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(Didn't see a particular thread for this topic so making one) Anyone here married/have a family or otherwise older than the average imageboard user?

I hit 31 this year, have had a family for several years. Grew up and still enjoy chan culture yet somehow I've become trapped in suburban normie hell. It's a weird sort of loneliness. Anyone else know this feel?
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i mean you - ! !


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Slowly but steadily, my objectives are marching towards completion. I am growing stronger. I feel content, yet cautious.


I wanted to tell you you were wrong but I think the reason the people I encountered were too uninteresting was because I went looking for like-minded people.

Actually I've met plenty of interesting people at my job, now that I think of it. I should throw myself into it more. Life begins at the end of the comfort zone, it seems.


very good


I spent a short period of time discord server surfing, all that did was make me feel old since the average age of those servers were usually 18 and under.


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Find happiness wherever you are.


I left discord because of memories id rather forget


I'm 25 and about to have 3 kids (have one, twins on the way). I suppose that makes me more ahead of the curve when it comes to kids compared to most imageboard users (or most people I guess, thinking about the modern day families) but I don't think I'm that much older than most imageboard users. Imageboards are aging, man.


>25 and about to have 3 kids
Congrats man. From a random sushi on the internet, here's to hoping they lead happy lives.

>Imageboards are aging, man.

I agree. I think most online spaces bar mainstream sites have aged. The 18 year olds in 2010 are almost in their thirties now. Also, most younger users that would have brought the average age down congregate in Twitter and Reddit instead.


>The 18 year olds in 2010 are almost in their thirties now.
t-thanks for reminding me…


haha, I’m trying to imagine my dad on imageboards and it’s making me chuckle a bit. that’s great, best of luck with everything :)

I’m a little surprised by the age of some of the users here, but I suppose it’s hard to “age out” out of communities like this. it’s always cool to see people from a wide variety of times interacting in one place (albeit sushi rollymously) with relatively little friction.


Gomen nasai oji-san/oba-san!!! (Hehe I'm pretty evil >:DD)

On a side note, 2010 feels not that long ago for me as well.

You'd be pretty surprised to know that on a few 4chan boards the majority are aged 30-59 with even a few 60+ posters. They don't reveal their age though because they get treated differently. Good thing we're all sushirollymous.


I'm 22 but I don't seem to be growing out of imageboards. I think I'll keep browsing even when I'm old, and I expect imageboards (except 4chan) to become an old people thing since we grew up with them and younger people have tiktok or whatever.


>I think I'll keep browsing even when I'm old, and I expect imageboards (except 4chan) to become an old people thing since we grew up with them and younger people have tiktok or whatever.
I frankly doubt it, unless something happens in 4chan that makes it go irrelevant imageboards will still be a nest for very young and stupid people. With very, very niche boards having people above 25.
And that's also the reason why the term "growing out of imageboards" is a thing. I'm 23 and I also feel like giving up on imageboards since the most one can find in those is horny and fights, the only boards I lurk are as small as sushi, sometimes even more.


There are, but they aren't public due to the infestation of underage which would join. We could always start a sushi one I suppose.


>I expect imageboards (except 4chan) to become an old people thing since we grew up with them and younger people have tiktok or whatever.
That's very odd logic. You're not that old and tiktok kids are not that young. Smartphones and social media were already well established as the way norms used the internet before you were even a teen.


OP here
congrats! you'll make it.


I'm 28 now and was married for 5 years before and got divorced ONE week before covid I NEETd through the whole relationship because partner wanted a stay-at-home style love life which I agreed with as I'm unironically autistic and can't really work.
I feel my life crumbling under my feet as the world burns around it and I'm stucking living in this awkward limbo feel so scared and insane I might just CRASH A PLANE


Are you really in limbo?

My relationship with my bf of 7 years is up in the air. I don't know what will come of it. I don't know a relationship outside of this one.

Your situation seems more certain though. I think you can take solace in that certainty. Do you wanna be friends?

(is CRASH A PLANE a wordfilter btw??)


