/warc/ - Wildcard Archive

>>4
Don't force yourself to go out too much.
Experiment with putting yourself in different social situations and if they don't pan out very well then just leave.
The world is a big place. There is somewhere out there that you will fit in.

>>4
Sushi, it's been 9-10 years since I had a girlfriend. Trust me on this, you definitely come to appreciate your freedom. Yeah, there are some lonely nights and having, literally, no friends doesn't help but I much prefer my life the way it is now than what I was like with a girlfriend.

>>6
I never had one and the only thing i feel right now is lonelyness not freedom

>>7
Let me ask you, why do you want a girlfriend? Is it a physical thing, emotional, or something else?

>>8
>why do you want a girlfriend

Not him but
sorry sushiroll, but isn't this a silly question?
Your brain is simply hardwired to want a gf

>>9
>Your brain is simply hardwired to want a gf
Mine isn't.
Threads like this seem so bizzare to me.
They seem like an inside joke on the level of fingerboxes.
I'm left wondering if any of this is serious, I don't get it.
Not that sushi roll, by the way.

Hey, is this thread serious?

>>7
it doesn't fill the void.
maybe you should try out speeddating and other places/platforms where people explicitly go to find partners.
Having been to clubs, I don't think the chances of finding someone there who fits you (let alone is suitable for a relationship) are very high. Because of the entire getting-drunk-and-approaching-people-who-you-would-bone thing. Partner selection in clubs, where it happens, is mostly random.
And women actually unironically go there to dance, and not to find mates.

Do you really seriously want a GF? Can you imagine your actual self in a relationship?

I used to want a GF, but I realised how awkward it would be given my personality. I still dream about having a GF and all that sometimes, but I never actually imagine myself in the relationship, more like a faceless tabula rasa of a character. Considering how everyone my age seems to be super familiar with relationships and all that sex stuff, I'm practically retarded when it comes to social interaction. I didn't give up on GFs, I just decided to not waste my time bothering with something that I wouldn't even enjoy.

I don't mean to discourage, but perhaps it's too late to have a satisfying, enjoyable relationship. I don't know your age or your experience in the honky ponky business, but think realistically about having a GF.

>>10
Same here. Sure from time to time it would be nice to cuddle up with a soft and warm body, but in the end it is not worth the effort. Maybe I'm just gay, who knows.

you will eventuality come to the conclusion(like i did) that there is nothing that fills the void.

we are destined to stay forever … blue.

I'm not trying to get a girlfriend at the moment, but in the future I would like to have a wife and children. Dying alone and hooked up to a drip in a depersonalised, cramped, stuffy old people's home with only other bitter, decrepit ancients to interact with sounds like a hell before Hell for me. Plus, my paternal grandparents had three children, only one of which had (two) children of their own. Their particular line, which goes back (according to the surname, at least) almost a millennium in my country, could die out at my generation. Obviously there are other families with the same name and ultimate descent, but still, this strand is endangered.

I don't know how or if I'll manage it and I'm certainly not trying at the moment. But it is one of the tasks of life to bear human fruit, as it were.

>>10
I feel exactly the same. I would love to have someone to hug, but that's about it. Being in such a relationship seems like a really big commitment and I don't see what it offers over just being a friend. I just don't get 'love'. Maybe it's just because how I was raised.

I would be happy without a GF, but as others have pointed out, the need to reproduce subconsciously lingers.

>>10
Samey same, I don't understand why some are so desperate about it.
Anyway, I do find girls attractive, and I wouldn't mind getting a gf, but I fail miserably at it yet I don't really care. I've just come to accept that I'll always be alone and it's kind of liberating when you stop caring about that matter.
As a matter of fact, I'm very happy with myself even if I get on my nerves occasionally.

>>15
>But it is one of the tasks of life to bear human fruit, as it were.
But why? For what purpose?

Did you enjoy your life so far? Would you wish another person to live your life? Would you like to have someone like yourself as a parent? If you answered "no" to any of these three questions, then it's pretty much morally wrong to make yet another human and force them to live life. If you're financially and emotionally and all kinds of ways stable, and can provide a happy life for your child, then go for it. But breeding first and then hoping everything's gonna be alright, like most people do, is really not the right way.

>>10
this thread is dead serious
>>12
i believe it is a good idea to at least try it out
>>18
i cant really think of leaving the idea of having gf once behind, i want it so badly, so i can stop feeling so alone ;_;

Im still upset over my last boyfriend human relationships are just awful but we crave them

There was a long time where i was feeling that a gf/group of friends was necessary for me to be happy, but now I've realized that I wasn't really happy around people when i did have a group of friends. Now I'm pretty content with being friendly to people at work and then coming home to peace and quiet. Things may change for me in thr future, but for now I don't mind the solitude too much.

