I'm only 20 so I'm probably (I think?) not older than the average user here. Sorry if this post is off topic. What do you find lonely? Growing up I always felt lonely not being able to talk to anyone IRL about my nerdy hobbies and stuff. But now that it's somewhat normal to talk about memes and anime and shitposting and stuff it feels really strange–it hasn't really made me feel any less isolated I guess. But maybe I'm just being a hipster contrarian.
Don't you think having a family makes you a normie as well?
>>6654>I always felt lonely not being able to talk to anyone IRL about my nerdy hobbies and stuff
Yeah, I think that's kind of it - you get to an older stage of your life and suddenly everyone around you is talking about mundane shit like cars and restaurants and health insurance, meanwhile I can't wait to get home to shitpost about anime or whatever. I guess it doesn't help that I got married relatively young and am thus quite a bit younger than other people with kids.>>6657
Yeah, i guess so. I was definitely far from being one when I was younger though, and I definitely don't have normie tastes even if everyone around me does. Forgive my boomer ramblings, I guess.
Merry Christmas, and remember to stop and enjoy where you are in life if you can.
makes me wonder if we'll still be shitposting on imageboards at 65+
>>6659>I was definitely far from being one when I was younger though
How did you transition from non-normie to family man?
long story short:>be hardcore weeb in highschool and uni, study japanese and watch anime all day>end up studying in a small town in japan>realize that being in a foreign country away from my annoying family allowed me to open up more socially>graduate but then spend a few more years in asia>meet a qt, get married, have a kid>oh shit, english teaching and translation won't pay the bills anymore>move back to my home country with wife, grad school, job search, get good job>still miss watching anime all afternoon then shitposting about it on /a/
that's the gist of it. just curious what other people's experiences were.
I’m can relate. I’m your age, unmarried but in a relationship for 10 years, living together etc. Kind of similar growing up, anime, gaming/computers, usual stuff. I came out of my shell in college a bit but always maintained kind of a more closeted interest in things relevant to here. Met a nice woman at work and…that was that. Pretty domesticated now but yeah there’s always a part of me that wants to sit on IRC all night and play some games.
Cool man, good to hear there are others in similar situations out there.
Someone should make an "Obāsan" board for the senior demographic. That would be just perfect, hehe.
She's got a diamond already, we just see the marriage process as superfluous
yes, this needs to happen
Are you two satisfied with your lives? Did you get what you wanted or do you think you settled for less?
>>6800>we just see the marriage process as superfluous
I think it's beneficial to be legally married if nothing else. I wish I find a 3DPD I can settle down with when my instincts start screaming at me who'll be like that. Fat fucking chance though. From what I heard, most women love weddings and it's up there with having kids for them. I absolutely hate weddings and I can't see myself sitting through an entire one, especially when it's my own.
Yeah, can’t complain really (I’m 6667). We haven’t had any kind of fight in the decade we’ve been together, always tuned into the same wavelength, common goals, looking out for the same things. I’m able to be completely myself and live the life I want in terms of what I do with my time. It’s a bit of a big contrast to the relationships my friends have which have the more typical issues.
So yeah, as far as a life companion goes I couldn’t be more content. But that’s only one aspect of life of course…
And to comment here…yeah, you’re not wrong that most women tend to love weddings. It’s another thing she and I can fully agree on disliking…whenever we get invites to weddings we’re immediately both like oh god, how do we politely get out of doing this? Lol.
There’s someone out there for you, no doubt.
>>6856>I'm smart enough to know that all 3D is PD
Sounds like you are a victim of chan culture.
It doesn't take much to figure it out in the real world.
should be "stupid enough" instead
It is your life, do whatever you want with it. But that doesn't mean you can't be gravely wrong. Real world is not even remotely similiar to the Internet and it is dumb to look at it and describe it through memes. I mean, you can always be butthurt about that one Stacey that rejected or hurted you and blame all the women or you can man up and start being honest on what you really want from life.
Watch those assumptions, you'll poke someone's eye out.
Ignoring the last bit he wrote, he makes a fair point.
Which is the fair point?>It is your life, do whatever you want with it.
No shit.>But that doesn't mean you can't be gravely wrong.
True, but it's hard to be wrong when you have piles of evidence in your favor.>Real world is not even remotely similiar to the Internet
You can at least form a theory based on what the internet says, and verify it in real life. Turns out it's true.>and describe it through memes
I think he’s referring to the 3DPD part. I had to look up what that means and…I mean come on.
It's not unreasonable that one can enjoy anime without taking in the associated garbage.
