Most classes are easy if you show up and take notes, that's the important part - lots of people skip/zone out in class and then bust their ass studying, that's the wrong way to do it.
In grade school you're stuck with the same bunch of classmates for years so you'll naturally make friends, you probably won't in college classes. But it's easy to meet people outside of class, even I could, if you find a group with shared interests.
Figure out what you want, make a class/career plan and stick to it like glue unless you realize something else is literally your life's passion. You can "find yourself" without wasting your money constantly changing majors. Also, figure out quick if the advisement office is good at their job - if not, you need to plan out your courses and requirements yourself, don't get surprised at the last minute.
A little organizational work and studying at the beginning of the semester saves a whole lot at the end, and learning how you learn/study best at the beginning of college saves a whole lot of work for the next several years.
Try to get along well with teachers/professors in your department, they're your ticket to student assistantships/internships and grad school if you want to go.
The college probably has all sorts of resources to help you out with whatever, but you need to take the initiative in going to them.
You don't need to party to have fun, unless you want to.
It's better to in your department or in something related to your studies than in some random restaraunt/store, even if it's a pain to find the right job, because it really helps you figure out what what you're studying is actually like and is worth more on a resume.
For most of most peoples' lives we have to fit in what we want to do and learn in between mountains of garbage; you're entering one of the few situations that's actually designed to present opportunities straight to you. Make the most of it!
The most important part of college is meeting people. No one will care if you have a 4.0 or a 3.2 GPA. What really matters is meeting people who can hook you up with opportunities. Networking. Don't just make friends with frat dudebros or gamers. Find professionally-oriented people. My friends helped me get a job. You can also form study groups with them and have a higher chance of passing classes.
Don't stay in your dorm. Get a laptop and study on campus, like in the library, the dining hall, places like that.
It's better to have As and Bs and a portfolio, resume, and professional network than it is to have a 4.0 and nothing else.
Spend your time wisely. It'll be up before you know it.
I mostly agree with these sushis. Also, dont get into debt. Avoid it like the plague. Whether it's from student loans, or just regular old debt, it will ruin you for over a decade (that is, if you try to fix it after falling in the hole). Just don't man :(
Avoid debt by refraining from unnecessary expenses. These range anywhere from car payments, credit cards, online subscriptions, expensive computer parts, etc. Everywhere has potential for saving money. You will survive, and probably enjoy living a minimal lifestyle and sitting on some hard-earned savings to boot.
So to summarize:
-Take public transportation
-Rely on grants and scholarships as much as possible
-rent cheap housing (it's up to you to improve your surroundings– you just need a roof, electricity, and running water)
-share rent with roommates! vet them as carefully as humanly possible.
-buy cheap food, or cook from readily available ingredients that go for a reasonable price in bulk at local markets
-basic hygeine helps you concentrate
-you'll finish college no problem, so dont worry about that. keep your future in mind when you network so you dont end up with a useless diploma.
You're capable enough to survive without it, but good luck anyway :)
don't major in something you're interested in major in something that will make you lots of money, because all jobs suck and the only thing that makes them tolerable is the people / environment, so the actual work being interesting doesn't matter that much.
As long as you choose something you're at least ok with studying. If you hate it now it'll be worse later.
>>3947>>3947>Try to get along well with teachers/professors in your department, they're your ticket to student assistantships/internships and grad school if you want to go.
>The college probably has all sorts of resources to help you out with whatever, but you need to take the initiative in going to them.
>For most of most peoples' lives we have to fit in what we want to do and learn in between mountains of garbage; you're entering one of the few situations that's actually designed to present opportunities straight to you. Make the most of it!
Seconding these. I would add, take part in as many internships, workshops, seminars as you can. Regardless of what course you're taking, you will learn more at these than at university.
Don't skip out on social events, especially during your first year. Obviously if you have an assignment due or you're sick, that's an acceptable excuse. Otherwise, go to as many things as you can, even if you have to force yourself. Having friends/acquaintances is (IMO) integral to enjoying your time at college, maintaining your mental health, and also helps in so many other ways. Check out as many clubs as you can, even if you're not 100% sure that you'd be interested in whatever the club is about.
