No.20340
>>20329I sometimes have gotten aroused if a girl i care for is sad and me getting sad from it. I don't mean in a sadistic way. I just got used to comforting friends which became sexual in several cases so my mind must have made a connection between these things. So maybe it can occur with certain kinds of emotional intimacy in certain conditions? I can't think of any other instances coming close to this in my life but my memory is hazy so I cant recall if I experienced this as a kid.
>>20335That's more a question for a doctor. I think there is some sort of connective tissue that prevents it from being fully retracted into the body and I don't want to risk trying. However there is a condition called "buried penis" though.
No.20352
>>20346Yes. Find the tip, there's an indention where the hood exposes the tip, and just lightly rub it in circles or flick it upwards repeatedly. There's not a lot of feeling on the hood but it feels alright near the base, where the clit meets the pubic bone, which is towards the navel not towards the labias.
>>20351I don't know why other women do this. I think there's a general misconception that people who are nice are actually insincere and people who are rude are more emotionally open or at least less prone to hide their feelings to fit into societal norms. That's what I've gauged from reading romantic fiction, at least, even though I don't think this is accurate to real life.
No.20375
Why are girls attracted to men? What do you find attractive about male bodies? I mean, a boy can be attractive but by the time he hits his late 20s he's just physically meh. Loses those soft curves and cute looks and becomes just a regular guy. But when I look at regular guys I can't understand why girls are into that aesthetically its just unappealing. Explain yourselves.
No.20385
>>20375I don't, I'm a lesbian, so I'd like to know, too. Gay men may help you in your quest, as they're both men (like you) and also attracted to men.
>>20351Not all girls like assholes, some girls drop guys at the slight hint of mistreatment. In my experience, my friends who dated "bad guys" usually had low self-esteem and destructive tendencies, and were easy to stir along into an abusive relationship.
Once you're in, it may be hard to leave.
I think girls have low self-esteem more often than guys because people can be really harsh to them about their looks, or go on about "you'll die alone if you don't settle for Whatever Guy"
>>20187Black, no sugar.
No.20389
>>20385> I think girls have low self-esteem more often than guys because people can be really harsh to them about their looks, or go on about "you'll die alone if you don't settle for Whatever Guy"I am not sure this really is true or not, While gender norms do expect less from guys in appearance there is still other kinds of insecurities like value as a person or partner. I am bad at thinking like the average guy im an outlier but I think a lot of guys dont as often express their insecurities in obvious ways because cultural expectations where they cant as openly express their negative emotions. Instead they are more prone to vulnerable narcissism hiding their insecurities with a fake inflated ego to conform to societal expectations. I think a girl will more readily accept a guy for insecurities than another guy would another guy in some cases however they are less likely to see them as potential romantic partner compared to how a guy would see an insecure girl. This is because guys are expected to be the protectors and caretakers of girls. Any failure to conform to strict societal expectations is a failure to prove one's value to that intolerant society. If that makes sense.
>>20386> It looks like a dick because it develops into a dick if the fetus is male! Really, all penises are just big clits.I thought they both develop from something ambiguous but it more closely resembles a clitoris so maybe it is a bit semantic. Likewise the G spot and the prostate I think are related to eachother too.
>>20387> I'm not attracted to haggard features in males, im into soft and clean looks. For "manly" men i prefer a more classical look (picrel) rather than a rough one. But in general I'd want to be with a cute guy who has a cute smile that makes me happy (like nile red/blue a lot of girls want him)What do you think someone like me should do where due to being older and not the best health I became less androgynous and more "rugged" looking when I don't like how I look now? What do you think softens up an appearance on a guy most? I feel like I look less approachable now which is hard on me since im very socially awkward and shy. I cant often legitimately smile and to force a smile it winds up looking creepy so that isn't really an option.
No.20390
>>20379>I like rugged features, shaggy long hair, muscles, and a husky voiceYeah, but why do women find this aesthetically appealing and other women prefer the opposite? Sure I guess a few people would look at something angular and massive (like a brutalist building) and like it but most people usually don't.
