No.11863
>>11859I'm considering it, its a difficult decision for me.
No.11871
>>11855To me it sounds like you're overanalyzing the problem, when it's not something you can figure out in theory in advance. You will only know how it feels when you're actually in there again, when you get to know how they respond to you being back. If you decide based on how you imagine it to be likely to go, you might be deciding based on total falsehood. It's just an imaginary possible route, not reality.
It doesn't even have to be something you're deciding so firmly on either, you can just decide that you will go back in once on just a visit (during actual busy hours), see how it feels. Then actually decide from there, when you have something emotionally tactile to work from.
Also unless you left in some kind of Bilbo-esque puff of smoke whilst flipping dual wielded F-birds, I don't see how it could be inapproriate. From what I can tell you left them, they didn't make you leave. Sometimes people need time away, that's not something weird or disrespectful. I'd wager they'd just be happy to see you back, happy to see that you're alive and well.
No.11874
>>11871Thank you for your well written response, I found it helpful - and no I didn't leave on bad terms so there's no problem there.
>It doesn't even have to be something you're deciding so firmly on either, you can just decide that you will go back in once on just a visit (during actual busy hours), see how it feels. Then actually decide from there, when you have something emotionally tactile to work from. I'll have to work on building up the nerve, the sudden change to my daily nothing's is a lot to take on for someone like myself. In all honesty, I have an issue with feeling I won't have anything worthwhile to contribute to a server with relatively active people especially after all this time.
No.11875
>>11855I've been on the opposite end of this situation, if they're anything like me then your friends will be very happy to have you back. A year is nothing between old friends, it's sad when you don't know if they'll return though.
No.11885
>>11874>work on building nerve, sudden change to daily nothings is a lot to take on for someone like myselfFeel you there, a bit of a semi-hermit myself, though I've been getting slightly better recently.
A tip for the nerves though, cold showers. It's weird, but it works (for me at least, YMMV). Has the same shape/mechanics as most social situation nervousness stuffs, as in you're very anxious before you jump in, it feels harsh just the first few seconds but then it's not really a big deal once you've gotten used to the temp. And feels easier to do with each time, both the anticipation & first few harsh seconds lose their bite gradually.
No.11936
Why am I hesitant to rejoin the server. A normal person wouldn't have thought twice and just went in and said hi
No.11946
Making friends online and offline is hard. I have too much trauma and am too into weird niche interests to make friends with IRL normies, but online most people who share my interests tend to hate me for characteristics about myself they don't politically agree with so it's just kinda lonely.
>>11936That's normal to be hesitant. Please don't be so down on yourself.
No.11951
>>11936Just do it. This is not my advice, though.
This is a direct order from the yakuza.
No.12425
No.
No.12453
>>12404sorry to hear that.
have you recovered from that break?
No.14341
>>12429Yeah, I feel the same way. I'm starting to think that kind of fidelity doesn't exist anymore or never existed. Somehow all my friendships end up feeling fickle or transactional.
No.14346
>>12429Obviously you know this, but you have to take the first step at things like that even if it might hurt. Additionally its obviously a desire incompatible with only posting on imageboards alone. Maybe it doesn't work out every time, but its definitely worth putting yourself out there and giving it a shot, even if its a risk to do so.
No.14347
I have a lot of online friends.
When I was a teenager my first internet-capable device was the Nintendo DSi. There was a website someone made for the DSi's built in internet browser that had a few simple javascript games and a chat room. I ended up talking to people on that chat room for years, and I'm still talking to them to this day.
I also made a lot of friends role-playing in FFXIV for a long time. I ended up falling in love with one of them and now we're married.
No.14348
>>14347That's awesome wish I had been more active in online communities in my teens instead of trying to make real life friends who I knew I didn't belong with, for me it's impossible to find like-minded people where I live so it was a waste of time but I still did it because I was conditioned to do so from an early age. "You have to make friends", "You have to go out". If I don't want to go out then obviously I don't belong with those people so why should I force it? I'm not going to change myself in order to fit in.
