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 No.3302[View All]

This thread isn't meant to be all about me, even if my writing makes it seem like it, it can be anything to do with friends.

Do you have any online friends sushi? How did you get them? What do you like to do with them?

I have a problem making online friends, because all the sites I go on are sushi rollymous. I have tried a few forums, but I can never commit to them, and they're usually pretty bad anyway. I dont have time for IRC, and I always make a big old booby of myself in live conversation. Do you think it's possible for me to make online friends, or should I stick to being by myself for the moment?
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 No.6899

I met most of my online friends through e-mailing lists, Skype, and Discord. We are united by a common hobby.

 No.6914

>>6891
>I'm flaky with all of my friends.
so am I, it's normal. I just don't have the energy to be around people all that often. The best thing to do is learn to say no, make it clear that you don't like being around people all the time. If they can't respect that about you they aren't your friend, simple as that.
This goes both ways though, don't blow them off all the time and expect them to keep trying with you

 No.6916

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>>6914
i've been ghosted, i have ghosted plenty of times
it's vital to keep everything 50/50, and maintain open communication
that is key to a lasting friendship

 No.7242

People I talk to on an extended basis connected through me through an interest like a video game. My last "friend" connected through me through WC3 and liked Space Station 13. I did not. I haven't talked to him in months.

I had someone I talked to about a dead game, but we stopped talking and the game died. It was also on WC3.

I don't prefer making friends because we eventually stop talking. I don't make any promises, and I made the promise not to have the last guy on my friends list. It is inevitable.

 No.7243

>>7242
it sucks when you no longer have any goals or connections with the people around you

 No.7247

>>7242
That's just life really. People pass through your life and you pass through theirs. A few good ones happen along the way that transcend the common interest(s) that got you started in the first place. Nothing unusual about it.

 No.7265

>>7243

I guess it can suck. Still, I'm so glad I no longer talk to them.I don't like working towards keeping a relationship when these games are just so much more fun. I really hope to play WC3 again in some kind of private server.

I don't even really want friends either. I might have wanted friends a long time ago, but no longer is that the case. So many fun things to do today, and only when something requires a friend for safety, like hiking or something, would I want/need a friend.

>>7247

It is inevitable. Even if they come and go, they leave me a person who knows more. I never knew about Space Station 13 before my friend, and he was nice. He helped me out in a WC3 game immensely, and even though I don't care much for these games, I still spent time on my own terms, had fun, and hopefully made our lives more interesting.

 No.7487

I had a friend I met on tumblr a few years back. We had a lot in common and it was fun to talk to them. For whatever reason their discord account was deleted and I haven't talked to them in a year. I tried reaching out to them on other sites but no response yet. It's always sad when a friend leaves suddenly.

 No.7494

>>7487
I know this feeling and I hate it. It comes with the territory of socializing online a lot but it always hurts when it happens. People have a million and one reasons for disappearing out of the blue and I'm guilty of it myself even. But when it happens to me I always take it personally even if I know I shouldn't.

 No.7495

I joined a penpals app recently, to be able to practice language learning with people around the world. It's nice and all, the only downside is that I now have a big list of letter pending answer. Of course with some people I never made any connection but I do have a handful of somewhat good friends in there. I procrastinate answering because I want to take the time to write a nice letter and also because I want to write them in their language and I'm still far from competent.

 No.7497

>>7495
What languages are you learning through it?

 No.7533

>>7487
This breaks my heart. I've had hundreds of short-lived friendships online. From a few days to a year or two. I often wonder about them and hope they're okay.

 No.7571

>>7494
I've dropped one person in the past, because my mental state didn't allow me to respond. Just… too much stuff going out to write a lengthy e-mail response.
To this day I hate myself for having done that, even if I and the person on the other side didn't "vibe" with each other completely.

I have also been dropped many times, but since I did that too I have no right to complain.

 No.11649

>>4849
Damn dude reflex takes me back :D What name did you go by? The community was so small that I probably would recognize you

 No.11650

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I feel like every time this thread gets bumped some major change has happened in my online social life, but I always talked myself out of posting before today. Back in 2018, I was going to post about how I had made my first online friend in a decade through Discord, and then a year later that I had stopped talking to him because I felt like we weren't really friends.
One thing that trying to use Discord made me realise was how much I prefer email. After a lot of searching, I was able to make two stable email friends this year. I love writing emails, but it's also stressful because so many people stop responding and I feel like I have to keep searching in case my new friends go awol. Most people don't respond to my first email, the others say they're interested but only respond once or twice. It's an inherently effortful way of communicating, so it isn't surprising that this happens. My preferred method of finding people is contact info threads on imageboards or searching the /r9k/ archive every couple of weeks. I've thought about joining a penpal service, but I don't really like putting my information out there like that and I'm not interested in a language exchange.