>>20385In my opinion, homosexuals have a problem and heterosexuals too. If there's a spectrum of sexuality, then only people on the extreme ends of the spectrum will have one specific gender fixation. It really doesn't make sense either way. There is something defective with these people. I've had bad experiences with gay men, they are usually hostile or annoying or both and have shit taste. Some are basically senior citizen male pederasts and others like the butch muscular beefcake thing. So you get the same divide with women.
>>20387I feel from reading and stuff that this is supposed to be a lot more natural and common. I'm curious though, why do some girls like this softer look when other women prefer haggard muscular look?
No.20397
>>20390Why do some people like spicy foods and some other don't?
Why do some people prefer X while others Y? Why do people prefer?
We have no idea why subjective preferences in aesthetics exist other than a bunch of dogmatically accepted proverbs "to each their own" or volumes of philosophy, or some evolutionary psychologist proposing yet another unproven (and unprovABLE) hypothesis dressed up like "scientific".
A complete answer would require an understanding of what it means for a person to like a thing in the first place which goes into Qualia and the hard problem of consciousness.
I'm sure there's plenty of philosophers out there have given attempts to answer such questions but if you want a complete, logical, and verifiable answer as to what causes differences in subjective preference then you've run out of luck. Try asking again after another thousand years.
So many of the questions in this thread can be answered by the above. Such as
>>20187 >>20055 >>20078, and the very question that began this thread
>>13752, etc etc.
Also, I'm not a woman so sorry for breaking the implicit rule of this thread.
No.20398
>>20397Don't bother with that guy, he sounds like an asshole and is probably wanting some shitty Freudian-tier answer like "i like rugged features because it reminds me of my dad" because he can't comprehend it in any other way.
No.20400
>>20397You could have just said "people like what they like" instead of all that bullshit
No.20401
>>20399They are unreasonable questions if you're acting the sushi roll I was replying to. Say you are asking someone why do they like a show and they reply with "Oh I like the mystery and suspense". Well why do they like mystery and suspense? Other than being an annoying follow-up question it also communicates what I probably didn't communicate well enough: People like what they like and you just have to accept that or you go insane trying to answer the 'true' reasons behind it. (Unfortunately my curiosity predisposes me to choose the latter.)
Sorry for complicating things too much, I suppose. This thread really bothered me with how many questions reduce to "It's down to individual preference. Not every girl/guy have the same opinions" I feel like that should be obvious.>>20399
No.20414
>>20401If you know why some have a certain preference you can a bit more accurately guess what someone's more statistically likely preference might be without directly asking them outright.
No.20417
>>20416Obviously I was talking about someone trying to determine how good of a chance they might have approaching someone they can't ask nor know anyone who knows them to ask. Do you ask the opposite sex you're trying to get with their type? Not that types are everything though but I'm just saying that is why people ask.
No.20420
>>20418>give your girlfriend black coffee and a yummy cookie.sushi roll… I don't have one. I don't think I've ever really talked to a girl beyond polite stuff.
No.20485
>>20420well, if you don't give her cookies or coffee how do you expect the relationship to start?
No.20509
>>19408You can't help feeling what you feel, if you're happy with a man so be it. But to me it sounds like you went for men as a coping mechanism and not out of really wanting to, so maybe you should look into that.
Just remember that surrogacy is the exploitation of poor women and thinking that you should be able to rent a woman's body for 9+ months is extremely selfish and immoral.
>>20078Stable and long lasting! Ones that let me melt into them. I mostly just seem to remember the smell and firmness of the hugs when I've done it with my male friends. but it all depends on the situation. When cuddling it'd probably be loose and relaxed.
No.20554
>>19408>am i wrong for feeling this way?There isn't a wrong way to feel but there are wrong ways to act. We should strive to have balance in life and that means finding the sweet spot of not too much and not too little of anything. If you're only dating guys then that's a bad thing. Find the balance between both genders and you will benefit from both without being overwhelmed by their downsides. If you are fleeing from women (or men for that matter), you are closing yourself off from happy experiences and hurting yourself without good reason. Loving your boyfriend partly because he's not a woman isn't a healthy mindset to have. As for kids, there's no way a male can give you that. Its one of the disadvantages of our sex.
