I'm only 20 so I'm probably (I think?) not older than the average user here. Sorry if this post is off topic. What do you find lonely? Growing up I always felt lonely not being able to talk to anyone IRL about my nerdy hobbies and stuff. But now that it's somewhat normal to talk about memes and anime and shitposting and stuff it feels really strange–it hasn't really made me feel any less isolated I guess. But maybe I'm just being a hipster contrarian.
Don't you think having a family makes you a normie as well?
>>6654>I always felt lonely not being able to talk to anyone IRL about my nerdy hobbies and stuff
Yeah, I think that's kind of it - you get to an older stage of your life and suddenly everyone around you is talking about mundane shit like cars and restaurants and health insurance, meanwhile I can't wait to get home to shitpost about anime or whatever. I guess it doesn't help that I got married relatively young and am thus quite a bit younger than other people with kids.>>6657
Yeah, i guess so. I was definitely far from being one when I was younger though, and I definitely don't have normie tastes even if everyone around me does. Forgive my boomer ramblings, I guess.
Merry Christmas, and remember to stop and enjoy where you are in life if you can.
makes me wonder if we'll still be shitposting on imageboards at 65+
>>6659>I was definitely far from being one when I was younger though
How did you transition from non-normie to family man?
long story short:>be hardcore weeb in highschool and uni, study japanese and watch anime all day>end up studying in a small town in japan>realize that being in a foreign country away from my annoying family allowed me to open up more socially>graduate but then spend a few more years in asia>meet a qt, get married, have a kid>oh shit, english teaching and translation won't pay the bills anymore>move back to my home country with wife, grad school, job search, get good job>still miss watching anime all afternoon then shitposting about it on /a/
that's the gist of it. just curious what other people's experiences were.
I’m can relate. I’m your age, unmarried but in a relationship for 10 years, living together etc. Kind of similar growing up, anime, gaming/computers, usual stuff. I came out of my shell in college a bit but always maintained kind of a more closeted interest in things relevant to here. Met a nice woman at work and…that was that. Pretty domesticated now but yeah there’s always a part of me that wants to sit on IRC all night and play some games.
Cool man, good to hear there are others in similar situations out there.
Someone should make an "Obāsan" board for the senior demographic. That would be just perfect, hehe.
She's got a diamond already, we just see the marriage process as superfluous
yes, this needs to happen
Are you two satisfied with your lives? Did you get what you wanted or do you think you settled for less?
>>6800>we just see the marriage process as superfluous
I think it's beneficial to be legally married if nothing else. I wish I find a 3DPD I can settle down with when my instincts start screaming at me who'll be like that. Fat fucking chance though. From what I heard, most women love weddings and it's up there with having kids for them. I absolutely hate weddings and I can't see myself sitting through an entire one, especially when it's my own.
Yeah, can’t complain really (I’m 6667). We haven’t had any kind of fight in the decade we’ve been together, always tuned into the same wavelength, common goals, looking out for the same things. I’m able to be completely myself and live the life I want in terms of what I do with my time. It’s a bit of a big contrast to the relationships my friends have which have the more typical issues.
So yeah, as far as a life companion goes I couldn’t be more content. But that’s only one aspect of life of course…
And to comment here…yeah, you’re not wrong that most women tend to love weddings. It’s another thing she and I can fully agree on disliking…whenever we get invites to weddings we’re immediately both like oh god, how do we politely get out of doing this? Lol.
There’s someone out there for you, no doubt.
>>6856>I'm smart enough to know that all 3D is PD
Sounds like you are a victim of chan culture.
It doesn't take much to figure it out in the real world.
should be "stupid enough" instead
It is your life, do whatever you want with it. But that doesn't mean you can't be gravely wrong. Real world is not even remotely similiar to the Internet and it is dumb to look at it and describe it through memes. I mean, you can always be butthurt about that one Stacey that rejected or hurted you and blame all the women or you can man up and start being honest on what you really want from life.
Watch those assumptions, you'll poke someone's eye out.
Ignoring the last bit he wrote, he makes a fair point.
Which is the fair point?>It is your life, do whatever you want with it.
No shit.>But that doesn't mean you can't be gravely wrong.
True, but it's hard to be wrong when you have piles of evidence in your favor.>Real world is not even remotely similiar to the Internet
You can at least form a theory based on what the internet says, and verify it in real life. Turns out it's true.>and describe it through memes
I think he’s referring to the 3DPD part. I had to look up what that means and…I mean come on.
It's not unreasonable that one can enjoy anime without taking in the associated garbage.
Sounds like you're a victim of chan culture
kind of relatable. i'm in a relationship for 7 years. im almost in my 30s and never had any other connections, friends, dont talk to family. its a different kind of loneliness/emptiness. since i cant relate or connect to normies nor outcasts usually. i spend my days at a computer playing singleplayer games mostly and browsing imageboards.
pretty much everyone on this site is
On this one? not really. If anything that is the reason this site is so painfully slow.
On mainstream chans? The moment you can strike an actual convo with anyone, you know you are not talking with a victim of chan culture
33 here, just ended with my girlfriend of 7 years. No more big chans. I'm not really into video games anymore. I used to love them. I wonder what I'll be like at 65.
if you're on an obscure, small imageboard like this, it's most likely are you suffer from some degree of chan/imageboard brain poisoning. Granted it's probably not severe enough that you can't communicate with anyone but it's still there.
Yeah and no
Yes in the sense that if I hadn't gotten married and started a family young I wouldn't have pushed myself academically and I wouldn't have the career I have now with its security and perks, and also yes in the sense that going through life experiences early like marriage and family raising gave me some old man self-confidence.
But no in the fact that responsiblity is a huge time suck, that I have little time for a social life beyond other young parents, and that I have less free time.
What's weird is that when you get older and start having responsibilities and experiences (and income) you realize all the fun things you can do - like who the fuck cares if I decide to pick up surfing now? Why the fuck not? But then you can't because you don't have time and you kick yourself for not being more adventurous when you were younger.
interesting concept, never thought of it that way before.
I'd hire someone like that, maybe thats why I'm a broke loser though
I’m hitting 30 later this year and it’s already giving me a crisis, looking back I can't help but wonder what the hell I did this decade. But alcohol helps.
In a relationship for 6 years now.
In other words, I'm living the normie dream.