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 No.5384



what's your experience with love? falling in it, falling out of it, one-sided or mutual.

currently i'm crushing very, very hard on what might be the most unreadable person on earth. i fell in love (i guess) when they asked the professor if they could step out of class and stumbled over whether to say "can i" or "may i". they went with the latter (and said please) and dropped their phone on the way out.

crushing this hard is like throwing my heart and brain in a blender and pulverizing them at the highest speed, but the blender short-circuits and the whole thing just combusts and explodes. i've always been a hopeless romantic, so this is a real weird mix of unsurprising and absolutely terrifying. i've never been so frustrated and so joyful in my life.

how about you, sushis?

 No.5385

I can't even talk about it. There's a huge hole in my heart, and it's not going away. I'm a shell of my former self.

 No.5386

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Absolutely zero. I have never had a crush on someone or experienced romantic feelings towards someone, and as far as I know, the reverse is true. I've never had trouble with normal friendships, but anything past that is just a nebulous area for me.
I sometimes wonder if I'm dysfunctional. Maybe it's one of those aromantic internet snowflake things?

 No.5387

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I've been quite lucky actually, had some fruitless flings and two year+ relationships even though I've always been kind of off and reclusive.
The latter one got very weird though. In short I left her cause I got too deep into depression to handle a relationship well and didn't want to waste her time, tried to get back together later but to keep it short she treated me like garbage and excused her several backstabs with that I had left her once so "it didn't count".
Have been keeping to myself too much to meet anybody new, and we were together a good while so I still feel attached to her at least meat-wise. I don't really crave sexual contact with new partners, I still crave her, even if I could never trust her enough to let her that close again. Guess that's the point of rebound stuff, clear the poison out of your system by ingesting new ones.

 No.5388

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I don't get your experience.
I've had a (one day short of) 2 year relationship which dissolved after my depression kicked in. Even during first cute months my brain and heart weren't thrown anywhere, I just liked her and wanted us to be together. That's not much romantic, but that's all I know about love.
I've given up on social side of life almost a decade ago, living without friends, relationships, sex, shrinking my social circle, turning down flirting and this friend-ish kind of talk when people try to make me came out of my shell.
Somehow everyone I know has a boy/girlfriend except for me. huh

 No.5389

>>5386
stay pure sushi!

 No.5390

Dated a girl once, then she cheated on me. Now I don't trust people enough for relationships, because I think that, if I date someone else again, they'll probably cheat on me too. It's emotionally devastating and I don't want to deal with that again.

 No.5392

When I meet someone attractive or someone who shows interest in me, I usually get too tense and self-conscious to act in a proper way. On top of that I know damn well how volatile romantic feelings can be, yet an intimate relationship should be something profound and honest imo. Most of the love I witnessed ended in anger and grief, no matter the time spent together.

Recently my mom broke up with her (second) husband, nonchalantly destroying our family and over two decades of shared lifetime. Fuck this shit, I'll stay single.

 No.5393

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>>5384
Crushing is a strange experience; full of both grief and joy, as you say. I crushed on my current gf for about three months or so before asking her out, and, weirdly, I look back on that time fondly. It is the most innocent part of the relationship - pure, unconsummated attraction. Most people, including me, need to relieve their sexual urges every once in a while. But sometimes I wish it weren't like that and having a gf would be about having a very good friend you can hug and write cute notes to. Anyway, hope things go well for you, OP.

>>5392
>Recently my mom broke up with her (second) husband, nonchalantly destroying our family and over two decades of shared lifetime.
I feel those feels, sushi, even though in my case it happened when I was quite young. All I can say is that I'm sorry you have to deal with it; but you'll be fine. We all will.

 No.5395

fell in love with a girl
first person in the world who "got" me
started online for a year and a half
fall utterly in love
we finally started meeting in person
was too shy to even hug
she'd sneak out late at night and we'd watch movies
brought her back one night and her parents found out
called me
threatened to kill me
kept my distance for a couple years
she follows me to the same college
I am too shy to approach her
turns out she started seeing someone else.
feel betrayed
try to rebound with a different girl
can't unlove the first
try to reconnect with her
but she keeps her distance and is seeing someone else
seems like she is picking on me
seems like she is making fun of me
lowest point in my life
frustrated
tell her she sucks at art
she bans me from her life
ignores me
mfw I am stuck in love with a person who wants nothing to do with me

some days i want to move on and i cant
some days i can move on but don't want to
most days i am numb to everything
everything sucks except music

i wish everything would go back to how it was
i just want to be with her and watch movies again
i'm pathetic.

don't fall in love, kids.

 No.5399

There's a girl at work… But of course as always she would never notice me. She's really fucking pretty and also very hot. I was speaking to a workmate the other day and he said "you too would make a nice couple, she looks like the smart kind, I can see you falling for her" and that only made matters worse of course.
She's nice though, there are some girls who wouldn't even bother to look in my general direction, this one I talk to (trying to find a work-related excuse to do so everytime) and she's… nice. Though perhaps she has to be nice because it's part of her job -she's supposed to help me if I ask…
Anyway she's walking around and really hot and also cute and it gets to me, I can't help but look at her whenever I can but as many of you may very well know there's this feeling of unease growing in me, perhaps due to the fact that my infatuation is growing and the odds are she barely even notices my existence let alone actually have any interest for me.
Oh well such is lyf.

 No.5403

>>5399
Ask her out. Better to know than not know, it'll be a relief either way.