No.14349
>>14347Thank you.
Your post made me scream out loud.
I hope you have a good fucking night.
No.14350
>>14348>I don't belong with those people so why should I force it?You shouldn't have to, of course. I think it's good to have at least a few offline friends to have a social life with, but if you find people online you get along with and don't have many offline friends then it's ok to rely on online friends that you truly trust and you can make life-long friendships that way that could become real life friendships too.
>>14349y-you too
No.14351
I have a few discord friends but I wish I hadn't. All the small discord servers end up living in a purgatory because of lack of activity. The player base grows slightly or stays the same with nothing being done. The one friend I have who I've gotten to know has gotten busy or has his own stuff going on. We haven't really talked much and he's not been on very often. When he is on, he's playing his favorite games mostly.
I might end up deleting a large majority of my friends on discord and Warcraft 3, where we would play games. I might end up not playing that game any more either since no one really hosts games. Also, I'll probably reject friend requests from now on since it never goes anywhere. I've been perfectly able to play singleplayer games or be alone. It's probably just time again to rediscover that bliss again.
No.14356
>>14347I've never understood how this was possible for people. I always blamed my morbid obesity, but there's something strange about the fact that even the people that only knew me online, found the idea of me having a girlfriend laughable. It really felt like everyone was getting into relationships, except me.
No.14375
>>14351you seem very based sushi roll. i also have been replaying some single player button mashers they are a wonderful time warp. in all seriousness battle.net isn't as quick as it used to be and many warcrafters are either WoWers or LOLers now
No.14382
>>14375After that post, I started playing Daggerfall again. I also got ahold of a rom of Glover to play. I can't leave Warcraft 3 yet since there a few games I want to complete from it, and another friend of mine is developing another custom game. Once I've beaten the games and he's done, I'll have nothing to return to. In the meantime, I'm going to complete games that I actually want to and focus on myself. Thanks for the compliment.
No.14383
>>14382>DaggerfallBased. I think I once tried that one but didn't stick to it, I think I was looking for a TES3 experience. How is it?
No.14385
>>14383Daggerfall is really fun. I realized, after coming back to it again on Daggerfall Unity, that the things that I did in the original, the exploits, were making it more fun for me. I would use spell absorption and absorb my own ranged area of effect spells. Also, they patched out the glitch/exploit/thing that makes all destruction spells cost 5 spell points once you master destruction magic. After I realized that, I realized my character, while being a good mage, wasn't good enough to take on vampires without me manually dodging.
I also made a thief character who plays completely differently, but I think thief skills aren't that good in this game. Pickpocketing, lockpicking, backstabbing, and possibly stealth are useless skills. Also, the Thieve's guild doesn't give much money for rewards for their quests. However, they train like all other factions, and that's what you want. It's hard to level the dodging skill and critical strike. They also have spymasters and give you the ability to bribe judges if you get caught.
Daggerfall hits different from Morrowind. Everything's more magical to me. I remember reading a book in Morrowind about a girl who became an orphan and was raised by a witch's coven in Daggerfall. Those places actually exist in game, and with the details of thick forests and fogs along with magic and political intrigue, Daggerfall, to me, is as unique as Morrowind.
I've been considering doing most quests in Daggerfall including the faction quests, the daedric quests, the peasant, merchant, and noble quests, etc. I did that for Oblivion and Morrowind, so I just need to do it for Daggerfall, Arena, and Skyrim.
No.14999
>>14996It's hard to not be clingy
No.15001
>>14999Especially if you are lonely.
No.15007
I think it's dumb to have online friends for many reasons, first of which they will inevitably disappear without notice and no way to find them again. The same can happen with irl friends, too, but online it's a guarantee it will happen sooner than later.
No.15008
You know, now that I think about it, I've never really had "online friends" in the sense that most people are talking about here. I've had "friends" in video games but it's entirely limited to partying up to play the game, we never talk outside of that. Or "friends" on pseudonymous internet forums or sushi rollymous message boards, but again it was more of an occasional posting back and forth on the forum/board, we didn't keep in contact outside of that.