I'm 30 with a decent(ish) job these days. When I started running imageboards ~10 years ago I was a NEET, and it took me 6 years of NEETdom before I went back to school out of sheer boredom. It's not until about 2 years ago that I was somewhat financially stable, and I am finally able to rent a room to myself in an apartment, without having to share it, as of about a week ago. It's my first time having a room entirely to myself in about a decade. I have been a little distant from my imageboards for the past several years while I focus on other stuff, but I still check the front pages every day and read or respond to threads sometimes, usually sushi rollymously. I do still spend a pretty decent amount of time online, I'm just running several other communities now and spending a lot less time online overall than I used to.


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I feel I am because though things are finalized I can't move on to see others because of this lockdown and to make matters worse my city is slowly going bankrupt - 60% of business here has now closed permanently. My cities population is small and now it will get smaller, its harder still to get into a relationship the older you get…it's like watching myself dig my own grave.
>I think you can take solace in that certainty.
I'm not strong enough to do that.
>Do you wanna be friends?
Yes that would be nice but I'm unsure how to go about it.
>(is CRASH A PLANE a wordfilter btw??)
Oh that was just me making a lame joke referencing Grandmaster Flash & The Furious Five's The Message song but I messed up the quote, it was "I swear I might hijack a plane."


I'm 29 and I just like the imageboard format, no addictive stuff like retweets, likes, endless scrolling,… (I do think some kind of image board but without the sushi roll aspect could be nice) I'm not married but I've lived together with my companion for more then 8 years now, we fled to the countryside that is completely empty, I like it although the local people can be a bit much sometimes.

I guess you win some and you lose some


>no addictive stuff
I wouldn't be so sure about that. Faster imageboards like 4chan can be insanely addictive.


Weather making me lethargic…


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>It's not until about 2 years ago that I was somewhat financially stable, and I am finally able to rent a room to myself in an apartment, without having to share it, as of about a week ago.
these. these are the kind of stories that i like. where the main character is in a pit and gets out of it.
my wish is to be just like you. I'm crawling out of it, but surely if I play everything right, things will come into play. Just got to not give into the worst.


This is my situation, I just woke up one day and felt like my old stomping grounds were suddenly reddit 2.0

I feel like more oldfags use twitter than actual chans lel


Have you met Kleinrock? Or Cerf? Or Baran? Or Taylor? Or Nelson? Licklider? Could you please tell us amusing stories about them, if you have any?


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They would be if the average post quality was not so soykaf


I'm 30 but my life hasn't really changed at all since I was 20 except there are much fewer places on the internet I'm comfortable in. I still watch tons of anime and generally have the same otaku hobbies, except there aren't as many video games I care about anymore. I have a pretty easy remote job so that doesn't occupy much of my mental space.
Socially I feel pretty stuck. I'm not autistic or anything but my friendships in college were all anime-related and I never really developed a life outside of otaku interests so going to social meetups or whatever now even if I get along well enough with people it's hard to form much of a connection, we just make general small talk and then there's nothing to follow up on. At this point it's becoming difficult to envision a life outside of the one I've been living for the past decade.


>I'm not autistic or anything

You sure about that?


A fair question given where we are, but yes I'm pretty sure.


expand your more active interests like computers or exercise ot food. Give anime a break; it's still be there when you come back.


I'm not sure if I would qualify as an older poster with my 27 years, but I'm married.

As a teen I used 4chan and later on 8chan every day for several hours, but nowadays I only check in on altchans maybe 10-15 minutes a day.


Great for you!
I'm 25, not married yet but glad I switched to slowchans when I was 19.
Time has flown, but I'm going to stay optimistic.

Have a great life!


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Personally the biggest issue of growing up on the internet is that, it eventually changes as much as someone does as a person and all the things you used to be accustomed either disappear, or become unbearable.


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31 here. Dated and was in relationships throughout my 20's but currently single. I've unfortunately realized that I can't be happy while also compromising my hobbies and interests for someone else.

The bad: Internet and imageboard culture have corrupted me so much that I'm not truly happy unless I can unveil my full power level. My home is full of anime figures, plushies, and I even have a few dakimakura covers. To make myself appealing to even 10% of the dating pool, I would have to give these things up, which I've done for prior relationships and it was never worth it.

The good: I've accepted who I am, what I like, and refuse to compromise my weeb ass for anybody else. If I do manage to find someone, it will by definition HAVE to someone who is ok with me staying with 100% of my interests.

