www cute cake!
you could look for more ace frens to have fun with and see what advice they might have for you!!
I'm between orchid and pink 5A. You're not alone. It's not that I'm sex disinterested, I feel like I want to have sex with my partner but raw "sexual *attraction*" is a pretty damn rare sensation for me. Oh well?
That's a cute diagram!
I'm Red 3D At the moment. (almost Red 3C)
I've dated an ace person for a good 2 years or so and respected his boundries. He would fit in the Gray category. We mutually broke off once we met and spent time together IRL. Not hurt by it. We still hang out alot as BFFs.
Dating another person and we ended up crushing the both of us on her and turns out she was okay with the idea of a poly relationship. So far it's working out fine =w=
Woops I meant on another person.
Pink, 1, a, male.
I guess I'm a rare case in today's society, or people like me are just quieter.
I don't know where I fall on the relationship type scale. I'm non-monogamous, but not polyamorous. I have only one partner I'm romantically involved with, but multiple casual sexual partners with whom there is no romance involved. I would never date multiple people.
I'm a Red 1 for the other factors. Used to be a Crimson 0.
Most of my past relationships have been casual, no strings attached deals, which limits the pool of people willing to get involved, but is a lot fun when it works. However, right now I'm in a really great, loving relationship.
no idea, I've never been in a relationship ;_;
I'm probably a 0 or a 1?
I had that issue in my last relationship as well. She always wanted to have sex, I have never seen somebody so horny. I am a huge softie, into cuddling and such, of course I have nothing against sex, but she wanted it daily, sometimes even multiple times a day. She didn't even tell me when she had her period, now imagine pulling out your dick and it looks like a raw and bloody piece of meat. Best of all is that she didn't wipe her ass clean enough.
That seems fairly nasty, even though it technically is the polar opposite of what happened to me.
Hope you have better luck with your next partner.
Red 2 B I guess. Normo shit.
I haven't had many sexual partners, but my current is pretty much asexual which has in turn made me apathetic towards sex. But I still feel sexual attraction towards girls, especially younger ones in their 20s, which sucks a lot because I wouldn't have a chance anyway. I know it's just biological, so it doesn't really bother me that much.
That's how my BFF felt, too. I said that it was ok and I can look beyond the sex parts and just forget about it. We broke up over a totally different reason.
I think you are overreacting a bit. Don't break up for that reason. She clearly is willing to look beyond sex and she's there for who you really are. You got something pretty special going on.
1C, somewhere between red and pink, but closer to pink. I might feel some element of sexual attraction when I first meet someone, but I've noticed that my perception of people's physical attractiveness tends to change drastically as I get to know them.
pink 4A, my partner had a way stronger libido than me at first but i started feeling more sexual attraction as time went on so we basically flipped
male, pink 0a.>>13355
well hello there
I've never dated/been in a romantic relationship before. If I do get in a romantic relationship, I plan on saving myself for marriage.
Red 3A and still very confused about what I am. Never been in a relationship yet, waiting for marriage.
105; DROP TABLE *; – hope the data mining was worth it op ;^)
Like you're waiting to get married to be in a relationship??
And yeah it's been fun lol
I am right here, right now
I'm red 1A
I don't really like the normalization of polyamory, it seems unstable, like a recipe for disaster in most cases. Even if its stable I can't imagine romance under those conditions. I'd rather claim my partner as solely my own, and be claimed in turn, you know?
M Pink/Red 1 A
Attraction type varies between people I'm interested in, rather than me going through phases. Have fallen for people even if they weren't my type physically.
Have both had a fling with somebody in an open relationship, and a FWB thing with an ex, which solidified that I do prefer an actual oldschool relationship. Even though it does feel pretty cash money to get laid with two different people in the same day, still not even close to worth sacrificing true longterm 1v1 intimacy for.>>14014
I'd argue that it's a positive on the whole even for us monogamous people.
Better that people can be open about what they want rather than that monogamy is the default only mode of relationship, and then people that don't work like that will still enter those and sooner or later go behind their partners back because they're going against their real actual wants.
Somebody feeling it's okay to suggest that you keep an open relationship or something of that sort early just means you won't have to find that out later, and end up hurt with lots of time wasted. You avoided a landmine rather than having something you could have had taken away from you.
The normalization just means more transparency and honesty.
I don't think I have the mental spoons to work with poly, so that'd be A for me, but I have no negative judgement for people that choose to pursue those kinds of relationships. It's just not for me.
I used to think I was pretty much 100% into the same gender, but I recently found out I had a thing for an opposite-gender friend so I think I'd pick 4 there.
The sexual spectrum, however… weirdly, I don't think I like any of the descriptions. I do not think I have ever experienced sexual attraction to a real-life person that I wasn't already emotionally invested in. Like, usually, the other person has to say "let's go out" or "I like you" and then if romantic feelings are mutual I pretty much immediately become interested, but it won't have occurred to me before then. Is that weird? I don't know. Like, I've never wanted to have a relationship with another person because I was sexually motivated to create that relationship, but I *do* want to have it with the person I like. Ugh, I feel like there are elements of attraction that come naturally to most people, but it develops really slowly for me.
Pink 0 A here.
Pink 5B i think.
I'm so emotionally out of touch so relationships never really have a healthy attraction graph. I don't really fully realize how much I love or am attracted to someone until i reflect on it months later and it fucking sucks. I don't know if I can every have a functional relationship because of this but hopefully next time I can learn from my mistakes at least…. I think partners get super confused too because what I say and feel and do don't all line up. I'm clearly passionate or turned on but don't want to have sex or I seem loving but then claim that I'm still unsure about things and act cold.
Pink, 3, C.
I think I might lean more towards Orchid or Grey, but several of my partners in the past have gotten bored of me for that reason. So now I'm kind of just trying to get laid. I think what I want most in a relationship is to be able to touch my partner (e.g. kissing, hugging, sleeping together, not necessarily sex), and sex is an easy way to get those things. So I'm alright with just hooking up to get those things, since I don't think my chances of being in a long-term relationship again are very good at this point. Each relationship I have is shorter than the last, my last one lasted a week. So I just don't even feel like trying anymore, I just need to get laid so I can touch a human being.
Crimson 0. I'm not asexual, but I don't wanna have sex. It's not something I'm into. I will never get a relationship nor bother for sex. I kind of wish I were charcoal. It sounds divine.
coal/grey 2 B
I had romantic feelings in the past. Sometimes I can't tell if it is romance or just friendship. If there is no sexual component, how do you even distinguish them?
No relationship experience to contribute.