 No.11651

I have quite a few and 80% of them were acquired by them requesting a picture of my butt, what I do with them? I talk with them about whatever they wish and offer moral support when I'm able it's that or talking about anime, video games and posting cute stuff from pixiv or Twitter.

 No.11655

>>11650
I think I might’ve been one of your email people, if you have one of the cock.li email address domains. Just in case that was you, sorry for not responding for so long, things were happening in my life for a long time. But soon I’ll finish things up and get your email back on my whitelist. :)

 No.11661

>>11651
Why does everyone want to see your butt sushi roll? Is it nice?

 No.11664

>>11655
I've kind of lost track of all the people I've emailed, but I use a waifu.club account sometimes. If you're someone I know, I don't mind. Take as long as you need. If you're not, well, I'm sure that person will understand.

 No.11671

>>11661
Eh not really? It's at most average I just naturally attract horny people I guess if I make one or two peoples day better by posting it to them I don't see the harm either.

 No.11680

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I don't have any online friends because I didn't realize I could use the internet to make friends. Now that I realize I can I fear it's too late.

 No.11682

>>11680
It never is, Sushi.

 No.11683

>>11680
I made an online friend through a multiplayer game I play almost regularly, and I'm in my mid twenties. We've kept touch for at least a year by now.

It happens, the good ones just happen when you're not really looking for it. Social stuff is weird if you're only talking because you're trying to find someone that might work with you. Mostly you just talk once or twice and then you don't feel any reason to keep doing so, that it would only be trying to make something work for the sake of knowing someone. At least in my experience. If it's someone you meet by chance and talk to because you felt a resonation in them, it usually turns out to be something fun, because it was a genuine interest to get to know eachother that made you get in and keep touch.

 No.11685

>>11661
Tbh if it didn't have any social repercussions I'd ask all my friends of the gender I like for pictures of their butts, because they are all cute as heck and butts is one of my favourite things in the world, and one can never have too many pictures of butts, and butts of people you actually know are always the cutest and most desirable butts.

If I was a person who used social media and such I would probably ask people I didn't know (and therefore no need to care about repercussions) that were too cute to withstand for butt pics too, if I had had a beer or two at my computer station.

 No.11782

I've primarily had online friends for most of my life (im 25 now) but I'm slowly beginning to lose interest in it. Of course I cherish the friends I have now that are online, but they feel bottlenecked by being limited to having access to an internet connection and I can't help but long for IRL friends who I can bother against their will and they can return the favor. Whereas online, you'd just close the chat window and ghost 'em if they bothered you. Someone to go get coffee with and eat lunch with would be nice. It'd be worth going broke for imo even though I am not made of money. What loneliness does to a man ;-;

 No.11855

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I'm thinking of returning to an old server, to an old group of online friends. I haven't been around in a little under a year but I've been around for years prior. I'm not sure if its socially acceptable for me to rejoin despite still having the server invite. I've joined before late at night and I never stay long, less than 3 minutes and I'm always in offline mode so I never appear online.

I have been thinking about them a lot more lately, maybe this is a sign that I should join back and try to catch up or is my mind just letting me reminisce but it isn't appropriate to waltz back into the server. I'm at a crossroads

 No.11859

>>11855
I think you should definitely rejoin them, but that's just my opinion.

 No.11863

>>11859
I'm considering it, its a difficult decision for me.

 No.11871

>>11855
To me it sounds like you're overanalyzing the problem, when it's not something you can figure out in theory in advance. You will only know how it feels when you're actually in there again, when you get to know how they respond to you being back. If you decide based on how you imagine it to be likely to go, you might be deciding based on total falsehood. It's just an imaginary possible route, not reality.

It doesn't even have to be something you're deciding so firmly on either, you can just decide that you will go back in once on just a visit (during actual busy hours), see how it feels. Then actually decide from there, when you have something emotionally tactile to work from.

Also unless you left in some kind of Bilbo-esque puff of smoke whilst flipping dual wielded F-birds, I don't see how it could be inapproriate. From what I can tell you left them, they didn't make you leave. Sometimes people need time away, that's not something weird or disrespectful. I'd wager they'd just be happy to see you back, happy to see that you're alive and well.

 No.11874

>>11871
Thank you for your well written response, I found it helpful - and no I didn't leave on bad terms so there's no problem there.

>It doesn't even have to be something you're deciding so firmly on either, you can just decide that you will go back in once on just a visit (during actual busy hours), see how it feels. Then actually decide from there, when you have something emotionally tactile to work from.


I'll have to work on building up the nerve, the sudden change to my daily nothing's is a lot to take on for someone like myself. In all honesty, I have an issue with feeling I won't have anything worthwhile to contribute to a server with relatively active people especially after all this time.

 No.11875

>>11855
I've been on the opposite end of this situation, if they're anything like me then your friends will be very happy to have you back. A year is nothing between old friends, it's sad when you don't know if they'll return though.