Sounds like you're a victim of chan culture
kind of relatable. i'm in a relationship for 7 years. im almost in my 30s and never had any other connections, friends, dont talk to family. its a different kind of loneliness/emptiness. since i cant relate or connect to normies nor outcasts usually. i spend my days at a computer playing singleplayer games mostly and browsing imageboards.
pretty much everyone on this site is
On this one? not really. If anything that is the reason this site is so painfully slow.
On mainstream chans? The moment you can strike an actual convo with anyone, you know you are not talking with a victim of chan culture
33 here, just ended with my girlfriend of 7 years. No more big chans. I'm not really into video games anymore. I used to love them. I wonder what I'll be like at 65.
if you're on an obscure, small imageboard like this, it's most likely are you suffer from some degree of chan/imageboard brain poisoning. Granted it's probably not severe enough that you can't communicate with anyone but it's still there.
Yeah and no
Yes in the sense that if I hadn't gotten married and started a family young I wouldn't have pushed myself academically and I wouldn't have the career I have now with its security and perks, and also yes in the sense that going through life experiences early like marriage and family raising gave me some old man self-confidence.
But no in the fact that responsiblity is a huge time suck, that I have little time for a social life beyond other young parents, and that I have less free time.
What's weird is that when you get older and start having responsibilities and experiences (and income) you realize all the fun things you can do - like who the fuck cares if I decide to pick up surfing now? Why the fuck not? But then you can't because you don't have time and you kick yourself for not being more adventurous when you were younger.
interesting concept, never thought of it that way before.
I'd hire someone like that, maybe thats why I'm a broke loser though
I’m hitting 30 later this year and it’s already giving me a crisis, looking back I can't help but wonder what the hell I did this decade. But alcohol helps.
In a relationship for 6 years now.
In other words, I'm living the normie dream.
OP here, I thought I was lonely 6 months ago when I started this thread, but thanks to recent world events I have not had a meaningful face to face conversation with anyone outside of my immediate family for god knows how long. Not even the other young parents in my social circles want to get together because everyone's deathly scared of the virus.
Can't try to reach out and reconnect with old friends because everything's closed. Can't try to go out and meet new people because everything's closed. Forget about the cesspool that is social media. This is my life for the foreseeable future.
I'm not old, but I have a brat born last Christmas (as in 2019). She's very nice and can sit up now.
Well I'm nearing my 30's myself, but I still spend much of my time online and don't feel as alienated from online culture as a lot of people seem to as they get older. Maybe I've just gotta give it more time and I'll be shaking my cane at "kids these days". Of course I'm also a permavirgin, so living alone with few friends and no family to worry about probably helps with that.
I'm like your opposite. I'm 27, I've had a good job since I was 21, but no family. I consider myself normie-tier; I don't spend a ton of time on the internet or play many games, but somehow being alone doesn't bother me at all.
I had a lot of friends when I was younger, but when I moved far away for work I never really found new ones. At first I was desperately aware of how short youth is, and while my old friends were living it up at college, I was working full time, and the feeling that I was wasting my youth really terrified me. I wanted to do something about it, but I guess I just didn't know how, so instead I kind of just gave up.
I'm alone 99% of the time (that I'm not at work), and it's not the life I envisioned for myself, but I'm pretty happy 99% of the time as well.
>>8016>the feeling that I was wasting my youth really terrified me
You're only as young or old as you let yourself feel, roll. Only to a degree of course, but it's something I find helpful to remind myself of as I get older.
Don't think I've seen someone admit to being 50+ on an imageboard before. What interest you in imageboards, especially this one? Since you've been on for so long, what are the most surprising trends you noticed in the +30 years of the internet?
I'm late 20's with no job or children. I don't think 31 is old at all for imageboards. There are definitely a decent amount of 40ish people around too.
Honestly I find city people much easier to talk to. I don't really like the culture of most chans, but I like the sushi rollymity and hearing strange/different viewpoints that I would never see otherwise.
"Admit" to being over 50? Did you really mean that? You know that 'admitting' to something means accepting that it is wrong.
A bit like 'confessing'. You're trying to paint me as the villain.
It will not come as any surprise to you at all when I say that we had innocent hopes that the internet would lead to some sort of science fiction utopia where everybody was clever and good. In the early days, corporations and political pressure groups didn't know anything about our international, electronic communications. We thought, for a brief while, that we were the vanguard of a technologically sophisticated, dogmatically immune class of techies whose time to rule the world rationally had come. We were, of course, children of our time. And tragically mistaken.
