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i'm mentally ill and i like all my frens

Okay sushi girls why would a girl on a forum whom I've never spoken to and isn't so active posting randomly DM me asking me if I'm a virgin and just saying that? I don't know how to respond. I don't know what I wrote that brought this on so I don't know if she has seen some vent posts of mine where I am clearly miserable and suicidal or just something else. I don't want to sound overly defensive but I also don't feel very comfortable revealing things to a stranger who's intent I don't know and I've been hurt enough before plus I don't know how to answer that question but it would be considered yes by most I assume but depends. I also am not sure I feel up to possible follow up questions about my miserable life. I'm not even sure if she thinks I'm a guy or a girl.

How do girls like their coffee?

>>20187
black, or with a spoonful of cream & honey ^.^
no starbucks because it tastes disgusting like burnt sludge

>>20186
i cant know what that girl was thinking about when she asked you that but personally when i see loser guys online i like too treat them like my pet eboys. If she starts asking you to show hands or show your face or more intimate questions about the way you masturbate she probably gets off on having control over a mentally ill guy. Youd be surprised at the amount of girls who pick an online loser to stalk to get off, on tumblr any thin male who posts his selfies with a grainy filter and incelcore tag get a ton of asks from girls thirsting after him or bullying him(the same thing).

>>20198
I got tired of making her wait and I wound up just asking her why she asked and I gave a roundabout honest answer aaaaand she replied she's pregnant with my child and to take responsibility lol So uh maybe? Unless it's just some troll but trolls tend to be heavy posters.

Why are girls so aggressive?

>>20201
Males are way more well known for being aggressive than females…

>>20187
with two spoonfuls of hot chocolate mixed in and some cinnamon powder and then drowned in milk.
kinda like starbucks because it tastes of sugary milk >.<

>>20201
>>20202
Hey you two no bully. There is studies on this which seem pretty balanced explanations for differences. They are pretty much close to equal in aggression just express it different ways. There is a ridiculous number of factors.
> Women tend to engage in more indirect forms of aggression (e.g., spreading rumors) than other types of aggression. In laboratory studies, women are less aggressive than men, but provocation attenuates this difference. In the real world, women are just as likely to aggress against their romantic partner as men are, but men cause more serious physical and psychological harm. A very small minority of women are also sexually violent. Women are susceptible to alcohol-related aggression, but this type of aggression may be limited to women high in trait aggression. Fear of being harmed is a robust inhibitor of direct aggression in women.
http://journal.frontiersin.org/article/10.3389/fnbeh.2018.00081/full
> Cognition and behaviour are also shaped by life experiences and environmental influences, which, depending on the degree of brain’s plasticity, can impact on brain function and structure as well. Parental rearing of girls versus boys may differ, especially across cultures. Traditionally, girls have been more often educated to look after others. Also, mothers tend to engage in more detailed reminiscing about emotional events with their daughters in comparison to their sons, which might facilitate the unfolding of the female capacities for episodic-autobiographical memory as well as for perceiving and getting attuned to the inner world of others. Women are more likely than men to display a self-focused ruminative style (Nolen-Hoeksema, 2000), while men tend to employ more distracting strategies. Women might therefore be more prone to engage in inward directed forms of aggression, in comparison to men who might choose more outward directed ways of aggression.
> However, underestimations of the rates of violence and aggression in women in general population might exist. The targets of female violence are often family members and violent behaviours of women may lead to less physical injury in comparison to those of males. This may have as result an underreporting of female violent acts (Odgers, 2008).Furthermore, women may be more inclined than men to resort to verbal aggression as well as covert forms of social aggression, such as gossiping or spreading rumours with the intent to cause harm (Björkqvist, Lagerspetz, & Kaukiainen, 1992).
https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S187704281200287X

Will I ever be loved by a woman if I'm slightly fat and socially awkward?

>>20223
slightly fat = more to love
don't forget that, sushi :)

>>20223
if heavily fat people can get love from women, so can you ^_^

i have kind of an nsfw question for guys but my reasons for asking are innocent!
i like reading shitty fake reddit stories and i feel like "guy gets really excited in an innocent way that translates into a boner at an inconvenient time and people judge him for it" is a storyline that comes up pretty often, and i wonder, is it actually true that guys can get boners just by really strong feelings or is reddit lying?

>>20329
never had a boner without sexual context

>>20329
it is a real thing. can be brought about by strong emotion or by nothing at all in some cases. obviously it varies by person, take >>20330 for example.

>>20329
I get a bonar when im tired and can't sleep unless i get a bonar so I guess so. Not even sexual just big fucking boner to sleep

>>20329
You will get one for no reason at all a lot of the time

>>20329
Real thing unfortunately, In fact strong emotions are not even needed, it might be just a bit chilly then suddenly your little Johnson would decide to say hi for a bit, the worst case for me is during a funeral for my best friend where I am grieving so there is that I guess.

Can men actually invert their penis by pushing it back inside of their body like that one time on Family Guy where Stewie does it or is this just a myth Seth MacFarlane made up to trick lesbians who've never seen a real penis like me?

>>20335
what the fuck. no.

