/yakuza/ - site meta-discussion

>>649
It does feel a bit forced often.
Also it seems that pretty controversial type matters become the most popular for some reason, perhaps just because it's accessible to talk about such things that everyone can form a quick opinion on.

I wonder if everyone just talked about the things they liked it would be more pleasant. I get the impression that when the subject is a common interest like tea, crafts, stuff like that everyone gets along really well. On the other hand for kinda hazy subjects like interpersonal relations, philosiphy and mental health they seem to turn sour with a more controlled vocabulary in a short time.

I just try to keep myself in the nice threads, although I'll admit I've given in to temptation and fueled the fire a few times.
I like it regardless.

What's particularly making this site less cozy? I can already assume which threads you've had in mind but I'd much rather see what you have to say before jumping to conclusions. Here's a suggestion, if you dislike those threads and think of them as not being comfy you can either report them or make a thread about them on the meta board and give an explanation of why those threads are uncomfy and why they shouldn't be on sushichan. You can also play the devil's advocate and contribute to those threads by replying to some of those poor souls, after all they're your fellow sushirolls. Those posters shouldn't be demonized and we shouldn't posses "us vs them" mentality, everyone is welcomed on sushichan to have a comfy time.
>It's just never felt the same without itamae yknow, I miss him guys
Itame is actually back and he has been here for uhhh a couple of months maybe? I can't remember exactly when he came back but there's a thread on /lounge/(I believe?) you can read up on. Alternatively join the irc channel.

>>649
I'm back for the long-haul now BB since January
( >>>/lounge/2775 ).
Only difference is I don't run the site anymore so much of the aesthetic is out of my control, but that might change in the future. I'm simply a mod at the moment.

As much, ad hominem attacks aren't allowed. The site isn't meant to be a hugbox nor was it ever intended as such, but rather the level of discussion you'd have over dinner, shedding the weight of things that are on your mind and to enjoy each other's company. And by ad hominem I mean cruelly overt name-calling and bullshit that leads in no direction except causing a shitshow and derailing the thread into the sewer for the sake of being a fucking dickhead.

( >>>/hell/ is the exception )

I completely agree. This site's entire atmosphere feels artificial, like when people ignore an argument or other misdoing and pretend like everything is okay. I often wonder if I only pretended to like the old site. Maybe I got sick of pretending I belong here. Maybe the new users and environment are the same as before, and I'm done pretending. All I can say for sure is something is off, and I don't think I like the way it feels.

Is there anything we can do about this?

I don't think there's been anything different compared to pre-downtime sushi, personally… it's still pretty comfy.

>>660
>people ignore an argument or other misdoing and pretend like everything is okay
I ignore and move on to the next post or thread. I don't feel like wasting time on arguing with someone, especially when it comes to more sensitive topics, and when I agree with someone, I don't feel like leaving a "+1 I agree" comment since I don't feel like those contribute much. It is nice to get positive attention, but never liked how some threads are almost nothing but "+1 I agree" on some sites. Maybe I just got burnt out by the shitposting on other sites.

If I don't agree with something and I don't feel like defending the other view, I let the thread be and move on. I generally don't care enough to defend my opinion anymore since I'm sick and tired of getting nothing but shitposts in return (like on certain popular sites), or simply called a troll for daring to have and defend a different opinion. Sick of that shit. Maybe I just got burnt out by the shitposting on other sites.

I don't think the atmosphere feels artificial. It feels slow, and sites like these tend to be like this when they're slow. I think the best solution to this problem is simply post more, post more original things that make this site unique (no generals please). For me this feels like a nice quiet country side restaurant of sorts. The kind you visit on your journeys, like a regular pit stop where you can relax before you have to stress out about your job or chores. This site with its atmosphere is something I wish will live on, since places like these, sushi rollymous places where no names or grudges will hold you back. No group on discord, channel on IRC, or social media site have been able to deliver a place like this. They might say they do, but at some point, the regulars will start to associate your name with some kind of expectation. You get boxed in, and you suffocate. Say something nice, or ask a question, and your motives are assumed and you start getting negative responses simply because you have a name, and they remembered something you said while horribly depressed two weeks earlier.

I don't remember where I was going with this post anymore.

>>661
It's a userside problem so I wouldn't suggest trying to force a change in that regard. As long as things get booted to /hell/ diligently then that's as controlled as it needs to be.

Also I think this is a silly thread to make. If you want posts that build a different atmosphere, then make posts that work towards building that kind of atmosphere.

To me, this site isn't some comfy themed site, but a relaxing escape from all the shitposting and fanboyism everywhere else. I don't feel like I have to justify liking the things that I like here. I can just be myself and not get shit on for it.

Your opinion might be different, but to me this site isn't about being comfy, it's most other sites that are just too damn uncomfy.

I only recently discovered this site so I couldn't speak for the before-times but I like it here.

I only started posting in this new iteration of sushichan, but I used to lurk before. Personally I agree with the sushis of the opinion that nothing really changed. However, I do think that OP's point deserves attention.
Maybe we can all read the archives and see how it was before? Maybe we should be a little more argumentative, instead of forcing niceness?
Also, sushirolls are people and people change with the time, maybe we are all getting a bit more tender. Also Sushichan is a small community so even small changes in individuals are felt here.
I sometimes wonder how many rolls we lost in the last downtime, and never got back.

>>649
You have a case of confirmation bias. The only thing that has changed, Sushi, is _you_.

Sushigirl from 2015.