 No.11885

>>11874
>work on building nerve, sudden change to daily nothings is a lot to take on for someone like myself
Feel you there, a bit of a semi-hermit myself, though I've been getting slightly better recently.

A tip for the nerves though, cold showers. It's weird, but it works (for me at least, YMMV). Has the same shape/mechanics as most social situation nervousness stuffs, as in you're very anxious before you jump in, it feels harsh just the first few seconds but then it's not really a big deal once you've gotten used to the temp. And feels easier to do with each time, both the anticipation & first few harsh seconds lose their bite gradually.

 No.11936

Why am I hesitant to rejoin the server. A normal person wouldn't have thought twice and just went in and said hi

 No.11946

Making friends online and offline is hard. I have too much trauma and am too into weird niche interests to make friends with IRL normies, but online most people who share my interests tend to hate me for characteristics about myself they don't politically agree with so it's just kinda lonely.

>>11936
That's normal to be hesitant. Please don't be so down on yourself.

 No.11951

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>>11936
Just do it. This is not my advice, though.

This is a direct order from the yakuza.

 No.12404

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i ghosted the only two people i could honestly call my closest friends after i had a psychotic break - only to find out that they permanently cut me off when i came to my senses several months later.
frankly i'm not surprised that they'd eventually get fed up from the absolutely zero indication of any sort of response. but honestly i really miss them

 No.12425

No.

 No.12429

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I feel like I spend a good amount of time complaining about not having friends. There are plenty of imageboards that will tell me that they're my friends, but I think there's more than that.
I want to bond with someone and have our relationships grow as time goes on, I want to have one of those true companions that are always on fiction. Those that are willing to take a bullet for you, and those who you're willing to take a bullet for.
I don't know if that's too idealized from me but I want to have someone who I can post cute stuff with, talk about something niche, and maybe even talk about games. I can do that on an imageboard, sure, but I frankly get more flak than anything these days.

 No.12453

>>12404
sorry to hear that.
have you recovered from that break?

 No.12458

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>>12429
LETS ALL LOVE YAKUI

 No.12462

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>>12453
more or less. feels like i've gotten more prone to them nowadays though; most likely because of my constantly returning problems with hooch.

 No.14340

Walk the night & make friends

 No.14341

>>12429
Yeah, I feel the same way. I'm starting to think that kind of fidelity doesn't exist anymore or never existed. Somehow all my friendships end up feeling fickle or transactional.

 No.14346

>>12429
Obviously you know this, but you have to take the first step at things like that even if it might hurt. Additionally its obviously a desire incompatible with only posting on imageboards alone. Maybe it doesn't work out every time, but its definitely worth putting yourself out there and giving it a shot, even if its a risk to do so.

 No.14347

I have a lot of online friends.
When I was a teenager my first internet-capable device was the Nintendo DSi. There was a website someone made for the DSi's built in internet browser that had a few simple javascript games and a chat room. I ended up talking to people on that chat room for years, and I'm still talking to them to this day.
I also made a lot of friends role-playing in FFXIV for a long time. I ended up falling in love with one of them and now we're married.

 No.14348

>>14347
That's awesome wish I had been more active in online communities in my teens instead of trying to make real life friends who I knew I didn't belong with, for me it's impossible to find like-minded people where I live so it was a waste of time but I still did it because I was conditioned to do so from an early age. "You have to make friends", "You have to go out". If I don't want to go out then obviously I don't belong with those people so why should I force it? I'm not going to change myself in order to fit in.

 No.14349

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>>14347
Thank you.
Your post made me scream out loud.
I hope you have a good fucking night.

 No.14350

>>14348
>I don't belong with those people so why should I force it?
You shouldn't have to, of course. I think it's good to have at least a few offline friends to have a social life with, but if you find people online you get along with and don't have many offline friends then it's ok to rely on online friends that you truly trust and you can make life-long friendships that way that could become real life friendships too.

>>14349
y-you too

 No.14351

I have a few discord friends but I wish I hadn't. All the small discord servers end up living in a purgatory because of lack of activity. The player base grows slightly or stays the same with nothing being done. The one friend I have who I've gotten to know has gotten busy or has his own stuff going on. We haven't really talked much and he's not been on very often. When he is on, he's playing his favorite games mostly.

I might end up deleting a large majority of my friends on discord and Warcraft 3, where we would play games. I might end up not playing that game any more either since no one really hosts games. Also, I'll probably reject friend requests from now on since it never goes anywhere. I've been perfectly able to play singleplayer games or be alone. It's probably just time again to rediscover that bliss again.

 No.14356

>>14347
I've never understood how this was possible for people. I always blamed my morbid obesity, but there's something strange about the fact that even the people that only knew me online, found the idea of me having a girlfriend laughable. It really felt like everyone was getting into relationships, except me.



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