I used to have a bunch I met on an 8chan board back in 2015 (I think). Around 2017 they all started to turn against me and I was dealing with some serious real life stuff that they were aware of but didn't care about. After being constantly blamed for every bad thing that happened to the board I got sick of it and decided the next time they accused me of something I would just take the blame and finally burn my bridges with them. A couple of other members of that group ended up splitting from them and I would consider those two to be friends. They have their own board now that I post on and one of those two that I talk to on Steam. The one I talk to on Steam helped me a lot when I was going through my real life issues and that's when I finally realised that he was a true friend. I'm not really the most socially competent of people, to say the least. Even online I'm not and once I get comfortable I end up letting my moronic nature slip out. I wish I wasn't like that and I've made steps to consciously stop being like that but it continues to slip out.
>>5890>aside from a couple small imageboards that have avoided nu-chan corruption
and what might those be? I found out about sushi very recently and thought this might be one of them but I just found out about >>>/pepe/
so I guess this place is total horseshit too unfortunately
i'm about to drop off the anglo web entirely tbh, the word "cancer" used to get thrown around a lot but there's no amputating this level of metastasis
I usually keep correspondence with people I meet but they always falter.
I swore I replied to this thread before. Goes to show I´m losing it a little.
I don´t even know what I want from people anymore.
I get lonely without friends, which doesn't make sense to me because often when I'm with people I can't wait to leave and be by myself again. That said, having a genuinely nice moment with a group of other people is something quite magical and pleasant.
I just find you interesting, nothing more. Someone is only boring when they no longer seize things. They're catatonic in their responses.
All of the friends I made on irc turned out to be pesos and fakers
Whats a pesos? pedo?
I've known a few people on irc but they always ended communication just because of a lull when I was busy or something. As though constant communication is needed or it's all over. Kinda exhausting honestly, I don't see whats wrong with some quiet then catching up a while later.
I think I've only ever made one online friend, even then we havent talked in years
My only friends are people I met at college or through other friends and we somehow kept close after all these years
I always think about trying to actually make friends in an online game or something but I can never actually get myself to actually put the effort in
Looks like some dumb joke-board made in 2016 and mostly forgotten about, being fair.
I've been coming here since the .tokyo domain and never knew about it.
Is anyone else avoiding friendships because they are boring?
When I was young, I could come up with a stupid idea and get friends involved. We could have a lot of fun with it, getting creative and making up games from nothing. Now, people are "adults" and these kinds of games are for "children."
Some examples are avoiding stepping on cracks in the sidewalk, making up imaginary histories for streets you've never been down before, or trying to narrate the inner dialogue of a person walking in front of you. Just walking around could be fun.
These days, everybody wants to get from A to B and do a well-known and refereed activity C between times D and E after being planned for a week or two in advance. All we talk about is work, news, or relationships. There's never any time to goof off, and everyone has some strict regimen that they're following (or talking about following) to get ahead in life.
Honestly, if these business-like relationships are what I can expect for the rest of my life, there's no reason not to treat "friends" like "customers." It sucks, my dudes.
Welcome to adult life.
It's not like people want to be boring and stuff. They just can't be children anymore.
Adults have responsibility and commitments. Free time is valuable and you need to keep control of it or you waste it doing nothing. Just because an activity has been done before doesn't make it boring. As we get older we find our interests and dedicate ourselves to mastering them.
Also people fuck around all the time, often by fucking with each other or doing dumb shit. It's just a different type of dumb shit. You should see some of the drawings on peoples toolboxes where I work. It's like a /b/ drawthread.
Soubds like you're just stuck in thepast to me.
Got any pics of those drawings? I'm kinda curious
I sympathise, sushi roll. I think this quotation gets at something similar to your problem:>We're in such a hurry most of the time we never get much chance to talk. The result is a kind of endless day-to-day shallowness, a monotony that leaves a person wondering years later where all the time went and sorry that it's all gone.
- Robert M. Pirsig
Everyone loads themselves with responsibilities - in the form of a career, a family or even a political affiliation they feel the need to defend - and when they're not taking care of these things, they relax by talking and complaining about them with other people.
One cannot avoid responsibilities. But that doesn't mean we have to be trapped in the cycle of ever dwindling free time and ever more boring conversations with which we fill our free time. I think intellectual conversation is a good antidote to the humdrum discussions we usually have. I care much less about how someone's day went than what they think the purpose of their life is and why - the latter is actually interesting and a way to discover things about a person which would remain hidden otherwise.
