OK, you wanna know the truth? I'll tell you the truth. My childhood blanket. The sheer comfort embedded in that thing has the potential to bring me down from the most stressful of scenarios. I just lay on my bed or sit in my chair and run my fingers over it like I have since the moment I got it. Very embarrassing, since I live in housing with other people my friends have all seen me fiddling with it a couple of times, but I guess it's preferable to pretending everything is OK and then feeling worse. Everyone has a coping mechanism.
My experience differs from >>13676
. I can't play video games when I'm angry (although I'm not angry often) but I can play them when I'm upset. When things are just plain bad, a good JRPG puts me in a place where my issues seem smaller for just a little while.
Spoiler for uncomfy meta analysis
"Drugs" is a pretty broad category that people have a lot of opinions on, so declaring them "evil" is a bit pretentious. But I would agree that most people use them for either "enjoyment" or "insight" and in the particular case of enjoyment, they usually just make things worse, destabilizing ones reward system. However, I don't think people turn to drugs for enjoyment or coping unless other things are going wrong for them, so I'd be more ok saying those other things going wrong is evil then drugs themselves.
"Insight" is a bit more complicated. I think there is real meditative insight to be gained with certain drugs under certain conditions, but I think most insight drugs are actually just stimulating parts of the brain that express the feeling of having important insight, with no important insight required. In this way simply using meditation for insight is cheaper, safer, and more effective.
And for my answer to OP, when I'm feeling down what I mostly do is stay down. Being 'down' to me is the state of focusing on negative things "Ahh these are things I hate about myself", "Oh this is something I did wrong", "eek I'm expecting the world to hurt me in this way". And those are important things to think about and it hurts to think about them. I think it's healthy to approach them with an attitude of overcoming problems like "ok I did that wrong, how can I do better in the future" or "Ok, that's something that could go wrong, how likely is it and how should I prevent it"… but I don't really do that to be honest. I just brood and feel upset and consider the specifics of the things I don't like. There's a part of me that feels like, theres a way the world should be inside my mind, and a way the world actually is, and if I can't change the world I don't want to change my mind. I'd rather just be angry and sad. Crying sometimes feels like the right thing to do.
But there are things I do that feel pretty comfy. Sitting outside with a cup of tea and a book. Warm food like soup. Lighting incense to make my room smell nice. Having a cold shower before going to bed so that the warmth of my bed feels better. Watching slice of life anime or reading any of hitoshi ashinano's or tsukumizu's manga. These things feel pretty comforting to me.
I like cleaning and organizing my room. Its really relaxing for me. Also, listening to comfy music
Mostly just listening to melancholic music, or do something that will improve my personal environment when I can't have fun anyway. Like going through some computer folders and tossing what wasnt as interesting as I felt when I fetched it down, or clean a part of my physical space.
One of my best recipes is to take a late night walk with the album "Harold Budd - Avalon Sutra" in your headphones.
Oh and also, this is something I only do when I already am comfy to increase comfy levels further, but someone else may find it usable to de-uncomf:
Go on safebooru and search for some tag of comfy attribute, like for example, "blanket", "teacup", or whatever else I associate with good pleasant times.
Sometimes I clean shit, other times I just doze off to some ambient music or vent in my diary.txt
Juno? >;3 nyaa is that you, be honest?
I like to move around.
I like going outside.
I like the sun on skin.
I am a snake in blood.
Tea and reading instantly come to mind.
Sushichan I suppose. When things are rough, and they normally are, it's a calming atmosphere here.
Sometimes just opening anime in MPV and half-watching it while I program does a lot for me.
I like to meditate for a few minutes sometimes and then use the focus I get out of it to daydream about living in a cabin in the snow. I started doing this a couple of years ago for some reason, building up a little peaceful area in my mind has been nice.>>13680
How could I forget soup, there's nothing more comforting in the world than hot lentil soup on a cold day to me>>13753
Infectiously comfy cat
This thread is kind of making me realize that I don't really have anything like that. It's like I'm just so constantly trying to manage the void and throwing everything I have at it that I don't really have a special little "treat" I can give myself. Huh.
Coffee's nice, though.
Ever consider diving deeper into techniques? You can make some shockingly good coffee with just a few extra things, I've been using an aeropress (along with a burr grinder and a dialable electric kettle) and it really brings out many notes you don't notice in big batch brews.
I guess it's to say meditating on a cup of coffee would certainly count.
Same reason I brew kopi tubruk. The simple effort of skimming your coffee is so relaxing.
This made my day, thank you sushi
I've considered it, but I don't really know if I have a fine enough palette to really appreciate it. I usually have my coffee with cheap cocoa in it, so I always considered using fancier coffeestuffs for my daily cups a bit like buying filet mignon and putting A1 on it.
I might give it a shot, though. I bought a ceramic pourover doohickey at an estate sale a while back that I always meant to learn to use.
Honestly it's so drastically different from a standard drip coffee it'd be hard not to notice, maybe knowing if a particular batch of expensive beans is the greatest would be difficult, but the actual technique itself really ought to change the way even your normal coffee tastes. In my experience, aeropress ends up bringing out many notes very strongly, especially chocolate, unsure about pourover but you may find it to be similar.
Either way, happy to hear you might give it a shot, hope to hear how it goes.
why I have such a large collection of cute anime girls.
this is chibi style. very fun to draw as well
Solitude. As damaging as that has been for my long term well being, that's been a coping mechanism I've used for a long time to deal with depression and anxiety. Particularly since getting a job for the first time in my 12 years of adulthood two years ago. I have a very finite social battery and retail drains it quickly, leaving me fried and unable to do much constructive stuff in my spare time.
I also workout when I can, depending on how shifts line up I like to try to spend upwards to two hours at the gym if I can.
It seems like I basically just try to wait out the sads and that's it, not exactly the healthiest method.
Waiting it out doesn't sound too bad. I often just go to bed, when I'm sad and sleep it away. It's better than loathing all day and neither getting better nor getting anything done.
vidya games tbh. it makes sad and bad times non existent. such a good time sink to drain hours into.
I guess that works when you have the luxury of sleeping at any point in the day and not worrying about the impacts that has…
Waiting it out ends up taking a toll on you over the years, it's better to find something at least slightly constructive to do instead.
Crying. No words or coping mechanisms can provide as much emotional and physiological comfort and pleasure after just letting the water works flow.