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 No.6524

Do any of you enjoy going out/socializing?

Life was pretty much just online friends (gaming) through high school, did a 180 and partied a bunch in college, had a group I hung around with…and now for years it's just been my girlfriend and I. Didn't keep in touch with college people, never pursued friendships outside of work. I still talk to and see a couple of friends from childhood every so often but that's it. I don't even know if I mind very much, but it's something I ponder sometimes.

 No.6526

I've got a few friends from high school and college that I still keep in touch with, but mostly it's my current grad school classmates right now. We all live in one building so they're unavoidable.

 No.6530

I like going to see films with my friends. We drink beer and discuss afterwards. In high school and college I used to hang out and play video games with my friends but that got kind of old, as did just sitting around and drinking. We kept doing it out of habit, but we had no energy to do the silly stuff that we did when we were younger (urban exploration and occasionally stupid petty vandalism). Also used to socialise over Skype or whatever playing multiplayer games, but same story–it got old but we kept doing it out of habit and I don't think anyone enjoyed it anymore by the time we stopped.

 No.6534

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No I don't.
I've lost contact with all classmates and people from university years ago. I'm a domestic human bean. Work-home-work-cafe on a day off, sitting in a corner and reading a book.
My last relationship failed 5 years ago.
My phonebook is made of my coworkers and my mother.
I don't want my life to change.

 No.6535

>>6524
I'm in pretty much the same situation as you OP, I've met a LOT of new people though. My problem is that no one I meet is very interesting and interacting with them drains me of all my energy. Also it's just too comfy to cuddle with my girlfriend so I don't even try to look to other things to do.

 No.6539

I don't like socializing.

I *can* do it if I need to, like for work. But that's just putting on a mask for others' sake than my own.
Especially if I'm in a group I find I'm the odd one out, and I can only hold out so long with small talk.

Even online friends are hard to keep up with and I feel like I can't stay likeable enough to hold a deep conversation with. I don't feel as comfortable with social media anymore either.

The only people I regularly talk to are my parents.

 No.6553

I do enjoy having some company but I'm not that great at socializing honestly. I have a couple of friends I occasionally exchange some messages with, and sometimes we meet up, but usually they are so distant to me I consider them as "part-time friends".

My last relationship ended roughly 2 years ago. Nowadays there is another candidate, but I'm not sure if I can pull this one off. I need to shake off my insecurities first though. Time will tell.

 No.6554

No, not really. I'm not a big fan of "nightlife". Don't drink, don't smoke, don't like football so that's also out of the question. Conflict makes me anxious, hate politics, conservative when it comes to relationships and "sexual liberties". The only outdoor activities I do are just cycling, going for evening walks or late night driving. The rest are indoors and mostly online.
As for actual interactions, both online and irl they are usually pretty shallow. Work, current state of affairs or situational comedy. On holidays, often days go by without directly engaging with someone.
I can't really connect with people emotionally and form meaningful relationships. I've been with my waifu since I graduated from high school, so 7 years ago. Right now, it is unfathomable for me to live life any other way. It just means that I have all the time for myself and to explore the world.

 No.6559

>>6524
I am not very similar to the people that I often meet, and I find it difficult to connect with them.

However, from my experience, making a good friend requires that you spend a lot of time together, and even those good friends end up being simultaneously close yet distant. How can you be close and distant? When you see them, you feel very close, as if, despite any circumstances, they've got your back. Still, they can't be part of your daily life because your lives are simply very different.

It's unfortunate, but the only real way to make close friends is to find something that you do habitually with those people. Then, after a bit of time, you start doing other things together, making the connection stronger. Eventually, you're inviting them over for Christmas dinner or something like that.

The worst thing about adult life is that most people understand this. They start treating friendships as alliances and habitually filter their output to match their plans for making friends. The connections become superficial and you start doubting who your real friends are.

Eventually, you have to start taking inventories of friends' actions, and you become the thing that you hate, a cold, calculating son of a friendly lady.

 No.6568

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I don't often take the initiative, but it's something I enjoy doing a lot.
I have one friend group I tend to party with and stuff, while the other is more casual friends I play pool and eat out with.