Honestly I'm more afraid that I've become the boring one in these relationships. Most of my friends are doing stuff, developing their adult lifes (house, partner, that stuff), going on holidays or event and what not. On the other hand, I go to work, and go back home again. I don't do anything worth talking about and as a result I have nothing to talk about.
Everytime I hang out with friends, even the ones I've known for years (hell, even with family) I get nervous about whether it will become awkward because I can't hold a conversation. I'm becoming worse and worse at this, like I'm losing the ability to express or even hold an opinion on anything.
Sorry for not being comfy guys
I found that I actually enjoy overhearing other people having interesting conversations rather than having the conversations myself. It's like you get to meet multiple people at once without having to hold a conversation where you have to act interested and polite! すてきですね。
Unfortunately, other people's conversations are rarely interesting.
There was this chat group, I guess these days would be done on Discord (in fact we had one as a parallel channel but it was almost never used), which consisted mostly on rollymous sites users in our language. It started as a well known project in the biggest of these IB and once the project was finished it independized as a community. I joined a couple of years later, those days I was very depressed and I lurked said IB in late hours when there is few activity, when I was contacted by a member, sushi roll L. He was not an originalfag but quite notourious there.
It took me some time to understand the group's vibe and to start participating as I'm not very good conversating, as I grew fondly of it I was using less and less sushi rollymous sites and enjoyed reading the chat log in dead time at school, in mornings and before sleeping; months later most of my vacation good memories were from the group. It had something that made it addictive.
L was a paranoid guy who didn't reveal himself, he had cycles of disappearing with new accounts. The first times he did this I was kinda nervous since he brought me there and most of my "connection" to the group was through him; later I adapted and grew of this stupid worry. We didn't talk so much personally (I almost never DM'd anyone) but I liked him.
To put it short, there were some dramas behind the group which I wasn't aware of (since I didn't interact personally with other members) until it was too late. The "cycles" of L intensified and after giving some hints he deleted his account and never came back. By then I would already grew an identity (or "character") in the group so I didn't worry, but it took me some time to realize he disappeared for good. Because of this and other stuff, the group started to become stale and we memed that its end was near. A new generation of members came in but I didn't feel in home anymore, I became more aggresive and paranoid and after some time of silence I deleted my account to never come back as well. When I think about this I feel like a friendly lady.
I felt kind guilty for not being more expressive then, not that it would have changed the results but there are some things I wanted to talk about to L and I don't have a better person to do it; although I didn't get to knew him as well as others I thought that we were kinda similar. There are times I have recognized him in rollymous boards and times I'm just being a schizo. I know the group is alive and will stay good, I watch some screen captures of it when I'm sad.
When the group was decaying I started a Twitter and made friends in a certain community but later got suspended and didn't want to make a new account. I talk with a few every now and then but I don't want something similar to happen again. There is a person there which alongside L can have my trust though I don't know their face.
Since then I have returned to sushi rollymous websites and I have thought of ending my e-friendships, the fear of pain is real. It would be a problem though since I'm not good making friends IRL…
Sorry for the novel, sushi.
How did you lock your course? I feel like I'm stuck in a rut, like I just can't work up the motivation to be happy; and the fact that I can't makes me feel even worse.
Well, what are you dreams?
People around you is an ideal, but ambition and a dream are what make you feel centered.
I don't have dreams either, but its important to set your eyes on something.
So I set it on learning things.
It's telling, to not have anything to share.
You are alone in this world. But you still have things to do.
I don't. Part of the reason is that I simply doesn't like to type online, especially when I'm on my phone. Also, I'm very procrastinating and posting a comment online is usually just too much work, as strange as it may sound.
I don't know how to keep online friends. My only interests are niche and all the information I know is, for the most part, very specific and not useful for day to day life. Also I don't like consuming media as much as I enjoy creating it. I feel like other people mostly just drain me of the inspiration to create, and I can't inspire them to create either.
I have tried multiple times, but end up losing contact. Maybe because I utterly fail at understanding why do I want from them or what they would want from me.
First convo goes ok but then is just friendly hellos and whats ups that get stale rather quickly
I move often so most of my friends, even if I met them IRL, are online friends. The ones that I have never seen are friends of those IRL friends and leftovers from an old circlejerk group that went too far. Each city has their own group chat and I play/chat with the ones that are online.