No.15009
>>15007The fact that something ends doesn't mean it isn't worth having. Everything comes to an end eventually.
No.15010
to be honest, at this point the friends i made irl might as well be online friends
it ain't fun being autistic and attracted to other introverts
No.15013
>>15007It’s not inevitable. I’ve lost touch with some online friends, but I’ve also kept up with the same online friends for the last… 10 years now. I have another completely unrelated group that I’ve been friends with for the last 7ish years.
Some of the old dudes that were BBS sysops and transitioned to the internet have kept the same online friends for four decades now.
Not everyone online *wants* to keep in touch for a decade. But some do.
No.15016
Had a lot of online friends back in 2018 but now only 3 are left. We don't talk much now but still pretty cool people.
No.15051
A have a few online friends, but sometimes it can be a few weeks a month without talking to them. But I've found that just being honest about not being the mood for talking sometimes can be helpful in clearing up any potential misunderstandings. Though the people I've met are all pretty introverted like me, so that's probably part of why they understand. I also only really talk to people online individually, and you tend to be able to better form a friendship that way I feel, rather than in groups. Trying to understand how the people you meet feel, and being curious and open to hearing the things they have to say can be helpful I think.
I did meet a friend around half a year ago on a forum, we starting chatting about interests and stuff, but we related to each other a lot and started writing tons to each other. It's gotten to the point where we sending essay length replies to each other. I don't know if that's weird, but I'm having fun so I think it's probably okay.
>>14996I think you just have to find the right people. Some people are really down for reading long posts and replying in kind. It's very difficult to find though, I pretty much just lucked out and happened to be in the right place at the right time. If you're persistent enough I think you could find someone who you'd really click with.
No.15054
Feeling lonely and yet too lazy to reach out. Every few years I do it anyway and it always leaves me very alienated. There are so many things, I don't even know where to start. Many instances where people don't even talk to each other and only spam stuff. Other cases where many places have the same content. Now and then stumbling upon something unique, but then feeling intimidated how people are actually passionate and serious about something, while I just go like "Yeah, that's nice". Also so tired of countless posts, like mental health, girlfriend, kids, wife, memes, politics. The worst was when I discovered some places where people from the little shitty country I come from are looking to meet others. Nothing of those getting to known each other activities sounded pleasant, it rather had the sound of torture like business meeting and company lunch do. Even worse was to see what people are interested in, but what did I expect? Jaded and introverted internet addict looks for similar fuck up to be tired together?
No.15083
>>15054It's not just you. It's the way the internet (and society) has evolved. It used to serve one purpose, now it serves a different one, while those of us who haven't adapted are left in the dust. All I can say is I'm sorry, and I feel ya, cause I'm stuck in the same way.
No.15113
>>15055I'll be honest sushi roll, I'm feeling a similar way right now. I lost someone really close to me recently, and the only thing I've really grasped from it looking back is that I don't really enjoy living much. It's not that I don't have good moments here and there, but I can't shake the general feeling constantly with me that I've irreversibly messed up somewhere down the road.
But, don't let that be all she wrote so to speak. For better or worse we all have to find reasons to keep waking up and saying "I want to do this." Even if it's just to get to the weekend, and have a moment of peace and quiet. Even just accepting that you're flawed and to keep trying is something to be proud of fellow sushi rolls.
No.15626
>>15054The perfect anime girlfriend would be someone who takes showers.
No.19687
I've had the same online friend group for 10+ years now with new people very occasionally joining by happenstance. I like them but I'm basically the only one who tries to get group activities going and it feels like pulling teeth most the time so I'd like to find another group that does stuff together (also just more variety in socialization would be nice in general). Don't really know how to find a new group though since I guess I'm looking for a general hangout rather than somewhere dedicated to X game.
I mostly just talk in our server, there's only one guy I talk to individually outside of that, mostly about seasonal anime. I'm so used to the group chat setting I don't really know how to start individual conversations anymore.