If you couldn't tell, I have a few regrets about my freshman year.>>3952>>3956
I think this varies from person to person. There are definitely people out there who have the willpower and motivation to finish a degree in a subject they don't care for, but for other people that's a surefire way to flunk out of college.
I'm like that. It takes a lot for me to finish any kind of education course, and going to the university to study something I did not enjoy much just lead to me dropping out. You don't have to pick a dream subject, but it should be something that you can imagine yourself spending 10 years or more of your life on doing.
>>3958>Check out as many clubs as you can, even if you're not 100% sure that you'd be interested in whatever the club is about.
I also wish I did this freshman year. I did get into some things sophomore year thanks to one person who went out of his way to make friends with me. When I started trying some clubs I noticed a couple things that might have helped me not be such a shut-in if I knew them sooner.
People come and go from clubs throughout the year, but especially in the first week. If you're nervous about these kinds of things keep in mind that the first meeting of almost any club will be full of people that will never go again. It's a good time to blend in with the crowd and try new things without committing.
Similarly, almost everyone at the first couple meetings will be awkward as hell. Most freshmen will have the same feeling of being in a new and uncomfortable place with no friends. Even some upperclassmen will be a bit overwhelmed at the increased attendance. So don't worry too much about impressing anyone, because probably nobody will remember you the next week anyway.
Just don't waste your fucking time. My stint in college pretty much turned into Persona 5. Managing time thanks to the scheduling program the school uses, as well as looking into extracurricular like internships.
I Had it in my head that I would be getting a job during or right after school, and I probably could of. It was partially the core curriculum itself that had been holding me back, and partially personal issues. Needless to say, I wasn't going anywhere fast (or at all, really) and ended up wasting a year and a half in what would end up being review classes that for all intents and purposes only served as away to harvest funding from textbook and school supply sales.
TL;DR, i'm not saying drop out or anything, but make sure your getting the most out of the education that was sold to you. I can't really judge job prospects without know what you're going to school for, but, yeah.
Appending my earlier comment, I meant say "make sure your getting the most of what you spent on education" it is your/your parents money, and even public colleges are for profit, meaning your making a purchase.
One of the clubs I joined gave me such joy in a time where I was a total outcast everywhere else that I cannot suggest strongly enough that you at least try some. I just went and did the activity but they were truly wonderful to me and helped me feel part of the group. I was almost going to live with members of the club until I dropped out. For what was a year and a half of misery they gave me most of the few very happy memories.
Other than that I wont dare give advice since I Fucked it. :^)
I remember trying the anime club at my university, and absolutely hating it since people there thought Aria and YKK was absolutely boring. I kinda felt like an outcast in a group I thought would be more welcoming to my kind. Thankfully I now have sushichan and other cute boards. :3
The group I did end up with was a bit outside of my typical interests, but I still had a great time. Do try different groups.
Make as many friends as you can, many more opportunities come through weak relationships than you think.
Decide what your objectives are and stick to that. Don't let anyone else set your objectives for you.
Also, have fun!
I had a similar experience with my universities anime club. Most of the focus was on the current seasonal anime, and discussion of older and/or more niche shows was usually met with blank stares. Most of the people there were kind and welcoming, but it got a bit boring having to talk about the latest episode of My Hero Academia 24/7.
All this talk about anime clubs and university… whenever people IRL mention anime, such as people I've met in college, I pretend to not be interested in it, or even to not know what it is at all. It's because I think I'm too old to still be into it, and I also know that people who are into anime often have a tendency to be weird (no offense, but you know the bad examples I'm talking about). I try to have a more professional (and I guess boring) facade in real life, so my odd interests are confined to image boards.
Hell, I've even come across people who mentioned image boards in person before, and I feigned ignorance because I felt kind of embarrassed for knowing about these kind of awkward sites that have poor reputations among normal people.
