very life affirming.

>>2241
I've always had a bit of a prejudice against self-help books. My mom was really into them, but she also got sucked into pyramids schemes and stuff, so to me it always seemed like a bit of a brainwashing thing for weak people. Maybe I should give them another try.

>>2241
Me too but not because I thought it was a bad influence but because it I finally admitted it to myself that it's just not the same as it used to be and it will never be the same

>>2242
I don't blame your suspicion, the way I handle it is I look up self help books for a specific topic, then I open up many lists, and I boil it down to the few that are found in every list, assuming this means they are better, and it's worked for me so far. There are other guidelines I've heard, such as looking for ones that don't claim they'll fix everything in your life, but rather very small specific things, as they're more realistic they'll probably end up being more helpful. Also, professionals like M.D.s help, but you're right to be wary, they're not all good, I'd say feel free to put one down if it seems like bullshit to you.

>>1933
kratom is not an opioid, and has a relatively low affinity for the opioid-mu receptor in comparison to even tramadol, and there's not much literature behind most of what you listed, be careful..

>>1777
I stopped drinking heavily after something like that happened. The shame is still there, but the hangover was ten times worse. Later and until last year I was still drinking a lot to cope with anxiety, but never enough to get sick from it.

Anyway, congratulations OP, that's not an easy task.

>>1748
Exercise, my guy. I didn't like it at first but it really did clear my mind. Now I love it and look forward to the gym every day for the boost. Give it a month of two or three times a week and take it at least a little seriously. I guarantee you'll feel some improvement.

>>2239
Would you recommend muscle training or just cardio?

>>620
Your ika musume figurine spawned the desire in me to pour liquids over her.

>>607
These are stunning! Do you have any more information on them? Manufacturer, where one could get them, etc.

>>704
https://www.volks.co.jp/en/
https://volksusa.com/
There you go.

>>620
i like the 80's my little pony cup

>>620
I HAV JUST FOUND OUT MY SONICO FIGURE IS A BOOTLEG

Just a tip for very comfy Lisp typing, rebind Caps to some unused key (sharpkeys on windows, I used F13) and then use that as a modifier to place parentheses on home row with autohotkey. I do;
J - (
K - )
H - #
L - '
I never really minded all the parentheses, but it's butter smooth like this.
Would really appreciate it if anybody knew how to set it up like this on Linux too, been planning to move back from windows soon.

>>1467
If you're using vim or emacs, you can remap keys based on buffer type (so if you have a .lisp open)

>>1432
updates on unnamed Lisp OS: not much. I've been very busy with other uni work, however I wrote and rewrote and rewrote my Lisp parser and printer. They work now. I still need to do some work on the env and typechecking, but a few days ago I hit the milstone of being able to put:
(+ 1 2) and getting => 3
I have to debug interrupts and then I can write a keyboard driver, and we should be on our way to a REPL. That's a good milestone 1.

As a side note I've been obsessed with the idea of Literate programming recently. I rewrote my emacs config in org mode with babel to test it out. It makes writing code a much slower process, but I think that's a good thing. Writing a codebase like it's a work of literature, describing its own inner workings in a human language seems very nice. It's a shame it never caught on.

>>1458
I've had to write matlab the last few weeks for uni coursework, and despite it feeling detached from the world of programming and having some horrible quirks, I've grown a big appreciation for Array based programming as a whole, ala APL and J. They really are beautiful languages, and despite the obvious real world difficulties of APLs unique command characters, there's an elegance to the concept.
Perhaps when you feel confident enough in CL you could try implementing a J style language in CL. It would be cool to see.

>>1467
This is a cool solution! I programmed space cadet parens/shift on my keyboard. At first I was just annoyed that accidentally tapping shift would give me parens, but now it's very natural.

>>1449
Are you some version of me I'm not aware of? For my story is similar.
I started with C but unlike you I did enjoy it a lot, had a lot of fun solving problems and getting to know how things work at a lower level. I still do, I like to learn how programs are arranged in memory, how they are loaded, and libraries linked, and how they interact with the underlying OS and the implementation of the data-structures in the core OS, and well, everything I can.
But then I started language hopping, I got lured by Lisp, but in my case I never felt much at home with it. The one that flows right for me is Forth, but ultimately I keep coming back to C, perhaps because it's a kind of standard for me. But I keep looking elsewhere, lured by the promises of Erlang's concurrency, Haskell's type system, Ruby's object system, Common Lisp's condition system and metaobject protocol… I guess my other favorite is Scheme and in particular how one can use it to implement a larger language with stuff like an object system, or a type system, as well as many other things.
But I can't seem to focus

>>1481
I've actually avoided C throughout all my language hopping, some kind of programmers superstition. Dipped my toes into ASM a couple of times, because I'm also interested in the deeper shapes of things. Just never C. To try to put it into words, I guess it's about it being the standard gateway between the lower and upper levels, and how knowing a solution to a problem will influence any solution you'd come up with yourself.
Forth is interesting, I've been reading up a bit on it on and off the last months. Seems to be a bit of a shapeshifter, hard to pin down, but what I've seen so far seems useful. Something I will have to add to my vocabulary sooner or later.