The circlejerk is unhealhy. We hate each other, fight everyday but stay together for God knows what. I kind of like them but I don't trust them, they probably feel the same.
Found this site while looking for the source of your pic, I hope we can be friends.
Does anybody wanna be my friend?
ok sounds good
what's your preferred form of contact
I don't have friends IRL or IRC… IRL it's really hard to find/approach anyone that might be interested in the same things as you. Online the hard part is maintaining those friendships as the online world moves fast and your average internet users attention span is much shorter. You constantly need to worry about how to keep those people interested in you instead of fading/ghosting you and moving on.
My relationships have been kind of weird since a long time, never really had any irl friends due to being a pretty quiet and shy person, only friends i really made were from MMOs always, i feel it's way easier to make friends from some silly in-game guild rather than forums or IRC channels for me, so that's where i focused on. After 7 or so years of meeting new people through different games i ended only really talk with 2 friends nowadays though, i could never maintain contact with someone for more than 1 year or so before we slowly stopped talking with each other outside of those 2, my problem is that i always end drifting away from the circle of friends, which is probably my fault for worrying too much about what to say instead of interacting more…i kind of just dissapear from a server/channel after i feel like i'm more of a specter reading conversations instead of an active member of a community. I have been also kind of a NEET for some years so it's kind of hard to talk with normal working people and understand their daily life. I wish i had more people to talk with through the day, and i miss some people i used to talk a lot with, but all in all i'm grateful for the 2 friends i have, relationships are kind of weird.
Yeah… there would be times I would go inactive for a while. But this time I had the resolution, so my first time deleting everything there would be my last. I kinda regret but I think that it is better to not try to come back, some of them disappeared time after me as well.
Discord communities or online communities aren't worth the time.
I beg to differ, found most of my online friends through Discord servers.
But I'm certain it varies depending on what type of person you are.
Found most success when pursuing pals who share niche interests/hobbies, since the communities are relatively limited.
Got nothing from massive, general groups.
The more concentrated, the better I believe.
Wish IRCs were overall still active though.. feels like a continuous deadend every time I enter a channel.
this is pretty much my situation
>>3302>Do you have any online friends sushi
I do, but I'm not too sure I want to keep them.
>How did you get them
Just random communities I joined one time or another, really.
>What do you like to do with them
Nothing anymore. They've changed and not in a good way. They usually just talk about hentai and stuff and I'm grown out of that. We used to play online games, binge watch dumb videos online, etc., and it was fun.
>I always make a big old booby of myself in live conversation
Don't feel bad since I do it too all the time. I've just kinda stopped caring unless they kick me out or something. And if they do, I move on.
>Do you think it's possible for me to make online friends, or should I stick to being by myself for the moment?
This is a decision you yourself need to make and I wish you the best with your journey no matter what choice you make. Personally, I'd try to find some sort of community that aligns with my interests and go from there which is how I found my current online friends. Who knows, you may find someone.
I agree. Compared to IRC channels which are about some certain topic, Discord channels are typically about the group of people themselves. A circlejerk, so to speak, and I'm not a part of it. Also, the "no idling or kick" rules on most Discord channels are annoying because I don't really have anything to say especially when the rule encourages the ADHD kids to flood the chat with their nonsense - looping back to the statement about it being a circlejerk.
Unless that topic is being dead, it doesn't make any sense. Even popular IRC channels are a yawnfest
You just need to find not stupid Discord servers, as a rule of thumb pretty much none of the ones advertised on places like 4ch are any good.
As someone who has been the owner of a few Discord servers, it is somewhat… unpleasant to have too many lurkers. I routinely prune inactive people. It makes one feel like being the groundskeeper for a cemetery otherwise.
That's interesting, I tend to be one of those lurkers, feeling the community is usually people that already know each other so full of inside jokes I'm not going to get and because well, I'm the newbie so I don't want to say something stupid and ruin the fun for everyone.
Maybe discord isn't just for me, huh
Imagine being at a party but all the people are standing awkwardly against the wall staring eerily at the few conversationalists, passed out drunk, or dead from alcohol poisoning. That's what it is like. It is very uncomfortable to be around. It feels like your home has been transformed into a zoo or terrarium by the silent voyeurs.
I met mine through irc, discord and game servers. Some I still are in contact with, some I’m not. I sometimes just sit and think about what our friendships could have been if I had tried harder to be with them ;-;
a-aren't we all friends?
Yes but not in a way that we all want, or not fully. Else we wouldn't be thinking so much about it