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>>18520
You either do it or you don't. It's your life to ruin as you see fit.

Has anyone not?!

>how did you manage it
If it's something I need to do once, like getting a job, it helps me to think about how there's never gonna be a 'good' time to do it, and the longer I delay it the rougher it will be. So regardless of how hard it is, I simply must force myself.

If it's something I need to do frequently, like going to work each day, I think forcing it is every single time is gonna be too hard, so it's better to prioritize making it easier. Which is easier said than done.

I used to just have the willpower for it, but it's gone now. I spent years forcing myself to do important things until eventually I snapped and now I can barely force myself to eat or even get out of bed. fells like it'll be this way forever now

How is electricity so cheap?

>>18557
Biribiri~!

>>18559
ZAP

>>18520
I visualised the consequences of not doing it, spiralling into a life threatening outcome. Then I thought about how great I would feel once it's done.

I just put it off until I absolutely have to do it or it's too late to do anything. More often than not it's the latter. I wish I knew how to change.

>>18578
I can strongly relate.

I know change is possible, but sometimes it requires first a change of environment in order to enact the change.

I can't initiate the change of environment and feel stuck in the same unchanging, unending delay.

JUST DO IT

I continue to be curious about the same questions too, so I should say I started by exploring what behavioral scientists observe and can comment about our tasks and motivation. The best grains of advice I adapt so far are taken from a book called “How to Change” by Katy Milkman, which by accumulating high marks from the NPR editors gave me a thrust to buy it.

Here are some examples of my strategies:
(1) Chores promoting a clean living space
>>Using “temptation bundling” with inspiring music and streaming shows, etc. I am only allowed to use temptations to ease the pain that, without using a temptation, would hurt to do a task otherwise. Listening to punk when doing dishes is awesome.
(2) Weaker personal and weaker school projects
>>I tell people my plans and mention a personal deadline. This is a “soft commitment device” designed to leverage cognitive dissonance.
(3) Stronger projects
>>I have subtracted some personal savings to donate as punishment if I did not complete, for example, stages of late calculus homework. This is a hard “cash commitment device.” It works very well because money is precious. The higher stakes help most.
(4) Medium length goals like an entire class load
>>Documenting time and maintaining streaks.
>>Studying streaks and accumulating completed tasks on columnar paper with stickers helped me appreciate progress so to retain motivation longer.
(5) Shit I really did not want to do because of the difficulty, like making a paper in APA format
>>Begin to make an unordered list of everything else you want to do. Do those things. Now you can only do that one thing because procrastination forces you to.

Whatever it is, and whatever strategies you use, you must convince yourself are part of a game that you must play. Buy in. Begin with a fresh start, like a Monday, even a foreign holiday, and continue until you restart to continue again.