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 No.3259

This is a weird one, sushi rolls. For my whole life I've only been attracted to girls, but the other day as I was going through bad music from childhood I ended up on one of those terrible boybands meant to seduce little girls, the main singer was warbling some shit about love and suddenly for no reason I just fell for him really hard. I watched many more of their videos (cringing at myself immensely but I kinda liked it), thought "that was weird" and went to bed. Ever since then though I've been fantasising constantly about boys and kissing them and dating them. Seeing my friend soon and I'm scared I'll act really weird because now I have a crush on him I guess. Just wondering if any sushi rolls have experience with this? I don't want to feel like this anymore, if you can help me not be gay by sunday you will have my eternal gratitude.

 No.3260

>>3259
I kept telling you to filter the water sushi roll, this is what you get.

 No.3262

My guess would be you're bi but just more into women than into men? I am that way and there are definitely times when I'm feeling more or less attracted to men. Most recently it was because I was thinking about a guy I used to know who I should have stayed in touch with as a friend, but in thinking about that also got strong feelings of attraction for him (that I didn't have at the time) and then was more gay than usual for a few months.

I think it makes sense: if we're more attracted to the opposite sex, and saturated in straight media most of the time, that's what our mind might associate with our needs for intimacy, sex etc. But making a man an object of desire (even if it's not sexual) or getting one crush, sort of reminds the mind that it's bi.

From that perspective, i really wouldn't recommend trying to not be gay - imagine if you previously had just tried to get repress all attraction to women. It would fuck you up, that mental need would have to go somewhere, probably weird obsessions. But not wanting a crush on your friend makes sense. I've always had the best success just accepting that I have x feelings and that what happens happens, and I just won't act or indulge fantasies because it's not possible, and it goes away eventually… but that's pretty lame advice for this lol. What kind of acting weird are you worried about?

 No.3263

>>3260
I would drink nothing but jam and milk if I thought it would help sushi roll.

>>3262
I could have been secretly bi all along I guess? I don't see what would make me repress so much more than other people esp. when I probably consume less media than them and more of mine is lesbiab japanimation. I know trying not to be gay when you are actually gay is bad, I'm kinda hoping this a disease or something though.

>What kind of acting weird are you worried about?

I can just imagine myself getting really nervous or saying some really stupid shit and he'll notice. I already typed out and deleted some awful awful awful texts while trying to sleep.

 No.3266

>>3263
>I would drink nothing but jam and milk if I thought it would help sushi roll.
Sorry, it was joke. In any case there's nothing wrong with being bi and I'm not aware of such a thing as a gay disease (lol). As for the cause I have no idea, and to be honest it's probably beyond the purview of strangers online to diagnose something as complicated as your sexuality. Maybe it was always in there and you were repressing it subconsciously, who knows. Just be honest with yourself and other people. Are you worried about your friendship with this guy being damaged?
>more of mine is lesbian japanimation
Also, this is just an observation because a sample size of 2 is basically nothing, but the only person I've ever known who was huge into yuri ALSO turned out to be gay. Maybe you've always been into homosexual relationships and just didn't consider the other kind of them?

 No.3268

>>3263
>I can just imagine myself getting really nervous or saying some really stupid shit and he'll notice. I already typed out and deleted some awful awful awful texts while trying to sleep.

Makes sense, I'm glad it's mainly about this instance. I'm afraid i don't have any helpful advice or anything that'd be different from crushes in general though.

If it's really bad and you don't want to tell him, and this sunday isn't a special occasion, maybe you can postpone to get some more time to get a handle on it?

Best of luck sushi, and i hope you can maintain your friendship whatever happens (probably can, many friendships do survive this kind of thing one way or another)

 No.3269

It'll pass. I'm straight but very occasionally at work I'd see saw a guy whom I instantly fell for. A couple of days later I was back to normal though.

 No.3271

>>3266
>>3268
Oh yeah I knew you were joking, milk and jam sounds lit anyway. Thanks for all this rolls, I've kinda calmed down a bit about it now, still really confused but I think maybe the bi theory is correct? Sorry I didn't mean to imply it's a bad thing to be I'm just scared. I might cancel which would be sad, not really worried about it ruining our friendship (maybe that's ignorant of me), I just don't want to be embarrassed. Who knows though, maybe he's caught gay disease too and we can get married. I'll update if anything happens otherwise this thread can be /gayificationGeneral/.

>>3269
That's helpful to know, thanks.

 No.3272

>>3259
your supposed attraction to men is just a random spike of uncertaity, further excacerbated by fear of having been gay all along.

how much do you dislike the proposition of being gay, sushiroll? your opposition towards homo-ing is just as legitimate of a feeling as you might be thinking of gayness, and it's been there longer than your thoughts of being gay that suddenly appeared one day.

also, watch the ingredients of the food you eat, soy gets into everything nowadays.

 No.3273

There've been a few times where I've been in basically the same situation: going a while without much face-to-face interaction with people, and I start to think that I might be bi because men seem attractive in fantasies, or in anime or books. But then every time that's happened, the next time I actually interact with another man in person I instantly "snap out of it" and start wondering why I ever thought I might be attracted to men. There's just something about in-person interaction that makes it different (my guess is that it has something to do with pheromones, but I don't actually know).

Of course, I can't speak for your situation. Maybe you're actually bi and just realizing it now, maybe you're not. Either way, I wouldn't worry about it too much. Just pursue whoever you're attracted to regardless of gender, and remember that sexual preference is only a description of who you find attractive, not a rule you have to follow. I'd also like to say that I think >>3272 is horribly over-analyzing this situation.

 No.3281

>>3272
Don't listen to this guy. He sounds like he has a few screws loose

 No.3285

>>3259
I'd say don't suppress it and go to the bottom of this (pun intended). You'll know either right before your kiss a boy and go down on eachother, or right after you climax, you'll know if you're gay or not. Why be scared of it? What's the worst that's gonna happen? Truth is truth.

 No.3286

>>3285
Eh, while I'm generally pro exploration i don't think that's really how it works… someone can totally be into just a few people of the same gender, or have hangups from their upbringing even if they are totally gay.

 No.3337

cute thread



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