>>20335
Well, you can kind of bag it up within itself somewhat, but that probably doesn't look like whatever you think that looks like

>>20329
Reddit is lying. Sometimes boners happen randomly or while sleeping but just getting excited in an innocent way isn't enough to give you a boner. If you have innocent wholesome feelings towards a girl you are not gonna get a boner.

>>20335
No. But why does it matter for a lesbian? Some things aren't worth asking or thinking about.

>>20329
I sometimes have gotten aroused if a girl i care for is sad and me getting sad from it. I don't mean in a sadistic way. I just got used to comforting friends which became sexual in several cases so my mind must have made a connection between these things. So maybe it can occur with certain kinds of emotional intimacy in certain conditions? I can't think of any other instances coming close to this in my life but my memory is hazy so I cant recall if I experienced this as a kid.

>>20335
That's more a question for a doctor. I think there is some sort of connective tissue that prevents it from being fully retracted into the body and I don't want to risk trying. However there is a condition called "buried penis" though.

ok - tell me about clitoris. it looks like a small peepee. is it really the most stimulating part of girl's private parts? how to caress it during sex?

Women, why do you seek abusive relationships?

The times I tried to be civil and polite things take a nosedive.
The times I start treating someone of the different gender like shit, they get off to it.

So my question is, why? I'm not gonna entertain someone like that.

>>20346
Yes. Find the tip, there's an indention where the hood exposes the tip, and just lightly rub it in circles or flick it upwards repeatedly. There's not a lot of feeling on the hood but it feels alright near the base, where the clit meets the pubic bone, which is towards the navel not towards the labias.
>>20351
I don't know why other women do this. I think there's a general misconception that people who are nice are actually insincere and people who are rude are more emotionally open or at least less prone to hide their feelings to fit into societal norms. That's what I've gauged from reading romantic fiction, at least, even though I don't think this is accurate to real life.

>>20352
People these days seem to hate sincerity. Like, you're a sucker if you actually "unironically" believe in something that isn't "I'm getting mine." A person who's trying to be nice is a sucker and a loser who lacks individualism. Even men idolize assholes and bad guys now. Its the sign of a degenerate culture where people think being an asshole is good because they have no moral principal besides neoliberal selfishness. I'm also guessing that, for women, the rude bad boy is confident and strong in their eyes and they think they can control him so there's an element of posessiveness and security too it.

Why are girls attracted to men? What do you find attractive about male bodies? I mean, a boy can be attractive but by the time he hits his late 20s he's just physically meh. Loses those soft curves and cute looks and becomes just a regular guy. But when I look at regular guys I can't understand why girls are into that aesthetically its just unappealing. Explain yourselves.

>>20375
It's my sexuality????????? What is there to explain, I like rugged features, shaggy long hair, muscles, and a husky voice. Is it really hard to imagine that about half of the population is attracted to about the other half

>>20375
I don't, I'm a lesbian, so I'd like to know, too. Gay men may help you in your quest, as they're both men (like you) and also attracted to men.
>>20351
Not all girls like assholes, some girls drop guys at the slight hint of mistreatment. In my experience, my friends who dated "bad guys" usually had low self-esteem and destructive tendencies, and were easy to stir along into an abusive relationship.
Once you're in, it may be hard to leave.
I think girls have low self-esteem more often than guys because people can be really harsh to them about their looks, or go on about "you'll die alone if you don't settle for Whatever Guy"
>>20187
Black, no sugar.

>>20346
i dont know how sexual positioning would work but when i masturbate i do a left and rigth flicking motion pressing it. It is pretty sensitive way more intense than penetrative masturbation, it feels kinda weird to press it too hard (not really pain) but sorta overwhelming, close to pain but not really there? type feeling. It looks like a dick because it develops into a dick if the fetus is male! Really, all penises are just big clits. Sorry if the answer sounded too nsfw i am typing as professionally as i can.

>>20375
well, unlike the above sushi roll I'm not attracted to haggard features in males, im into soft and clean looks. For "manly" men i prefer a more classical look (picrel) rather than a rough one. But in general I'd want to be with a cute guy who has a cute smile that makes me happy (like nile red/blue a lot of girls want him)

>>20386
so best chances for female orgasm is to engage the little peepee. that should be common knowledge

>>20385
> I think girls have low self-esteem more often than guys because people can be really harsh to them about their looks, or go on about "you'll die alone if you don't settle for Whatever Guy"
I am not sure this really is true or not, While gender norms do expect less from guys in appearance there is still other kinds of insecurities like value as a person or partner. I am bad at thinking like the average guy im an outlier but I think a lot of guys dont as often express their insecurities in obvious ways because cultural expectations where they cant as openly express their negative emotions. Instead they are more prone to vulnerable narcissism hiding their insecurities with a fake inflated ego to conform to societal expectations. I think a girl will more readily accept a guy for insecurities than another guy would another guy in some cases however they are less likely to see them as potential romantic partner compared to how a guy would see an insecure girl. This is because guys are expected to be the protectors and caretakers of girls. Any failure to conform to strict societal expectations is a failure to prove one's value to that intolerant society. If that makes sense.

