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 No.21111

How do I fix my life after years of being a hikkineet? I don't have any marketable skills, no friends, socially incompetent, and incapable of managing my time. I seem to fuck up basic adult life skills and suck at everything. I want to have a job that suits my solitary personality but these offer no opportunities for exploring the world or climbing the social ladder. I don't want to be wasted potential. I want people to talk to and someone to love but I'm too goddamn brain damaged to handle basic social relationships. The fear of failure hangs over me like the sword of Damocles. I feel like I'm fucked.

 No.21112

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Same way you go about progressing in an Rpg, If you don't have a source of income and need it to survive obviously get one, any job you can work comfortably for a short time may work, Depending on where you live even if you fuck up and act like a retard at work you wont or can't be fired especially if working in a student job like fastfood or a store, Don't punish yourself for your fuckups in social situations it isn't helpful to let these haunt you, Think about them and learn from them and try again.

Now that you have a job, and are developing your social skills through inevitable embarrassments you should start finding something to put your free time into, Ideally something you enjoy but that you can market and make money from in some way, Finding out what this will be might take a lot of trial and error or you might already know what you want to do, TRY to minimize wasting your time by doing things you've probably already been doing for years as a hikki e.g (Watching copious amounts of anime, playing videogames, jerking off , etc..)

Your body matters don't neglect it, get sunlight, eat well, exercise.
there are threads on this board about simple exercises you can do at home, going for jogs outside every second day is always good, if you're trying to lose weight though change your diet as that matters the most.

Every non disastrous fuckup is a learning experience Practice doing these "adult tasks", fail and fail until you succeed like beating a boss in a souls game, if you cant seem to get it right learn the basics of the thing you're failing at and work your way from there trying to debug your actions if that makes sense.

Once you've developed your skill to an extent that you're happy to show off to other people start doing so, this is highly subjective and depends on what you chose to put your time into so you'll have to figure out How to market your new skill.

Once you have some stability in your life you can go out and seek out serious romantic relationships.

Also don't completely dedicate all your time to one thing, Unless you REALLY like doing it, Otherwise take breaks every day, ideally at a scheduled time near your bedtime, Do anything that you find relaxing and enjoyable, bonus points if its a creative instead of consumptive activity.

The Friends part I cannot help with, Depends on what sort of friends you want and if you're willing to deal with normalfags.

Don't take this advice too seriously as I'm not much better off than you are, there is far better and more coherent advice out there than this but hopefully you can find something of use here anyways, Goodluck.

 No.21113

I feel like I'm too old for NEET repair, beyond getting a job of course.

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>>21111
with a get like this you cant fail! i would say practice social skills. talk to people in person. its a matter of practice. start looking for a job once you can at least fake confidence.

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>>21111
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>>21111
My philosophy is the best thing you can do is start. These things take time, but as you take on one responsibility it will eventually fade into another one and eventually you'll acquire more skills. Nobody is perfect, so you shouldn't beat yourself up for not having the talent and sociability you believe you lack. If I were you I would start off by finding an easy going solitary job: security and custodial jobs are generally a good option (especially third shift). Do this to dip your toes into this adventure of self improvement, then you'll have a better idea of where you want to go next.

 No.21135

>>21111
> no opportunities for exploring the world or climbing the social ladder.
How about you first get the basic stuff in check and then care about higher ambitions? Stay realistic! If you have problems with social relationships, you wont climb the social ladder anytime soon. Exploring the world is easier when you have a stable source of income. Then it's all about time management and getting your butt in gear for actually making new experiences on top of work and duty. Getting a bearable job with regular work time helped me a lot, although it's tough in the beginning. The struggle never really goes away, but such is life I guess.

 No.21172

Oh shit, why have people here internalized the slave ideology so much? There is nothing wrong with being a NEET, there is nothing wrong with leeching off society. The most successful people are always the biggest leeches, look at Altman or Musk. They don't feel sorry, that their wealth is based on theft, why should I as a NEEt feel bad, by playing like anyone else? If you believe that being a good citizen/normie wage cuck is somehow "the true life" or some kind of "self improvement", you are cucked beyond believe and you actually deserved to be exploited by society.

 No.21174

>>21172
It is because some people have higher aspirations in life than sitting in a room all day and/or do not have someone to bankroll anything above that.