>>20389>What do you think someone like me should do where due to being older and not the best health I became less androgynous and more "rugged" looking when I don't like how I look now? You can't stop aging sushi roll. You can slow it down and take better care of your health and dress a little more to your liking, but you are going to loose those androgynous looks eventually. I guess you can adjust your style and presentation to feel better about yourself?
No.20557
>>20554> You can't stop aging sushi roll. I can try in futility though. I mean some people manage to look pretty young for a long time. I was really more talking about overall vibes though. I don't want to be seen as intimidating or creepy looking. It doesn't help when I am in public I wonder if when someone especially a girl looks my general direction I wonder if she is thinking something bad about me.
>You can slow it down and take better care of your health and dress a little more to your liking, but you are going to loose those androgynous looks eventually.> I guess you can adjust your style and presentation to feel better about yourself?I don't feel great about myself so perhaps. I've kind of already had that problem of not knowing how to dress since it's difficult to find that that overlap between something I like and look good on me and others like and properly represent an image of me to others. Plus finances.
No.20562
For girls: if you met a guy well into his mid 20s and learned that he had never had a relationship would that affect your judgment of him? like would you assume bad things about them past a certain age?
No.20590
>>20562no, but i recently participated in a survey about mate choice copying, did a bit more reading, and realise I'm probably in the minority.
No.20728
>>20055i'd prefer medium ones but small ones are cute. i have no problem with them at all
No.20732
>>20562No, honestly I find it interesting when people haven't followed the normal sort of progression for life where I live. But as the other sushi said, this is probably a minority opinion.
No.20733
>>20728also forgot to mention, i'd take small boobs over fake ones any day
No.20765
>>20733>fakeFake is dishonest. Be truthful.
No.20770
>>20765Better argument against breast implants is the health risks of leaking silicone and that they often need replaced every 10 to 15 years plus the scars created by the surgery.
No.20823
>>20770breast implants aren't as bad as botox. which is a listed biological warfare agent.
No.20838
>>20823I mean… it's done in a controlled manner. The same way that if you were administer drugs at too high of a dose, it would kill a person, but it can have positive benefits at a lower level.
No.21110
Women, do I have to be good at something/talented to be loved?
No.21167
>>21110i love all my friends and they're all good at something, and usually i think they're good at lots of things! but it's just a correlation, not a causation.
No.21584
>>21580I didn't find anything cringeworthy or embarrassing in your posts. Do not fret.
I love you too, Αηonymous. <3
No.21585
Rereading this thread just reminds me how over it is for me. even the "supportive" posts are laden with riders about how attention from freaks like me isn't wanted like this
>>20590I hate myself
No.21586
>>21585why would it be over and what makes you consider yourself a freak? i mean i know that being on image boards means most of us have lower chances at being wanted but a fairly big part of it also depends on what *you* do about it
for every time a sushi hates themselves i love them tenfold
No.21588
>>21580cheer up and look forward or else im pulling you forward from offscreen with a long cane!!!!!! due to our lacking capabilities humans know more about themselves than others do about them , and less about others than they do about themselves. so we cant judge ourselves fairly to begin with when this world has all these colors of humanity
well, word salad aside; youre not as bad as you may think you are, youre good actually
or so i think
No.21626
>>21586>why would it be over and what makes you consider yourself a freak? my age and inexperience + inability to talk to the opposite sex in a manner approaching a romantic relationship. even therapists are shocked at what a weirdo I am.
>but a fairly big part of it also depends on what *you* do about itI've either done everything I could or I'm just too weak to do more than I have. In any case it's over. Nobody wants someone they have to babysit and guide into being a "normal" relationship partner. I'm fat and ugly too.
No.21641
>>21626I think a big part of everything you can do to improve yourself will come back to accepting yourself. You can change your appearance and how you act and even your work and clothes but if you have zero self appreciation then you will always come back to the same. Of course this is easier said than done but how you carry and appreciate yourself goes a long way. Love yourself sushi