I feel you on the focus, been having some weeks with a case of trash brain myself.
Kinda see where it comes from though, have a bunch of bad habits and mental reflexes I've been aware of for years but have yet to get rid of. Go against them every now and then, get some real work done, but never long enough to overwrite them with the good habits. Fall into the old pattern when I forget I need to keep the effort up to actually change.

This manga is pretty comfy. It's a bit like Tonari no Seki-kun, but with more romance.

>>669
must've learnt from the best

the whole process feels a bit too random to get the hang of. sometimes traits i like don't even show up until the final step. other times i skip it because all the poses are off-model from what i've already decided

The weird, pseudo-Fauvist interpretations of ties, bras, bows, etc. this thing makes kinda give me a headache. They remind me of that picture of a man that was 'drawn' by Google's experimental AI.

Also I was expecting this to be more like a dress-up game tbh. Still, look how cute my new friend is!

im addicted help

My Amazon Harem

>>6322
Adults have responsibility and commitments. Free time is valuable and you need to keep control of it or you waste it doing nothing. Just because an activity has been done before doesn't make it boring. As we get older we find our interests and dedicate ourselves to mastering them.

Also people fuck around all the time, often by fucking with each other or doing dumb shit. It's just a different type of dumb shit. You should see some of the drawings on peoples toolboxes where I work. It's like a /b/ drawthread.
Soubds like you're just stuck in thepast to me.

>>6324
Got any pics of those drawings? I'm kinda curious

>>6322
I sympathise, sushi roll. I think this quotation gets at something similar to your problem:
>We're in such a hurry most of the time we never get much chance to talk. The result is a kind of endless day-to-day shallowness, a monotony that leaves a person wondering years later where all the time went and sorry that it's all gone.
- Robert M. Pirsig

Everyone loads themselves with responsibilities - in the form of a career, a family or even a political affiliation they feel the need to defend - and when they're not taking care of these things, they relax by talking and complaining about them with other people.

One cannot avoid responsibilities. But that doesn't mean we have to be trapped in the cycle of ever dwindling free time and ever more boring conversations with which we fill our free time. I think intellectual conversation is a good antidote to the humdrum discussions we usually have. I care much less about how someone's day went than what they think the purpose of their life is and why - the latter is actually interesting and a way to discover things about a person which would remain hidden otherwise.

>>6322
Honestly I'm more afraid that I've become the boring one in these relationships. Most of my friends are doing stuff, developing their adult lifes (house, partner, that stuff), going on holidays or event and what not. On the other hand, I go to work, and go back home again. I don't do anything worth talking about and as a result I have nothing to talk about.

Everytime I hang out with friends, even the ones I've known for years (hell, even with family) I get nervous about whether it will become awkward because I can't hold a conversation. I'm becoming worse and worse at this, like I'm losing the ability to express or even hold an opinion on anything.

Sorry for not being comfy guys

>>6330
I've felt like this for the past 2 years until i locked my course to put my head in place. I can tell you there can be a way out, i guess. When i got somewhat over the social fobia barrier, the talks with anyone started to flow again.

I was always a hopeless romantic.
I had three crushes, none worked, all taught me something I wish I hadn't known.
I grew up with only two friends, we were the ones misunderstood by all the other but understood by ourselves. One of them confessed to me. I liked her, but I realized, that I was too young to really love someone. So I said give me two years and I will be mature enough. I would actually love her two years later, but in that time depression and suicidal thought plagued the three of us. my other friend became a drug addict, distance followed. I only had her left. I woke up every morning hating my self wanting to kill myself only to go to school and try to stop her from hurting herself. I remember how strangely proud she was when she found a place to cut herself where her mother wouldn't see it. I loved her, but she was over me. I became nearly schizophrenic, i couldnt help her any longer, even though I loved her I went away. a year later, my health had gotten at least a little bit better, I wanted to meet her. but she died. everybody thought it was an accident, but I didn't, it was exactly the manner of death she wrote to me in a letter, two years ago. it has been 4 years since then. Sometimes I still remember how we baked cookies together, with her then still innocent smile. how we talked as little children what kind of dogs we would have together when growing up. how she stuttered trying to confess me, only to turn around with a red face stressfully searching for a letter. looking at me with those deer eyes when I opened them. I am kinda over now. but since then I believe that it is better not to depend upon people, I don't want to hurt anybody nor do I want to be hurt. I also learned that I will never again betray a friend, I see me leaving only because of my mental health as a betrayal.
even though my life has become more normal, from time to time it still returns, it has damaged my capability to interact with women pretty strongly, combined with the fact that I see sex in no good light, and I am lost in this modern dating world.