Is it strange to do this?
Not strange, but unfortunate. I understand the need to hide the fact that you like anime, but if the person you're talking to is into it too then there is not a chance that they will look down on you for it. If it helps, when asked about anime you could say you've seen some ghibli movies. Most people have seen one so it's not weird to say, plus it gives you a chance to talk to the person.
I joined the anime club as well, though I didn't manage to fit in very well. I did meet an irl japanese weeb transfer student though who also didn't fit in well. I went now and then over the years but I didn't get much out of it. I think clubs which outgoing people do is actually good if you're socially awkward because they will be able to kinda do the stuff you can't for you. Whereas in a club full of autists people just keep to themselves and you end up alone.>>3995
I wouldn't say it's strange but it's probably shooting yourself in the foot a bit. Just remember that the majority of stigma against anime and imageboards is actually contained within the community itself. Outsiders neither know about it nor care.
If you are American, go onto College Board and CLEP test out of every class you can- the first two years of college just reteach high school stuff at a lower level. Save your brain the rot and save the cash.
Know what you have a base passion for. Mine was pussy and beer. After shitting around for a few years I dropped out and worked. Now I have a passion for cryptography and school has improved immeasurably. Knowing what you want and who you are is everything in these next few years of your life.
I was always afraid to ask "stupid questions" and by the time I finally gained the courage to ask them, I felt like I had left it too long. People often interpret being shy as you being rude or not caring about the course, so don't make the mistake I did.
Ask them a question after class, tell them you liked the topic they covered or drop into their office sometime. They're fantastic at remembering faces/names and if they think you're really engaged with the material or you have a passion for their module, they will remember it. It makes it a lot easier to approach them to ask questions. I know people who still regularly go for coffee and meet up with lecturers because they became good friends, it's really sweet.
>Make as many friends as possible
This is your chance to meet people because college gives you so many opportunities to! Join as many societies and sports teams as you can and make the effort to talk to everyone in your class, especially if they organise a night out. These are people you'll likely know for the rest of your life. Knowing more people means you're more likely to be invited to interesting things you wouldn't have otherwise heard of. My friend group was amazing and they organised study dates, shared their knowledge and reviewed each other's work, all of that is invaluable. I'm not sure if it's a thing elsewhere but here it's pretty common to set up a facebook group for the class. I made one for my class and it's a great, little-effort way to meet everyone because everyone will know who you are. It's like being a class rep without any of the responsibilities lol.
>Always attend class
Even if you don't feel like it. Even if it's boring. Even if you think you know everything already. Even if you're hungover. Even if you want to leave early on a Friday. Find out your "learning style" if you haven't already because you might learn by listening to the lecture or you might need to write things down to solidify them in your head or you might need a laptop to pull up some diagrams to help you. Once you know that, you'll never waste study time ever again. College hours are so easy and you probably won't appreciate it until you start work, lol. Use time between classes to study/do homework in the library so you can have your evenings free. It's even easier if you live on campus, I wish I had that privileged when I was in college.
College is hard. You're learning a lot of new material on top of how to write an essay, how to research properly, how to give a presentation, lots of lab work, plenty of early mornings and late coffee-fueled evenings, lots of assignments to keep on top of (even worse if you have to do teamwork…jesus) and it's *exhausting*. If you don't take care of yourself, it'll affect your work. Get all of your work done before you go home, even if you have to spend a few extra hours in the library. It means that you can spend your evening watching netlix or playing games guilt-free. Take up a relaxing activity (yoga, meditation, knitting, painting, walking shelter dogs, teaching something to children…whatever) and *stick with it*. You'll eventually look forward to your knitting class on a Tuesday evening. The best thing about college is that you'll find cool activities like this for either free or really cheap and you can put them down as interests on your CV. Society rooms are really nice to relax in, I spent most of my free time in my final year in my favourite society room.
And most importantly, have a good time because college is amazing.