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>>21172
Difference between a leech and a grifter – the leech is open about taking resources for nothing in return, while the grifter convinces the marks that the grifter is providing something of similar value in exchange for the resources while actually providing something of much less value or no value.

Being a leech isn't sustainable unless you have someone to support you or have inherited a lot of money/property.

 No.21186

>>21175
That makes it sound like the leech is more morally defensible, however… The leech is honest, at least, and he is not a liar and a sophist unlike the grifter.

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Rome wasn't built in a day, my friend. Take things one day at a time. The only person you should compare yourself to is you. Don't worry about society's standards, find your own happiness.

 No.21277

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It takes a lot of time, but you can get there.

I acquired my basic social skills through my first job. Having no marketable skills, being so insecure of my self, I only managed to find a factory job working night shifts. It ruined my sleep schedule and I still suffer from insomnia years later, but it made me feel integrated into society. In addition, I felt some job stability as it was hard to get fired from a crap job like that. Eventually I wasted that hard earned money of figya and crypto, but I think I learned my lesson.

I then quit that job and decided I wanted to go to college. I've always liked studying even though I just skimmed through high school not caring about grades. The most realistic option for me was a BA in marketing (even though I really wanted something "tech") at a nearby college since I had to work and study at the same time to pay for the tuition (that is possible where I live). Over the course of the following 3 years I worked for half a year through a 6 month contract and stayed at home during the other half.

That was actually quite a cosy and peaceful time since I could relax knowing I had the necessary funds get through college. I learned to do laundry, cleaning, studied foreign languages and researched topics that interested me such as economics. I would go for a jogging or perhaps take a stroll around the neighborhood in the early morning, then make my self a cup of tea and study for the rest of day. I really developed a sense of who I was and what I wanted during that time. Anime and my wapanese tendencies also helped me get through it. Take this video for example https://youtu.be/uZGYB5U8SOc "I want to dress nicely like them and work in a highly developed city such as Tokyo" - I thought. That sort of escapism gave me a vision of a world where I could thrive, offering me inspiration and structure.
Mind you, I would drive to college, attend classes for the express purpose of achieving good grades, and go back home. I did not socialise, even though many opportunities presented themselves throughout.

Finally, I graduated and have been working at the same place ever since. I know many people in my class that have not yet found a job, or found something else unrelated to the field. At my current job I went on my first ever lunch and dinner with work colleagues, did team building exercises, had to lead meetings with clients (which still give me impostor syndrome), went on a short business trip to attend and represent at an event, stayed for the first time at an hotel. I also made my first friend in many years, and by inviting that person (her) to a coffee shop after work. It was the first time ever I invited someone else for socializing. Let's see if I can keep the friendship going since she quit our company, but it is nonetheless a milestone worthy of being celebrated.
Something else I did for the first time was creating an Instagram profile when everyone else has had one since high school. I'm trying to chat with a couple old friends from high school and one acquaintance from college. I'm not expecting much. It feels like most people have a set social circle and are not very keen on letting others in or wanting to rely on new people. I still spend my weekends at home or with family. I do not have a "friend" who I go out with often. However, I am infinitely more socially active that ever before, and I know it's possible to make friendships as an adult, so I assume it's a matter of keep trying and keep acquiring experience for when the right time comes. I feel it's going to take many months or even years, the same way it did with my academic and professional goals, but it no longer feels unattainable.
I'm planning on going back to college for a postgrad in data analysis. This time, I want to make the most of it not just academically but socially as well.

By the end of this story, you have read through 7 years of my life.

 No.21290

>>21277
Dealing coworkers is a nightmare. My social skills don't improve. I always end up being the pariah at work and getting fired. Its happened 3 times now.

 No.21338

>>21174
Sounds pretty cucked. I enjoy taking from society and giving nothing back. But yeah, we need wagecucks with "higher aspirations", because someone has to pay my bills.

 No.21340

>>21338
what do you do with all that free time

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>>21338
I get that you have to rationalize it somehow, but contrary to certain modes of belief society tends to give back a lot more to those that give to it, rather than sit and leech.

You are very welcome though, I don't really mind some people living on charity several times removed. Hope you are making a good time of it.

 No.21401

>>21111
No need to break yourself and become someone. Be yourself.

 No.21415

Write to Escape Your Default Setting



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