>>20386
> It looks like a dick because it develops into a dick if the fetus is male! Really, all penises are just big clits.
I thought they both develop from something ambiguous but it more closely resembles a clitoris so maybe it is a bit semantic. Likewise the G spot and the prostate I think are related to eachother too.

>>20387
> I'm not attracted to haggard features in males, im into soft and clean looks. For "manly" men i prefer a more classical look (picrel) rather than a rough one. But in general I'd want to be with a cute guy who has a cute smile that makes me happy (like nile red/blue a lot of girls want him)
What do you think someone like me should do where due to being older and not the best health I became less androgynous and more "rugged" looking when I don't like how I look now? What do you think softens up an appearance on a guy most? I feel like I look less approachable now which is hard on me since im very socially awkward and shy. I cant often legitimately smile and to force a smile it winds up looking creepy so that isn't really an option.

>>20379
>I like rugged features, shaggy long hair, muscles, and a husky voice
Yeah, but why do women find this aesthetically appealing and other women prefer the opposite? Sure I guess a few people would look at something angular and massive (like a brutalist building) and like it but most people usually don't.

>>20385
In my opinion, homosexuals have a problem and heterosexuals too. If there's a spectrum of sexuality, then only people on the extreme ends of the spectrum will have one specific gender fixation. It really doesn't make sense either way. There is something defective with these people. I've had bad experiences with gay men, they are usually hostile or annoying or both and have shit taste. Some are basically senior citizen male pederasts and others like the butch muscular beefcake thing. So you get the same divide with women.

>>20387
I feel from reading and stuff that this is supposed to be a lot more natural and common. I'm curious though, why do some girls like this softer look when other women prefer haggard muscular look?

>>20390
Why do some people like spicy foods and some other don't?
Why do some people prefer X while others Y? Why do people prefer?
We have no idea why subjective preferences in aesthetics exist other than a bunch of dogmatically accepted proverbs "to each their own" or volumes of philosophy, or some evolutionary psychologist proposing yet another unproven (and unprovABLE) hypothesis dressed up like "scientific".
A complete answer would require an understanding of what it means for a person to like a thing in the first place which goes into Qualia and the hard problem of consciousness.
I'm sure there's plenty of philosophers out there have given attempts to answer such questions but if you want a complete, logical, and verifiable answer as to what causes differences in subjective preference then you've run out of luck. Try asking again after another thousand years.

So many of the questions in this thread can be answered by the above. Such as >>20187 >>20055 >>20078, and the very question that began this thread >>13752, etc etc.
Also, I'm not a woman so sorry for breaking the implicit rule of this thread.

>>20397
Don't bother with that guy, he sounds like an asshole and is probably wanting some shitty Freudian-tier answer like "i like rugged features because it reminds me of my dad" because he can't comprehend it in any other way.

>>20397
Why do you have to complicate things so much? Its not that much different to asking why people like a certain type of food or a certain show. "What do you see in it? What do you like about it?" aren't unreasonable questions and we don't need to resort to STEM garbage to answer them. Nothing wrong with asking women how they like their coffee or what guys see in female breasts and I'm pretty sure the people asking those questions are neither assholes fishing for negative responses or autistically looking for some objective science garbage.

>>20397
You could have just said "people like what they like" instead of all that bullshit

>>20399
They are unreasonable questions if you're acting the sushi roll I was replying to. Say you are asking someone why do they like a show and they reply with "Oh I like the mystery and suspense". Well why do they like mystery and suspense? Other than being an annoying follow-up question it also communicates what I probably didn't communicate well enough: People like what they like and you just have to accept that or you go insane trying to answer the 'true' reasons behind it. (Unfortunately my curiosity predisposes me to choose the latter.)

Sorry for complicating things too much, I suppose. This thread really bothered me with how many questions reduce to "It's down to individual preference. Not every girl/guy have the same opinions" I feel like that should be obvious.>>20399

>>20401
people know that they're individual preferences but sometimes stall want to ask the members of the opposite sex what they would prefer if they're insecure about something to maybe have a sample size and trying to decide if the average person from that sex would care about the quality they're insecure about. It migth be dumb but people want to console themselves by hearing about people who find that certain feature attractive

>>20401
If you know why some have a certain preference you can a bit more accurately guess what someone's more statistically likely preference might be without directly asking them outright.

>>20416
Obviously I was talking about someone trying to determine how good of a chance they might have approaching someone they can't ask nor know anyone who knows them to ask. Do you ask the opposite sex you're trying to get with their type? Not that types are everything though but I'm just saying that is why people ask.

>>20416
Yes, give your girlfriend black coffee and a yummy cookie. She will appreciate it. It's best if the cookie is a shortbread but sweetrolls and scones can work as well.

>>20418
>give your girlfriend black coffee and a yummy cookie.
sushi roll… I don't have one. I don't think I've ever really talked to a girl beyond polite stuff.

>>20420
i am your girlfriend (male) now. gimme yummy

>>20420
well, if you don't give her cookies or coffee how do you expect the relationship to start?

Do girls like Xmas?