Still, I'm more of an introvert, as I absolutely cannot socialize regularly in a short period of time: it's something I find really fun, but it drains my batteries like nothing else. Conversely, I'm fine with staying alone at home for a week at a time, but if there's the opportunity to do exciting stuff, I'm not gonna refuse.

My life during middle/high school was spent online when I was at home. I had plenty of friends in class back then, but would never meet up or really do anything together once the final bell rang.
Meeting up with those old friends once a year and spending a day together put me in a really good mood every time. It feels like I'm redeeming myself for not doing so back then.

 No.6578

I tend to only 'go out' with friends that I have known and trusted for a long time (luckily me and my core group of HS friends all get together fairly consistently despite having graduated three years ago). I tend to be a lot more introverted and shy when it comes to interacting with strangers in a setting outside of university or work. That isn't to say that I don't make friends, but I tend to just be more comfortable around those that I have had long term connections with.

 No.6636

No.
Fortunately I'm at a point where I don't really need to atm. But the nature of society requires one to do so in order to make a living, so I'll have to. I intend to read some books on the matter and see if I can learn to at least put up a decent performance. I did realize at some point that one just needs to pit on an act, that is to say: don't be yourself. Just act like you like it.
One thing I can't stand is that people are always expecting you to do some converstation, but I have not much in common with most people, so I hardly know what to say and it seldom goes beyond some trivial exchange avout the weather or something menial.
Even with many of my old "friends" I cannot really keep much of a conversation, we're just too different.

 No.6637

Think I do, there's just nobody to socialize with

But at my last work I did a few times and it was nice. When I tried with coworkers in the current one things got very boring very fast

 No.6644

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I dunno, kind of?
I mean I like people, but I'm also have a bit of a distant and alien attitude so me connecting with anybody is really uncommon, especially since I can't into smalltalk if it's not somebody I know well.
Have a few old friends but sometimes feel totally grey and obliterated afterwards on the trip home even though I had a good time. Was a good while since I got to know anybody new, kinda actually have one or two bread crumb trails for some might-be friendlies, but most of the time I end up feeling indifferent towards the concept again and think the effort/risk isn't worth it. It's a big burden to become part of somebodys world.

 No.6669

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Yes and no.
I've had a lot of trouble getting along with IRLs recently so most of my friendships take place online. I still find myself doing the occasional social type thing. Mostly college friends but the occasional person from high school.
I've worked multiple jobs, but never really hit it off with any of my coworkers. Not on bad terms, just never met anyone who became anything other than my coworker.
My biggest thing is that sometimes I just lack the interest or energy to be outgoing or feel like I would rather be doing something by myself. I don't do very well in large group scenarios and often find myself preferring to go out with just 1-2 people at a time.

 No.6675

Yes. I'll usually default to extracting my entertainment out of the internet, but I'll gladly head out with the lads to catch a live concert and have more than a few beers.

 No.6678

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>>6524
Holy crap, are you me? I did the exact same phase change from high school to college, and then I married my girlfriend while I was at it. I'm with you, OP. Sometimes I wonder if I should care more about socializing, but in the end I have other things to think about and do. I'm content without needing to go out. Those days are behind me (though they were good days).

 No.6934

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>>6524
Almost never now. I have 2 or 3 people on discord and a penpal I've had for a year. I don't bother with people anymore, and being a solitary hikki/neet is preferable to dealing with people's bullshit. Not like most people interest me anyway. I might find someone for entertainment but other than that they're nothing more to me. And I know they feel the same way.

 No.6948

I dislike socializing both irl and online. There's only one person I can tolerate near me and we don't talk much either. We just do our own thing in the same living space for most of the time. It's the most desirable setting.

 No.6961

Sure, I like socializing. Most people I see these days I know from the internet though and most socializing I do is just sitting around and drinking beer. I didn't have many friends growing up and most of them became junkies or neets who I'm not that much in contact with anymore. Sometimes I wish I had some normal offline friends but I guess I'm pretty happy with my situation.



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