I might address your more biographically nosy questions in my next, alcohol influenced essay. Or not; perhaps its your turn now.
Now you write something.
44 here. Lived less, still a similar experience.. OS wars against Microsoft for example.
When you go for a job, no matter your experience, the kids just tell you "oh hey, school is far away, can you even fathom the modern concepts?"
I don't consider myself old but I've been hanging out online since the 90s, and on image boards for most of that time now. Getting along in meatspace is fine but talking to people online is just less stressful and more enjoyable for me. Escaping to the internet might be what caused a lot of the expected life stuff like marriage and children and a decent career to evade me but I was never really interested in those things, nor do I expect to become so.
I think some people just have different kinds of social needs. It's only lonely if those aren't satisfied. I'm glad these sites and all their users are still around since I know now I'd be lonely without them.>>8021
I've met quite a few 60+ dudes on image boards. Age just isn't usually relevant unless the discussion veers into especial territory like VHS fansubs or something. The internet is a much bigger place than it used to be but people who got around back then still get around.
please please PLEASE get drunk again and write us another post, old man. How exactly did your utopian vision of the Internet go wrong? When did it happen? Is there any way to fix it? Do you wish the Internet (or Usenet or the Web specifically) had never been invented at all?
Im 26yo but I still remember the old times when internet and computer was just something for "Nerds". My father is a programmer so i had an own MSDOS-computer since I was 3 years old.
I think 4chan had its peak around 2006. It was still an underground website but was also very popular. I was only lurking around the time because I was to young to actually say something meaningful or intelligent. There were tutorials passed around on /b/ how to hack atm's, vending machines and IP-cameras. DDoSing the CIA-Servers and shit like that. There were also regulary whistleblowers who leaked government documents on /pol/. It really felt like a secret society and being part of a revolution. I always hoped that we would be able to smash the mainstream media, overthrow the government and fuck over rich corporations.
Nowadays it is full of disgusting dumb normies. The boomermeme isnt just a joke.
Most people on imageboards are really 30+ senile "boomers" who completly forgotten our roots and cause. Most of them are also newfags who never cared in the first place. 4cuck is absolutly unusable at this point.
I dont think that anyone on IBs is younger than 18. The younger people only use their dumbphones now and dance awkwardly on tiktok or younow. Most of them also dont have the computer skillz anymore.
>>9582>Nowadays it is full of disgusting dumb normies.
A bit OT, but I decided to check what /g/ was up to and I saw a thread that was a a tiktok webm, video comparing apple vs android phones. It wasn't a buried one either it was about to reach it's bump limit. Only one person called out the weirdness of seeing tiktok on an imagebaord.
27 here. Grew up on the internet but it turned into a crutch when the teenage depression hit. I grew out of imageboards by the time I hit my 20s but being chronically isolated kept me at bay. Sadly, it's the best alternative for a social life when I find myself without one. It's my fault and/or my brain's fault for not being able to go outside and interact with others effectively. I had a lucky break for a few years where I was able to get what I wanted in the real world so I was absent for that time. Came back when it fell apart again.
I don't think the culture is anything to be celebrated. Maybe it's because of my inherent personality but I get more mileage out of going on adventures in the real world. I don't even know if I get anything out of imageboards at all. They were fun at first because they were a novelty and I was a dumb kid in high school but it got old. As for the "normie" problem, I found that the real world has a much broader range of colorful characters and opinions than the predictable, one-dimensional channer rhetoric. And in 2020, it's really all the same thing online, the relevant platforms come together as an implied coalition whose users are superficially divided by which side someone was radicalized politically. Dunno, maybe if these were the Usenet days I'd feel differently about the internet now. But for today, I've passed judgement and the verdict is that it's extremely lame.
>>9596>I found that the real world has a much broader range of colorful characters and opinions than the predictable, one-dimensional channer rhetoric.
I've been starting to feel this about chans and online communication in general the last few years. I think the predictability comes from the fact the people most active on the internet already have a lot in common, finances to have a computer with wifi, not doing much productive so plenty of free time, personality that lends its self to talking online or introversion, and a site or subculture with it's own 'vibe' and attractions adds a whole new layer of commonality. Plenty of outliers exist, but most tend to fall into those categories. It's just a trend that I've noticed and their is nothing inherently wrong with it.
Kind of sad how samey the internet can be at times. Hobbyist groups took the biggest hit because of the "plenty of free time" trait. I swear 70% of the time a hobbyist group gets taken over by people who spend way to much time on the internet instead of on said hobby. If you go to non internet hobby groups in real life they tend to be a lot more productive