>>19
>But why? For what purpose?
If people in general neglected their duty to have children, that would be the end of society, along with all its traditions, institutions and knowledge which is passed down onto the new generation. Why should I selfishly exempt myself from this duty?

If you have a genetic condition or have a (serious) mental problem, then fine, don't force kids through that. But if you think the solution to struggle in life is to give up, rather than have children who you can be proud of and live on through, I'd say you were wrong. That said, I don't have children yet, so maybe ask me again in two decades or so.

>>23
>the solution to struggle in life is to give up
Think of life as an amusement park. Some rides are faulty, some are fun. More are faulty than fun. You might by dumb luck only ride the rides that are fun, but more likely than not, you will ride the faulty ones and have your limbs ripped off. If you're already there, you might as well try to find some fun rides if you can and stick with them until the park closes. These rides may be fun, but it would have been much better if your car had broken down on the way over, saving you from having to worry about your limbs, and saving you from making friends at the park only to watch their limbs get torn off.

>>24
You have to wait until your testosterone levels to decrease for that to take effect, unless it's happened pre-maturely for whatever reason. I would rather use that predicament on "woo hoo" rather than over stimulate my dopamine receptors.

>>24
If no-one brings life into the world, sure, no-one will ride the faulty rides. But no-one will ever ride the exciting ones either.

Besides, life isn't all about fun. School isn't fun but if you don't have some form of it then you don't know how to read or write. Things can be useful, productive and fulfilling without necessarily being fun 100% of the time. As was the case with the rollercoasters, if there is no such thing in life as a low point then there is also no such thing as a high point.

This is a weird thread for sushichan, but nevertheless, here it is.

>>27
The sushi here doesn't taste the same anymore, sushi roll.
>this thread is dead serious
Is this what they call comfy erosion?

>>26
I'm not one to bring new people to the park, or to try and ride any of the rides, but if I can spend that day I'm there working on one of those faulty rides and fix it I'll be happy when the park closes.

>>27
>>28
I'd keep this one around for the discussion that's happening. It's not that bad.
But I can see it being on a watchlist, so mind your posts.

>>28
I mean we've had "tfw no gf" threads before, this one just got very sexual.

>>21
Relationships are hard. Did you try to make it work?

I'll throw in my two cents, for what it's worth. Contrived as it sounds you cant find happiness with other people if you're miserable yourself. Coming from my own personal experience i got burnt from a un-comfy relationship and fell into a hole of depression with a lot of meaningless sex, drugs and searching for my happiness at the bottom of a bottle. Work on improving yourself an exploring your hobbies. Find something you're passionate about and focus on that.

If you're not outgoing you're not going to meet a roll to share your life with at the club and you probably wouln't want that kind of person anyway.

Believe in yourself.
We're all going to make it.

Stay comfy, rolls.

>>30
The most import thing gf or cat can give you is emotional support tbh fam

I do want a girlfriend, but I have a totally different and way more comfy way of viewing it.

While my fam disagrees with my attitude, I realized a while ago that all relationships, not just sexual ones, are about sharing your life. Last night, for example, I was rewatching Monster Musume and was having a blast by myself. A few times I kinda wished I could have shared that experience with someone else, like watching someone's reactions to the absurd amount of boob jiggling. Doesn't matter if it was a good friend or even a girlfriend.

Playing video games is fun, but when I share that with someone, it's no contest, it doesn't change the gameplay or the graphics but sharing fun times and even bad times with people you want in your life is amazing. So like during New Years I was playing Majora's Mask with my brother. It was already a comfy game, but sharing my life with my brother just made it better, you know?

Basically, you do have to love yourself and enjoy your life by yourself, then you can add people who you'll share your life experiences with.

The uncomfy truth is that a lot of people don't understand this, and they will stay with abusive assholes and friendly ladyes because they are scared of being alone or being looked down upon for being single or they feel they don't deserve better.

Improve your life, then find people who want to share their life with you.

>>15
>currently the last male of the family line
>autist
My ancestors are probably very nervous atm.

>>146
They're probably too dead to give a shit.

>>146
It is your duty to spawn autistic children. Your autistic strand is endangered.

>>27

I kinda always wanted to talk about love with other rolls, but never opened a thread because I didn't want to get blasted

When I think about it, I would prefer a boyfriend. Even though he would not be as sexually attractive to me, the whole relationship would be so much easier. We would be like best friends plus. There were no corny role models.

>>150
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Platonic_love
Easy peasy.

>>149
nothing wrong with love
>>150
I'm with you. Boy love is the best.

>>151

I wish I had this. A male friend who I connected to on a true, deep, emotional basis. The problem is I've discovered it's pretty much impossible to find another guy who's open to that level of connection who isn't also looking for a sexual relationship. If I could fall in love with a boy I would, but my sexuality just doesn't go that way.

