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Hmm, you're thread is uncomfy. I don't want you to feel the uncomfy need to hide your uncomfy feelings, but it would be nice if you were trying to make yourself and others feel more comfy here.
Thanks!
Compassion is contrasted by cruelty. strength gives one the power to choose to be cruel or compassionate. A weak person might be too scared to be cruel even if they want to. a strong person is more likely to be able to be cruel if they wanted to, so compassion from them shows more. This is the abstract kind of strength, like the power to make things go the way you want. Physical strength helps with that, but charm and social influence I think are more powerful.

>>6375
that's probably an oversimplification, but i get where you're coming from. i find it difficult to balance, personally; not wanting to be vulnerable but still wanting to be sensitive to others

I think that compassion and strength go together quite well.

The idea that these two are contrasting is your weakness.

sushi roll your compassion is your strength! Don't let people make you think your kind heart is a weakness! You're not weak sushi roll, you've probably endured a lot in your life. There are people out there who will exploit your kind heart, but don't fret, you will find somebody who can appreciate you for who you are!

its like a penis. When you're gentle with it, it gets harder

>>6429
Don’t air dirty laundry in public please

>>6389
This. Strength is needed to transform compassion into something that has an impact on the real world. When I was younger I was *only* stoft. Which led to me being vulnerable and the target of abuse aswell as giving advice and being compassionate on a basic level that ultimately wasn't more than just sweet words and nothing more. Now I'm stronger and less soft but my compassion has reached a level where it can actually benefit my peers and help them in a meaningful way.

>>9996
Can you give a concrete example of this? Not that I doubt you, I'm just having a hard time picturing what this looks like.

>>9997
Yeah sure. It's like when you say to someone that everything will be okay, then you slap them on the ass really hard and call them "beautiful".

>>9997
What >>9998 says.
No but in all seriousness: It's being able to pat a partner on the back when things go awry, reaffirm that everything will be alright and then help them resolve the problem at hand and maybe even tell them where they fucked up, if that's the case. A situation I can think of is when my gf got a letter from her health insurance demanding 35.000€ because she forgot to hand in the papers that document her income. Just being compassionate doesn't help in that situation. She was panicking and crying so I had to calm her down etc. But once that was done, I had to help her take care of the thing at hand in a constructive manner e.g. calling the insurance company, collecting paperwork, writing an E-Mail - all that jazz.
Like I said above: It is also about being strong enough to also criticize your peers. Compassion does not always mean making people feel good. Sometimes it's the most compassionate thing to point out mistakes and wrongdoings even if it hurts them.
Well I used to be a person that always had surface level head-pat things to say, when things got bad but I eventually figured out that I'm great at solving problems so I stuck to that. I also learned that critcising friends is important if you want a friendship to last.

>>9997
I lift to give stronger hugs.

Western culture has a weird aversion to compassion that I've never understood. Being nice to people doesn't make you weak, it makes you nice. Compassion is what makes us human. It should be celebrated.

>>10433
I'm just tired of it not being reciprocated. Maybe the next world will be a kinder one.

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>>10437
Let's make this world a kinder place…

The way I see it, compassion is the existence of strength combined with the will to use it for good. A person that is only nice to people who are stronger than them and could hurt them isn't compassionate, they are a coward. A compassionate person is kind to others that they are stronger than and could easily hurt for gain or ignore for convenience. This extends to animals and children as well. Even if you don't consider yourself to be very strong or influential, there will always be someone or something below you. A compassionate person doesn't just allow the weaker to survive, they go out of their way to help those who are weaker than themselves and give them the same fighting chance at life that they themselves have.

>>14445
You gotta have trust.