I just hope I'm not too weird to ever find someone to share my life with.


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Genuinely feel you, OP. I'm 35 with a wife and kid, but most of my coworkers are much older than me. So it's a weird combination of my equally too boring and too weird to ever talk about anything with them that's not work related.

>Oh, sushi roll! What did you do over the weekend?

Oh, you know. Just relaxed (Read: Swam through a ton of shitposting to download cool fanart of SF6 characters, stumbled around on 2ch, and watched an old VHS I recorded of Kids WB in 1999 with my kid because shitposting has burnt me out on modern cartoons).

I let it slip once that I was working on a model kit and now my coworkers assume I have a big backlog of model cars and airplanes because it would have been too much work to explain Gunpla to a group of 50 year olds.


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You will find someone…

I hide my modelling power level like this


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Almost 30, still no desire to start a relationship, let alone a family. No real life friends either, just online.

Feeling reasonably comfortable however, I have quite a lot of cash to spend on myself, and never seem to have enough hours in a day to do everything I want to. Currently taking a break from working so I can travel for a couple months.
Not sure if I'll ever change on this regard, but no reason to worry about that.


Soujds like you got a nice situation, hope you get to travel a lot and have lots of nice exopriences!


Turned 30 this year. Over the past 2 or so years my urge to get married and start a family has skyrocketed. The problem is I'm not in a financial nor emotional position to start one and I doubt I ever will be, even the prospect of dating and seeing where that leads just seems pointless.


I've been in a similar boat myself, and had a pretty shit go of it the past few years. That said I think it's worth swinging the bat even if you don't know if you're totally ready. You might as well, for me it's like, what do I even have left to lose anyways, I gave my pride away already.


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OP here. No one can really be "ready" for marriage and kids. The key is being open to change and being willing to take on new challenges (or being forced to lol).
Plenty of well-educated people with stable incomes whose lives fall apart because they take on a major life event like having a kid and then freak out because their life actually changed.
So basically, it's about being willing to go through with it, regardless of whether it looks like you're ready.


I once mentioned to my coworker "I would like to have kids, but I'm not ready yet."

She said "if you wait until you're ready, you will never have kids."

And she's absolutely right. No one can be ready for kids. You just have to do your best or not do it at all. My parents weren't financially ready for me, and even my richer friends still had financial scrapes growing up. Kids will test your finances and spiritual maturity no matter what, but for some people, they are absolutely worth it.


Suburbs are terrible non-places.

I’m 27 and unmarried so I feel old ;_;




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Not that sushi roll, but good to see you still coming back after all these years OP, hope you and your family are well.


Not being 100% ready is one thing, but my fear is it's just too late for me, as a 31-year old with no gf, no kids, and not even any IRL friends anymore, to start from literally zero percent.

I decided the internet was my "home" in my mid-20's and just gave up pursuing any social life IRL. Now I'm starting to regret that choice but realistically, I need a good IRL friend group so that any potential gf doesn't think I'm a creep. So that's 1-2 years minimum to build up the group.

Once I have a gf, we ideally should date another 2-3 years minimum before marriage, with another 1-2 years to see how the marriage holds before having a child.

By that point, I'm anywhere from 35 to my early 40's, assuming everything goes to plan which they never do in the world of social relationships. So much needs to go right that's out of my control, which makes me wonder if it's worth trying, or I just accept my fate and be an elder internet goblin til I drop dead unloved in a state nursing home.


I'm 30 and basically in the same boat. Emotionally I haven't given up but "logistically" speaking marrying and having a family just seems impossibly out of reach at this point.


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I turned 30 recently myself. I'm not too bothered about being older than the average poster since it's an sushi rollymous forum, and I don't think I'll ever grow out of imageboards. I've taken longer breaks before and I've tried everything from traditional forums to discord, but I always feel like I've come home when I go on imageboards. I find it very difficult to talk to people, even online, so this is one of the few environments where I feel comfortable enough to express myself. The feeling many of us have that imageboards are in decline has actually been good for me, since it's spurred me on to be a more active poster, even making OC and organising community events for another board.

I can't relate to the being married part, but it is what it is.


Cycling time for the oldies

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