 No.5404

>>5399
talk to her! it doesn't have to be asking her out, just try and get to know her, her hobbies, the music she likes, things like that. speaking as an irl (sushi)girl i can't count the number of times i lost interest in someone and moved on (or, conversely, someone lost interest in me) because we just never talked.

it's scary, but rejection is better than not talking at all and endlessly wondering "what if". best of luck!

 No.5405

I've had feelings for multiple girls in the past, but they either turned out to be shitty people or taken. At this point though, I don't think I will ever be fit to have a relationship. I've struggled with sensory overload and meltdowns from asperger's syndrome, as well as anxiety and depression. There's a whole backstory behind all of this that I don't think any normal person would understand, let alone a romantic partner. Even if she was willing to listen, it would all be a huge burden to her.

 No.5406

I've felt love only once in my life and it was over the internet (during the ICQ times).
Since then I've had at least 3 girls had a crush on me.
Only one of them had made a move, the other two were always just wiggling about the topic and sometimes throwing in "random" closer-than-personal kind of questions.
Since I didn't feel anything towards any of them, mostly because I just can't feel love at all, I refused them all going with the narrative that I don't want responsibilities and then the pain of an inevitable breakup after they're done with the person I am.
I've long accepted the solitude life. I definitely won't be having an offspring. And I also won't be falling in love anymore. Since it's out of my control, if I accidentally do, I'll try my best to suppress that feeling from start.

 No.5407

I have fallen in love only once. And even then, i'am not sure if i can differentiate that feeling from deep friendship in conjunction with sexual attraction. It's just more painful than good friendship and that's all.
That girl was a friend of mine, when i fall for her. Unfortunately, she is into woman. Well, my feelings mostly passed after a year. She is still one of my closest friends.

 No.5410

call me what you like but I'll just say this because fuck it it's sushi rollymous
never really had any interest in love, was a foreign concept to me, until I met some lad over discord about nov. last year and well I guess he's got charm or something because I've basically turned into some clingy autist who's always fascinated by everything he says and always waiting for him to respond to me and put simply I do in fact love him
doesn't really reciprocate it, he just acts kind of cool and uninterested in it all, but I have asked him, and he does say that he isn't as disinterested and contemptuous as he lets on
don't have questions for the rest of you or anything but that's about it desu

 No.5411

>>5410
feelings have to be mutual
if you like them and they don't like you back, it's disheartening for you, and probably awkward or straining on the other person

 No.5428

>>5404
I read your reply and realized how right you are so I talked to her, well I'd done it before but with work-related issues. This time I gave her a chocolate and asked her for her name and now I can just approach her and talk to her as a friend would, as I do to my buddies at work so…. thanks I guess.
Not that I can really know if I have a chance with her but that I'll only know with time I guess, and if she decides it's actually worth interacting with me more than strictly necessary heh.
Anyway I'm happy about this!

 No.5528

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Would you break up with someone simply because you stopped loving them? They haven't done anything wrong at all. Your feelings just melted away for some reason.

Am I just depressed?

 No.5529

>>5528 It would be the right thing to do, if you gave it time and were sure it wasn't just a temporary thing. It would probably be best to talk to them about it and see if there's something in the relationship that needs to change also. But if one person doesn't have feelings for the other at all and they're just playing the role for whatever reason, even an altruistic one, it'll only build up resentment for them and be an awful shock/betrayal for their partner when it comes out.

You may or may not be depressed, I don't think thinking about this means you necessarily are.

 No.5531

>>5410
If you're female, unfortunately his distant nonchalance is probably only attracting you further. Might be why you fell in love. Pitty.

 No.5534

>>5531 Don't think that makes much sense

 No.5535

>>5528
I'd rather be single than in a relationship I don't care about.
>>5531
That's not how it works.

 No.5537

I had a few crushes in middle school, 20 years ago. Nothing since then.

 No.5539

>>5531
I'm not a woman, but you're not the first person to think I am

 No.5540

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I've been in love twice.

The first time, I eventually broke up with them. I could see how I would never live up to their standards and would continue to disappoint and hurt them over and over and over. I had a lot of secrets and parts of my life I knew would make them hate me if they found out, so I broke their heart and left.

The second time, I thought I found someone I could truly be my complete self with. Then they started acting distant and not wanting to meet up anymore. Eventually they broke up with me, saying they had too many secrets and that I would hate them if I ever found out. They didn't want me to stress over them anymore, almost the exact words I used to end things with my last ex. It messed me up more than I thought it would, and now I know how my ex felt when I did the same to them.

Karma's a friendly lady.

 No.5541

People can be so cruel. The harder I try to be compassionate and friendly, the harder I spill my spaghetti. But I am by nature a hopeless romantic and a soft heart-ed person. I just want someone to care about me a tenth as much as I care about them. I don't even care about stuff like sex. I just want to hug and cuddle, and companionship.

 No.5542

what is love?

 No.5543

baby don't hurt me

 No.5546

don't hurt me…no more

 No.5547

Oh, I don't know, what can I do?

 No.5548

>>5528
No. I don't believe love is sustainable emotion for the long time.

 No.5549

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just started dating this person from my poetry club everything is going wonderfully! conversations between us flow so naturally and we're into the same genre of weird stuff. it seems like we're both kinda falling for each other and we make each other so happy like aaaaaaaaaahhhh this can't be real

love is out there, i think?

 No.5550

>>5549
That's great to hear sushi roll.
(making a note - poetry clubs??)

 No.5552

>>5549

>poetry club romance


yeah this is a really cute post



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