>>6300
>If I were merely a friend, we could have all the same valuable moments without the anxiety of losing our love for each other. (Sexual stuff aside, of course, but that has little value now that it's no longer new and exciting.)

I know what you mean, but I've also heard people say that hetero men and women can't have normal friendships. Not sure if it is the same with other relationships. In my own experience, there were too many difficult feelings of jealousy and betrayal when trying to remain friendly with my ex, and I was also a bit paranoid that they were getting too intimate with other people. Not that I would have had any right to complain, but it was a difficult situation to find oneself in.

>>6326 If they say that, what they mean is "I can only imagine interacting with a man/woman in terms of sex". Because what else is the fundamental difference between a friendship and romance? Sure, often friendships are more casual/distant, but not always. Maybe that's true for them, but that's no ground to assume for everybody. It being that way for an ex seems different to me though, since you have history and associations with them.

I keep dreaming about cheating on my partner and it's freaking me out, because I was just starting to feel confident that I wouldn't do something like that. For some reason I felt like it was ok, because it was purely physical, but that wouldn't make it OK in real life.

I hope this isn't something pathological. Imagine realising years too late that it wasn't going to work.

In my opinion, relationships are a skill to learn just like learning a new instrument. Guess this one may take a lifetime to learn, without the right studying. Its not as simple as getting yourself out there or even marrying the love of your life, i mean even there there's so much to do so you two work out and not always the person is willing, so its such a careful work of choosing and knowing yourself and the person. I had quite a problematic teenhood on this with some complicated girls, but i guess i did create at least half of the problems with them. I can only recommend to learn about and train relationships always.

>>6306

Here is an example of something that is dead simple and people would probably pay for, but it was released for free.

http://notational.net/

I'm sure that you could come up with something like this. I'm sure that large companies would not attempt to create something like this because its scale is too small and it's not even in their world view of opportunities.

Here is another example of something that is dead simple, people HAVE payed a lot for, and it was created by a single developer (a Tokyo developer who quit because he hated the サラリーマン life).

https://inkdrop.app/

If you read any literature about startups or entrepreneurship, you will find that being independent simply means solving a problem that is too small, too obscure, or too new (or old) for existing companies to solve. You can even release an application with EXACTLY THE SAME FEATURES as an existing application and sell it by putting your own looks or philosophy into it.

However, being an independent software developer usually means doing things other than coding. Maybe you make some designs for the application or the website. Maybe you learn a little bit about content marketing and how to write a good blog post. Maybe you send some messages to writers who are looking to feature software like yours.
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>>6307
I don't argue that there aren't such cases, my point is that it's very luck based and it's basically a lottery. You might as well start streaming on Twitch because it's the same kind of lottery where if you make it, you make it.
You listed a few projects and I can add a dozen more on top of them, but statistically those are probably <0.1% of all _finished_ startups led by 1-3 people.
I have worked in startup business as a senior full stack web developer, and I've met many people there who just hop from one startup job to another, because startups even if properly funded just never make it. You make a big buck as a developer there because of all the risks, plus they often offer you a share after the product has gotten popular, but it never gets popular. That's just how IT business is.
The advice to "just make something that will give you money" faces the exact same problem. It's literally the same market and in it you're also at a disadvantage, let alone the amount of competition.
Sure you can make yet another basic app or something like that, but at the end of the day it's not even the size of the project, it's just how lucky you are in getting it running. It can be your 10 year long monstrous project or it can be a 6 hour hackaton challenge project. They both have equal odds of becoming big enough to bring revenue.

This is just an unreasonable investment of time and money, is my point. If you like gambling then it's probably ok, you can keep trying to push your ideas and develop more stuff. But if you're into having a stable financial situation then it's probably not for you. I consider myself to be having the preference of the latter.

>>6308

You don't have to receive a giant windfall to be successful, and it isn't all about the money (i.e., autonomy is important to some people).

The better way to frame it is that you are expanding your scope to include opportunities beyond the traditional job market. For somebody, like me, who cannot handle the modern, agile, stack-ranked, open office, I don't think that looking into alternative opportunities is a risk. To me, ending my life in a conference room after the tenth meeting about code style is the bigger risk.

My job is alright. It's an office job doing administrative stuff for a local government.
The work itself is pretty easy, so I read or work on other stuff during work hours. The pay could be higher, but I'm not doing anything skills intensive, so I guess I would rather be paid less with less stress.

>>6312
I often fantasise about having a low-stress job, with lots of free time to indulge my hobbies. But maybe I'd actually find a more challenging career more rewarding than something that's just to pay the bills?
If they're so important to me, maybe I should make my hobbies a full-time thing. Of course, this might not be practical, but it seems rather timid of me to give up without having tried that level of commitment.