I've had a gf before, but I feel there are just some fundamental aspects of the male psyche that only other guys would understand. It's socially acceptable for girls to have their "girlfriends" with whom they confide in, but it's "gay" for guys to talk about their feelings in any meaningful sense.

>>154
I'm not gay but I'd be open for that sort of relationship, maybe later though.
Too bad right now I'm focused on a full hetero relationship.

>>150
sounds like you just want a friend

>>31
I tried so hard. I even took up part time work to pay for some of his hospital bills when he was sick, but he cheated on me with some other girl so I got really soured on the whole dating thing.

>>157
It honestly amazes me that people cheat.
I just don't understand how anyone can be such a shit to someone they're meant to care for, or failing that at least settle things before moving on out of common decency.

More amazing still when they consider themselves good people even after doing it.

>>154
Without a "true deep emotional connection", I kind of had a friend like that last year. Maybe I perceive it like that only because he was the only close friend I've had in years. He's a teen, and I kind of relate to teen boys for some reason, but we were just friends and there wasn't any sort of emotional/sexual context to that.
However, last night as I was purging old clothes I dug up a jacket he gave me, and it made me feel something nice inside me, it is kind of strange.
He's been the only person I've missed after cutting contact, and I do that quite often.

I'll be starting university next month and I'm terrified of living alone and becoming completely isolated from social contact. How do I avoid 'missing out' so to speak.

When it comes to talking to the people in real life- I don't, as much as possible. I feel really uncomfortable around them. I don't understand what their intentions are, what they look for in me, how to be sure I won't provoke them to make trouble for me. I honestly almost feel a little bit unsafe around pretty much any male.

I've been cultured so differently from them- not only in terms of interests, but also in what I feel is reasonable courtesy: to be quiet unless there's really something to say, to laugh rarely if at all, to wash hands thoroughly and not touch one's feet or rear, to be direct with one's intentions. It's one thing to accept that others have different customs, but another to be accustomed to them. And it's not like our society has enough explicit rules about these things that I could study them like I could some Imperial Chinese court…

I've been told by girls I've spoken to online (I've no way to do that anymore) that I'm good-looking, and I concur, but that doesn't give me any confidence or such. The times I've tried to talk to girls in real life I'm so worried I'll seem creepy to them, that I'll seem like I just want sex, or worse, sympathy and affection. I don't see how to remove that impression. And I'm not used to listening to them, and I speak indistinctly, so I have to ask them what they just said, and they the same of me… it's hopeless and painful.

When I was younger and put in social situations I'd act out and speak constantly, without any thought that I might be doing so inappropriately. So this is the antithesis of that.

I met a girl online, and I really really really liked her, and she really liked me too, at first. But I got too overbearing with her, and then almost all I think of saying was how much I hated myself, trying for pity or something… but I honestly don't know what else there ever is to say, or do.

I just don't want small talk, or a bunch of ambient, in-your-face but emotionally distant friendships like everyone else seems to want and be fine with. I only want to love and be loved, and that's an unreasonable demand. I want to be a parasite for apparently undeserved affection on someone else- but I'd love for someone to be such a parasite on me.
>>154
This is why making male friends doesn't have any appeal to me- I don't have any chance of being intimate with them, at least not without years of discomfort, so what's the point?
>>160
Won't you be forced to have a roommate? I had to point out my allergies and anxiety to be exempted from that horrific practice. Or are you in some more sane country?
>>158
I could understand it if we lived in some arranged-marriage society where one was forced into relationships. But we don't- people can break off at any time, and if someone expects commitment they might even be called abusive.
>>12
This too, especially the faceless character part. I don't feel like I have any fixed identity, my idea of myself as a person sloshes around with every hour.

Sorry but I really wanted to get this off my chest.

Truly you are the only one who can make yourself feel satisfied. Getting gf, drugs, consumerism, over eating, it all exists as a concept to fill the void that the world, or rather the human condition of living in such a world instills inside of us. Human beings were not made to be happy, we are here simply because we are good at passing on our genes. We are simply monkeys that accidentally got too smart and realized how absurd it is to be a monkey that is aware of itself. Even if you do achieve gf it will not make you satisfied. Maybe happy for a while but not truly content. True comfiness is a solitary feeling, rooted in the absurd. Buhdust monks know this when they meditate for days alone, and get rid of their possessions. Camus knew this when he wrote The Stranger, the ancient greek stoicists, the nihilists, existentialists, solipsists; somehow I believe we all know this in our hearts, but what separates us is how willing we are to accept it. I know this is a little off topic but maybe give it some thought. I might just be spouting pretentious nonsense though also