Make friends with your classmates while everybody is new and before certain cliques and friendships form because it's a lot easier. Not that it's impossible later, it's just a lot easier at the beginning.
You don't have to go out to parties, drink and have sex to have fun. I spent the first few months at university like this and hated it. After that I found a small group of friends on the same degree as I and we enjoyed doing course work together.
Just do the things you want to do instead of the things you think you have to do to fulfill a stereotypical "college life".
Also, your professors write their own exams, ask them for a past paper and then ask them how they want their questions answered. This is something I didn't do until the final semester of my final year and I'm kicking myself for it, I found exams so difficult, not because the content was hard, but because I didn't know what information to include in my answers. For example in one of my classes a professor had like four types of questions, 80% of the marks were obtained by not even answering the question, if he didn't tell us how to answer his exam during a lecture one time I probably would've failed that class.
Don't waste your time. Actually learn what you are studying, don't just pass the exams. Well as long as it is meaningful enough. But even if it isn't, find your own books and sources to read and educate yourself. In philosophy, history, economics. The basics a very important part people miss. Learn about the world and learn to think and to be able to speak. Wasting time at school is almost a given for everyone, but in university you should really try to find in yourself the will to actually education yourself. Not for some job, but for your own betterment and fulfilment as a person. Though the confidence you are likely to find by actually knowing about the world and being able to converse with words that have weight, is something that will help you in any job or endeavour in life.
>>4134>Actually learn what you are studying, don't just pass the exams.
I'd say this is only good advice for core curriculum classes, not gen eds.
If you're studying computer science, for example, it makes more sense to spend your time passing the gen eds and then networking with people and building up a software portfolio instead of memorizing trivia about English literature or history or whatever. There's no benefit to putting in more time into the filler classes, just as long as you get decent grades and get the credit hours.
I used to have a 4.0 GPA and no life. Now I have a 3.5ish GPA and lots of projects and more friends. A lot of the benefit of learning in college isn't just classes, but the stuff you learn and experience outside of class: jobs, internships, group projects (especially ones for fun or learning, not for class assignments), etc.
>Not for some job, but for your own betterment and fulfillment as a person.
I disagree. Study for the field you want to work in. If you don't, keep in mind you'll be competing for jobs with people who are spending way more time on work-related experience and skills instead of being "well-rounded" or whatever.
Well I don't have filler classes and learning about the life of some writer is stupid shit, but reading the classics is not a bad thing at all, for example. I did say learn from your classes, so I am certainly not contradicting myself and saying "don't do that, be well rounded instead". But being well-rounded, an actually functional adult and not just living on automatic, can be surprisingly useful, But well, maybe such things work only with some people.
That said you seem way too eager to work and have a career. If you can actually have a reliable career aside, for what reason are you going to do this? To have a house and a car on mortgage and also maintaining a wife? Is it worth it? I am not an American, but if you are living in California or something you are probably already fucked in having your own home, which is not that special anyway. Living on default for your company, that doesn't give a shit for you, and a woman, that can easily throw you away, is pointless to me. I prefer a less stressful life that can maintain my hobbies. I don't need anything else.
Don't misunderstand me, I am not saying to waste his time in university at all. In fact if he is not studying something he is going to actually work, it is useless in my view. But as people we often way too empty when we go out in the world and we just let things happen to us. Bettering one's understanding of the human condition through the lens of our ancestors is a very priceless thing we can afford as modern humans. It is something that can give you a way of thinking and acting that many will wonder how you have achieved, but also be in awe of you. Well, I am maybe overselling it, but I am trying to say it has its benefits even in the strictly pragmatic sense. He can slowly do such things in the free time. Of course as long as he finds something related that he can enjoy. Maybe reading about philosophers of the past. Ancient myths or classical books. Or just some country or period in history he has interest in. There is a lot to do to broaden your view in a meaningful way.
meet people, party in moderation, and plan for life post university.
At 18-20 years old, you should be able to manage gen eds and a good lifestyle as long as you don't have to work to fund your education.